2007-09-25 18:36:35 · 7 answers · asked by raytmli 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What kind of games are you referring to? Like team sports? Football?
You just need to let your son/daughter know that is is okay if you don't win. I think that it must bother them to an extent but they understand, there is a winner and a loser. You can't always be the winner.
Motivation wise, all you can do is let them know how good they were. If your child says, "I sucked" or whatever, let them know that with each game, they can get better. Practice makes perfect, right?!
2007-09-25 18:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by eZonis34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
raytmli,
Focus on the learning instead of the success.
Talk to him about the learnings we can have from every experience and even the non- successful ones.
Tell him about your life and show him how much you learned from not succeeding and how this helped you be the person you are today.
Tell him about what Thomas Edison said when people asked him how he felt after so many flour attempts to find the wire for the light bulb " I never failed, I succeeded 1499 times to find what don't work"
There is no such a thing as failure only opportunities to learn
This understanding is an important factor in Emotional intelligence.
If he understand this, he will be very successful even after losing a game.
Ronit Baras
The Be Happy in Life coach
http://www.behappyinlife.com/kidscoaching.php
2007-09-26 02:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What games? Motivate the child to do what?
If he or she keeps losing these games, that should be pretty good motivation for more practice.
2007-09-27 20:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad for him/her. They sense that, and your reaction more than anything makes them feel one way or another. Make sure he/she has fun in the process. The pressure to perform and not dissappoint can actually influence outcome. If he/she fails - so what? The joy should be in the sport, the event, the process. Let him/her lose and you be okay with it. Be proud of them for trying. Trying and failing and trying again builds character. Trying and feeling the constant threat of shame and disappointment will breed issues. Be okay with failure at athletic skill, but share with them the feelings of pride you have that they are going out there, trying and having fun....Remind your child to enjoy the positive aspects: teamwork, work ethic, developing skills at a personal pace. Good luck!
2007-09-26 01:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Motivate? What games? You want to motivate your child to play games he loses? Maybe he's playing the wrong games. Try something else. Or maybe another type of activity instead of games. How about puzzles, rollerskates, reading books, jumping rope, painting, coloring, playing catch?
2007-09-26 01:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are they actually enjoying the games? you dont say how old your child is...but for me, imo, the younger ones should be playing games just to play, to learn how to take turns and to learn how to be a graceful loser...not playing to win at any cost... why is it important for your child to win at games? the point of games is to have fun
2007-09-26 01:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by unimatrix_42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
piano lessons are where it's at
2007-09-26 01:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋