What are your best tips for dealing with criticism from other people?

Answer 1

I always look at the credibility of the messenger. Criticism from a dear friend is quite different than accepting criticism from a control-freak co-worker. Just stay calm, if you feel that some of their feedback is true, then just listen. If you feel that they are criticizing just to be difficult, ask them to lay off, change the subject, or walk away.

Answer 2

Firstly, learn to judge yourself. Know whether you are doing good or bad.

At work there will be many people who criticize you. Managers who are insecure, and can only get out of bed if they feel everyone who works for them is an idiot. There are people who will get angry because you do the job quickly and correctly and they do it slowly and incorrectly. There will be people who just hate everyone. There will those who criticize you for not doing it the same way as was done before, even if you are doing it better.

then there will be real information that helps you improve.

When you learn to tell the different between them you can improve yourself and feel better.

You must also realise that some criticism is real, that you are not doing a good job. But maybe you can't do it properly yet, what really matters is that you are getting better and better each day.

Answer 3

#1: LISTEN! Lots of people listen to the criticism but get so wrapped up in getting defensive that they really don't take the time to analyse what they're hearing. Some criticism will be wrong...and in some of it may be put nastily...but always watch for that note of truth. You need to try and see yourself as other's see you and improve things that need it.

#2: On the other hand, don't take it so personal! People have opinions and what one person might consider wrong or annoying, another person might like. It's always best to take criticism with "a grain of salt". You might also consider the motives of the person doing the critisizing! Does this person have anything to gain by putting you down and making you feel bad, or are they genuinely concerned for you and want to help you improve something?

#3: Get a second opinion. If someone says you're rude in public, ask someone else close to you to be totally honest and if they say yes, you are rude, then you need to examine yourself and determine how to fix it! But don't just take one person's word for it.

#4: In situations involving employment, always make sure the criticism is taken seriously if it's your boss. A lot of time what you might consider criticism, they might consider a "verbal warning", which is the first step in any disciplinary procedure. So if your manager says you need to be more freindly to customers, take them seriously and learn to smile more! On the other hand, if a co-worker says this, get that second opinion and make sure this person isn't just jealous and trying to put you down to make themselves feel better.

Bottom line: there is "constructive criticism" and then there's just meanness. You figure out which is which and try to accept any flaws you can't change, because none of us are perfect!

Answer 4

First, go ahead and feel bad for awhile if your feelings have been hurt. I hate getting criticized and almost always feel crushed at first, but after I take some time to let the feelings get less intense, I can then be ready to consider what was said more objectively. Listen carefully to the criticism and consider whether any of it was justified. No one is perfect, and even if we don't like to hear about it, criticism can give us a chance to improve in some areas. Try to be objective about this though. Don't try to change just to gain someone else's approval--really look at your performance and see if you agree that something needs to be changed. Finally, consider the source. Does it come from someone you know to be controlling, interfering, negative, or from someone whose ideas you generally respect? In either case, once you have gotten some distance, try to keep it from affecting you personally, so you can continue to be gracious in your relationship with the person who criticized you. Were they having a bad day? Are they in a position to evaluate you and (you feel) were wrong about you? Does your job depend on their opinion of your performance? These are all matters to take into consideration as you respond to the criticism.

Finally, when relating with the person, it shows great maturity if you can come back to them and say something like, "After thinking about what you said, I can see that you were right about..." and show that you can accept input and improve your performance, even at the expense of your pride. You may not agree totally or even mostly with what was said, but find the point that you can agree about and focus only on that.

On the other hand, if it is just constant criticism that attacks you for no reason, let the person know that you won't accept all their negativity. If possible limit your involvement with that person, if they refuse to respect your request to stop.

Answer 5

If it is constructive criticism, listen and learn from it. Pay attention to where the criticism comes from. If it's from a credible source and from someone looking out for your well being you should listen. Otherwise, ignore it and move on.

Also, you should look at criticism as a critic of a quality about you and don't take it personally because criticism is usually not meant to be a character assassination, unless it's from a malicious source.

Answer 6

The best way is to try to ignore them, I know this sounds old but it is. Try to find a stress reliever, or something that you look forward coming home to. I know criticism, I had to deal with it all my life. It hurts a lot but when go through adversity, and come out okay. It really makes you a better person.

Answer 7

1. Reverse psychology to their remark with a smile and walk away.
2. Ignore, and continue on with what ever you are doing.
3. Respond with: "God bless you too." Smile and go on with your business.

All of these have worked for me in the past. But certain people continued to criticize whenever they could. I repeated the same as usual and it eventually stopped. But the best thing to do is to invision Jesus Christ in the presence of the situation. Ask yourself what would He do? And let yourself be guided. Remember He is always about ( good ) not evil. I am practicing this one in my life now since I have aged and matured. For God's word say: Vengeance's is mine." If you believe then it will be done.
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Answer 8

take it as a learning opportunity. when youre criticized its too easy to be defensive instead of open minded. really take the time to listen to what is being said and who it is coming from and wether or not you have ever heard it before from OTHERS. and also reply with a thank you or an ok...if its rude and you fell offended...kill them with kindness...if its constructive say thank you and ill take that into consideration or ill think about what you said. dont jump down throat right away...unless you honestly and personally believe there is a VERY good reason to do so.

Answer 9

Everyone has an opinion so don't worry about it. What may be good for some is not always good for another. If you feel at peace w/ whatever decision you are making, than go with it. You know what is best for you, if you let someone talk you out of something, than you don't know yourself. Everybody makes mistakes, if you never make any on your own, you will never grow. Goodluck!!!!

Answer 10

Believe in yourself and KNOW who you are. Nobody can change that. In other words, ignore them!

Now, if they are criticising you for something that needs to be changed, that's another story. Step back and take a look at yourself. Who are you? Who do you want to be? Make it happen.