i just found out my dad cheated on my mom?

Question

i dont know what to do, ive got a million different emotions pulling me in different directions,anger, hurt, shock, what do i do?

Answer 1

i would tell your mom first then your friends. and if your mom does not believe tell the authorities. if you want to talk e mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 2

Stay out of it and allow your parents to work their way through it if they can. Fact of live is that he is and will always be your father. Because he was unfaithful to your mother doesn't mean that he was unfaithful with you also, although I'm sure that it must feel like that. Although there is no excuse for cheating on your partner perhaps there is more going on in your folks relationship than you are aware of. If you feel a need to talk with someone then go and either talk with your doctor or a counsellor at your school. Hopefully they will give you some time to unload all these mixed up emotions that you are experiencing at present. Best of luck to all involved.

Answer 3

Dear tmhangel, Cekker Kwann sayz;

A long time ago, when I was a very young man in the military I got a call in the early morning hours from my mother. She was crying uncontrolably and in a state! After calming her down a bit, she told me she had caught my dad in the throws of a sorted afrair. My task was to come home and help relocate my offending father to his own quarters some distance away!

I gathered myself and a few quick travel items and drove to see my parents. As you can quess, there were solid walls of silence between them when I arrived to move my dad to his own place, which was hastly procured for him by my mom.... I felt as you discribe! Filled with every sort of emotion.

First, its not your fault this has happened. Second, its not your fault this has happened, and third.... it's not your fault this happened! Now that you have that thought firmly planted in your heart, you can move forward to find the answers.... Not for your parents, but for yourself.... You will need to talk to your local priest or pastor. If you are not comfortable doing that, then maybe you can talk to your siblings about it and get their insights, especially if they are older then you..

The bottom line is, don't try to carry this round on your own shoulders!!!! There is help and answers for you..... I hope this will give you a start in the right direction.

Answer 4

I understand how you feel my moms soon to be ex husband thank God he isnt my real dad but he cheated on her and I was furious I did end up taking it out on him and whipping him around the house but didn't solve anything or my moms crushed heart all I could do is just hold my mom when she cried is all I could do.

So just be there for her and comfort her, I know seeing her cry and so hurt is a painful thing to deal with but just hang in there and be there for her :)

Answer 5

Just sit down and talk to them about how you are feeling! If your mom forgave him them they should be able to answer your questions!! I was mad, hurt, and shocked when I found out that my dad cheated as well but I also loved him!! I never forgave him for doing that since me and mom are so close!:) So just express your feeling and the pain may go away!!:)

Answer 6

You should talk to your dad privately about what you found out. How did you find out? Does your mom know? If your mom doesn't know you could give him the chance to tell her. It would probably be better that way.
If your mom knows then she has made the decision to forgive him and it's their marriage and you'll have to accept that, even if you disagree with her decision.

Answer 7

OK, make sure this did happen. DON'T assume (personal exp) talk to a family member. If you tell your mom then she is going to be crushed. However, she has a right to know. Talk to your dad and let him know what you heard or seen and how it made/makes you feel. Get to the source and see if it's actual then if so I would go to dad and let him know that you are going to talk with your mother...YOU don't need to ve the one who breaks the ice....Let your dad be a MAN and tell her!!!

Hugs to you!!
Good Luck!!

Answer 8

Alow your self to feel these emotions. Tell your dad and or mom how you feel. But remember they are your parents, and in the end how they deal with it is on them.

Answer 9

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