Tonight i took my four year old to the carnival. When we were there my son hit it off with a couple of boys and ended up playing with them all night. They were very nice and he got along with them great. He doesn't get a whole lot of exposure with other kids, i am a stay at home mom and he doesn't go to daycare...Long story short, at the end of the night i asked her if she would like to let them play and she wasn't overly excited about it, not rude though. She told us her name and said to look her up. Anyway, was it rude of me??
2007-09-25 17:54:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Not at all, what great initiative you had for getting the courage to actually ask!!
If she really wasn't interested, she wouldn't have given her name or she would have given you a fake name (have you looked her up yet?)
Her response may have been due to having a bad moment, maybe someone had just stepped on her foot running past or she'd just t old one of the kids off - her response may not have been deliberately off-handed.
Look her up and explain who you are and mention that you hope she really doesn't mind you calling and then explain your situtation like you have in your question.
Great Work. Good Luck! :D
2007-09-25 19:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was rude of you to ask.
I think that she was just being a cautious parent and in today's world, unfortunately for us all; caution is important.
You could wait a couple of days and look up her phone number and give her a call, and invite her and her children to meet you and your son in a local park or playground.
This would give the children another chance to play together and give you and their Mom a bit more time to make friends and learn a bit more about each other.
I would not be inviting her and her children to my home until I knew her a bit longer. You could talk about your kids and where they go to school and if you work, just to see if you are going to hit it off or not.
She may be the type of friend that you can become a good friend with or she may be an acquaintance, and you can continue to meet in order for the kids to play together.
Good luck, I hope that you have all made some new friends.
2007-09-25 18:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was rude of you at all, but to be honest, I might have reacted the same way. I'm really busy and I hate to arrange anything in advance - it's just the way I am. I'm also a little on the shy side so it's not easy for me to make new friends. I think something like this is hit and miss - sometimes you'll meet a great new friend, other times you won't. You are right to try though.
2007-09-25 18:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jenm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it was not rude of you at all, it was friendly and taking a chance : ) My neighbour is very much like that and she is a very social person, she got me out of my social phobia. If the lady tried to blow you off just don't worry about her, if anything she was a little bit rude although she may just be busy and have a lot of friends already for her kids to play with. If you want there is no harm in looking her up and giving her a call, she could be in a better mood the next time you speak and you could become friends. I like your attitude, you seem like a nice friendly person, wish you would come up to me lol
2007-09-25 18:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you are rude. She is probably just being cautious, she doesn't know you and your boy. Take it slowly. She might have had some bad experiences in the past, give it time, little by little. Or she could just feel so busy. Invite her and her boys out to a playground sometime, a neutral place where they can all let off steam. Take a cake along and a flask of coffee. It could be a good icebreaker.?
2007-09-25 18:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sally 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all.. You were thinking of the children.. I think what she did was rude...I understand how you feel 100% that has happend to me before.. But children make friends so easy, they play with other kids at parks and things like that, so take your son out more and he will be fine.. The more you take him out I am sure you are gonna find a mom who wants to get the kids together.. Best of luck to you. Are you in california??
2007-09-25 18:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was rude at all. I'm guessing the conversation went something to the effect of "Hi I'm *insert name*. It looks like our kids hit it off pretty good. Maybe we could meet up at *insert name* Park so they could play together some time." or some something like that. I don't have kids of my own (unless you count my dogs who are currently for all intents and purposes my babies) so I'm stabbing in the dark a bit but I don't see how it could be rude to suggest a playdate in the future.
2007-09-25 18:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by TheBlackRose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really rude, but she doesn't know you from a hole in the ground! You could be anybody! Usually the parents get to know each other before letting their children play together! What are you thinking, mom? Have her over for coffee, maybe. Ease into things.
2007-09-26 09:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure not rude of you! That is the best way to have your kids make friends when they are that age. I have no idea why she would have acted that way. You for sure were not in the wrong!
Anyway, way to go for being such a good mom, and thinking about your 4 year old. I bet he loves having such a great Mommy!
Oh and cute picture... LOL.... great minds think alike!
2007-09-25 17:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by think about that~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you mean to let the kids continue their play that evening? No it wasn't rude. Not at all. She might have been tired herself, or needed to get her kidos home for the night and that might have been why she wasn't excited, or showed enthusiasm. She was probably just tired. I would look her up and may be invite them over for a play date, or meet up at the park one afternoon. :-)
2007-09-26 04:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by lady_bella 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋