Is it Okay for a 19 year old to date a 26 year old?

Question

Im a guy and im 19 and Im really interested in asking this 26 year old girl on a date. But I think im over analyazing the fact that im unable to go to bars and stuff of that nature yet. I mean Im not a big partier as it is and im told im mature for my age but im still leery on the situation. Plus im going to be a Doctor and still have 8 years of school left and shes already in her career.
All my friends are telling me that shes ready to settle down at 26 and shell want kids and things of that nature. I think im ready for the challenge. So if you have any help or advice please dont hesitate to write it down. Thanks

Answer 1

I have seen it work the other way...26 year old guy 19 year old girl...go for it

Answer 2

This is not a huge age difference. You'll be 21 soon so don't sweat the part about drinking.
Families can derail careers. This has to be thought about carefully and discussed honestly. She'll still be in her early 30's by the time you get out of medical school. The other thing to consider is that being a doctor puts a big strain on a marriage, as professional duties are very demanding. I'd reccomend a field like dermatology, where there are no weekend emergencies.

Answer 3

I advise you don't do it. Although you maybe mature, the 26 year old may be immature. As you get older you will likely not care for her, at least that was my experience. I dated someone for numerous years who was ten years older than myself. It had its appeal at first and then his immaturity or dysfunctions were revealed. I now see that I wasted my time and am embarrassed that I ever dated and lived with him a person that much older than myself. There are more differences than I can explain even at seven years difference. I would resist this temptation. You have a lot going for you. If you question this then there is a good reason to stay away from her. There are a lot of other girls out there.

Answer 4

Oh, I've seen this scenario over and over. They get together. They live together for about 10 years, sometimes married or sometimes not, sometimes they have kids or sometimes not. Then at about 10 years into the relationship, she starts getting freaky and feeling trapped and she just has to get out of there. Usually he holds on but the relationship ends anyway, bitterly for both. Why? The task of growing up is to learn to stand on your own two feet. The appeal of the older man is that he is a substitute parent, providing safety and security. And he plays that part .. he enjoys being in charge and guiding you to do this and that. But as the you move into your later 20's, you start feeling like breaking away from this "father" and you start asserting your independence. Maybe you don't want to do everything he tells you, the way he tells you ... maybe you want to do things your own way. Well, it just doesn't go over well. The real b*tch about it is this safety-seeking thing all happens on an unconscious level and you aren't even aware of it .. until suddenly you can't stand his face anymore. Yes, I've seen this countless time. I guess you are the next one up to the plate, eh? Once you are in your mid-20's or later, it's no big deal. But at this point in your life, it's most unlikely to turn out well. By the way ... the only thing that love does is draw two people and make them want to be together. But if they do not have sufficiently-good relationship skills or are not emotionally-mature enough, their relationship will not work out. Love is NOT what it takes ... it only sets the stage. And the highest divorce rates occur when people have NOT lived on their own first, for a minimum of 5 years. I doubt that you have lived on your own and been self-supporting for 5 years ... right? A divorce waiting to happen.

Answer 5

If you are ready to handle a commitment like that with someone who is ready to settle down then go for it! I think a lot of older girls look for a younger guy but its hard when the guys are always going to parties and hooking up with girls. The fact that you have your head on straight by staying out of the party scene and having a great plan of being a doctor would problably be a turn on. I would go for it and give it a chance!

Answer 6

I have a personal thing about young guys dating older girls, I always find that a bit weird, but other than that, I think it is fine as long as she is okay with that. You have to be ready for the fact that in a couple of years she may want marriage and then kids... will you be able to handle kids and school?

Answer 7

well, they're are a lot of angles to look at in this situation. are you really ready for kids? do you have a steady job to support your self and so on...? when she's 50 you'll only be 43. but your obviously mature for your age. so i say go for it. if you can be with a 26 year old, that's great =] i say good luck to you and i hope it all works out. p.s if it doesn't work out, you always learn from your mistakes

Answer 8

well since youre probably a sophomore in college, its probably not the best idea to date a 26 yr old. I mean by the time youre actually ready to settle down, she'll have started a family. Youre young, dating a girl whos actually in college, youll have more in common with her.

Answer 9

well ok if u two are on the same level
and u think things are going great i see
nothing wrong with it other than law
but there isnt even a law b/c ur over 18
so i say go for it...
but as for the kids part u might be to young for that
but hey u say ur ready 4 the challenge

Answer 10

If you are happy with the situation and she is agreeable - go for it. There was a woman on Dr. Phil's show who was 62 tears old. Her 'significant other' was 28. They had been together for several years. He told them [and the daughter who instigated the whole complaint] that if they were happy with the arrangement, stay with it and that it really was no ones business but their own. I agree with what he told them - -