i was in a bad relationship for years i loved my husband but was tired of the abuse. i was planning on leaving, when he abruptly died. even though we had our problems i still miss him and love him. i cry every day i dont know from guilt of wanting to leave him or the fact he is gone. i know now im lonely and am wondering how soon is too soon to date
2007-09-25 17:46:34 · 7 answers · asked by welder1156 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED
properly
2007-09-25 17:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you feel like your life would be complete even without a guy, then you're ready to date. Take care of you first, get your feet on solid ground or you'll end up with another abuser. As far as how much time is considered appropriate, that's really noone's business but your own. Just don't rush into a relationship because you're lonely. That's a recipe for a bad relationship. Give yourself time to heal and turn to friends and family for companionship in the meantime.
2007-09-26 00:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by em T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welder it all depends on when you feel the time is right. Some folks wait only a couple of months and others may wait a couple of years or more. If you feel that the grieving process is over then it may be the right time to find a new partner or at least a friend to share time with. If others were aware of the abuse then they would be very supportive of you attempting to carry on as soon as possible. If however nobody knew of the abuse then there may be some talk if you go out too soon. Bottom line though is that your happiness is number one and so when you feel time is right then it probably will be the right time.
2007-09-26 00:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... you have a lot to process. I would suggest that dating might be okay, but you don't want to get too serious about someone or you will wind up in the same situation before your husband died. I would suggest some counseling first... and wait until you have healed your heart, figured out what it is that attracted you to an abusive relationship, and learn to change YOU so that you don't make the same mistakes twice.
2007-09-26 00:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More importantly you must watch for falling into another one of an abusive relationship like the one that just ended for you. Sort yourself out first by yourself and not with help from your next 'soul mate.'
2007-09-26 00:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by System07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how long ago it was when your husband
passed away,if it was only afew short weeks ago id take it
very slowly,even though you said that you love and you still
miss him,the thing is do you WANT TO start dating again
can YOU be sure the next person is just as abusive as your
ex was,be very very carefull, if you have children then it
could affect them as their father is not there and they could
rebel against another man in your life and theirs as well!
2007-09-26 01:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by menace2dennis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you're ready.
2007-09-26 00:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by NONAME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋