I am heart broken, my daughter spent 4 days with grandma -and when they asked her if she was ready to come home she cried and screamed" NO!" This cannot be normal-she should have missed her brothers and I- What is going on?????????????
2007-09-25 15:11:29 · 20 answers · asked by moni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'd say she got spoilt rotten at grandmas and she knows when she goes home all will be normal again.
My daughter does that once a week when i pick her up from pre school cause shes having so much fun.
You are a good mum ( a bad mum wouldn't care about this reaction or seek advice) and i'm sure your daughter loves you, but at three their egocentric way of thinking doesn't allow her to see it hurts your feelings when she wants to stay.
I'm sure she did miss you,
Take care,
2007-09-25 15:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by akdawswon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how old or mean the teacher is, your daughter earned her grade. The teacher ididn't "drop her grade from a 90 to a 50". You kid gave herself the grade. Your daughter probably is just used to being "the perfect angel" and always being good in school. She tripped a little on her math and is upset with herself. All kids trip on their work sometimes. The "X" she forgot is probably worth everything. If you get a problem right, for example, you just forgot the negative sign, it is wrong. It isn't just a little sign it's a whole not of numbers. -5 is a lot different than plain 5. Be greatful that she has a chance to redue it. In high school she won't be able to redo it. The teacher gave her a detention because, even if it was unfair according to your daughter, she earned it. Skipping it will just put her on the bad side of the teacher and earn her more detentions. if she forgot a variable on all 160 problems, all 160 are wrong. That just adds a zero into her grades, which is probably what brought it down. If you really need to hear an explanation, talk to the teacher. Even if she is a strick one, the teacher didn't do anything wrong. Your daughter had the wrong doing here, and I'm sure she knows this, and she;s just upset with herself. I'm a mom to a 13 year old girl. The geometry (a 10th grade course for an 8th grader, mind you. And she's already done the 11th grade course) teacher she has would NEVER let her redue something she got wrong. Her last test was 33%. Her grade is a 70% and she's in 5th in her class and extacic with what she's doing. The math work is only going to get harder. Be glad she can get her grade up because the work probably isn't that tough. Good luck.
2016-05-18 22:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be heartbroken,
know that she is loved.
She just likes all the extra attention,
and special treatment.
That's what Grandma's do. :-)
Go get her.
Let her get use to seeing you there.
After awhile, talk to her alone.
Tell her somethings that have been going
on at home.
Tell her how much everyone misses her.
How the Boys are waiting for both of you to
come home, so you can bake cookies.
( buy some cookies... something ).
Then take her home.
Throughout the week quietly talk to her.
Pay attention to how the Brothers are treating her.
Sometimes boys can play
alittle, hmmm.. rough.
Watch and see.
She might need more Mommy time.
Three is young, not a Baby,
but still not a Big Kid.
2007-09-25 16:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 3 year old only remembers of having fun at grandma house. The days that your cute little child spent at grandma house was fun, and has little knowledge of your house. When your child comes home and looks around the house. Your child says 'oh yeah, I have this to play with at my own home'
If your child was 10 years old, then you should feel insulted, but don't feel hurt. The 3 year old mind is limited in compare to a 10 year old.
2007-09-25 15:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's tough, but what were they thinking asking a child if she wanted to go home, of course she will say no she just spent 4 days being spoiled by the grandparents. Just take her home. I think it was very poor judgment in asking the child.
2007-09-25 15:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by lucidwillow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's just being a three year old....a little angry at Mommy for leaving for four days and wanting a little payback, secretly she can't wait to see you, so stop being heartbroken! The only other thing I can think is that perhaps her brothers have been treating her badly and she got the royal treatment at Grandma's?
2007-09-25 15:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter was with her grandparents on her own. She had all the attention. Of course when asked, she said no and cried.
With children you don't ask them if they want to come home. You let them know when it is time to do so.
Remember, you are the parent.
2007-09-25 15:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 things: 1: if you yell at her she will NOT want to come home. 2: her brothers may pick on her and tease her. 3: if those are not the cases than she just enjoys being with grandma more, maybe cuz grandma spoils her more than you do?
2007-09-25 15:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by Hunny b 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please don't feel hurt. Your child just feels good, safe and comfortable around a grandmother. Let your grandma spoil her if need be. That's what makes them so wonderful. It will hurt your daughter if you keep her away from her grandma to the point she will resent you. This is normal so let it be.
2007-09-25 15:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by mary 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok . . . she just became attached to her grandmother. Maybe she gave her a lot of attention, not that you don't or anything, but she probably had more time to do so. But this happens a lot with young children. Just take her home and she'll be ok when she wakes up in the morning!
2007-09-25 15:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋