Ok, me and my bf have been dating for almost a month now. He usually calls me at least 2 times or more a day. Today, he didnt call me all day. When I called him in the evening, he said he had a busy day and was unable to call me. Is this a bad sign? How often should guys call their gf??
2007-09-25 14:06:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you are DATING -->> you are SINGLE.
When you are in a RELATIONSHIP -->> you are NOT.
For a number of reasons, if you are still only "dating" then you need to not EVER complain about how often he calls you, because a guy has not reached the point where he is OBLIGATED to call you AT ALL.
Most MEN (who really know what they are doing in the dating scene - yes including myself) will never step into a relationship (or call her a "Girlfriend") FOR AT LEAST THREE MONTHS.
This first 3 months of "dating", THAT is the period of time in which a guy is trying to SEE if he is interested in getting into "a relationship" with her . . . . OR NOT. Its really a BAD idea to "FALL" into one.
He is NOT in a "relationship" with you until you have BOTH agreed to talk about only looking to each other for fulfillment. If ONE of you is NOT prepared to do that, then it is NOT a "relationship".
Furthermore . . . . During AT LEAST the first 3 months of "dating" he should NOT CALL her or see her more than ONCE, or TWICE a week.
Women often THINK they are a 'in a relationship' when a guy STARTS ACTING LIKE HE IS IN ONE. And your guy has already been calling you - and seeing you - WAY TO OFTEN. It's NO WONDER that you think it's a "problem" when he doesn't call.
But it's NOT.
In fact, I am surprised you don't already think of him as "NEEDY" if he called you at least TWICE - OR MORE - a day and you have only been dating less than a MONTH.
Think about it.
Cheers.
:)
2007-09-25 14:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the problems girls fuss about a lot. If I were you, I wouldn't worry just because he didn't call you for a day. Some people have busy lives, so let them have some space and time. You don't want your bf to think you're desperate. I'm sure he was just extremely busy and was too tired or forgot about calling you. At least he calls you 2 times a day...
2007-09-25 14:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mantastic is right. You are not in a relationship yet. You are just beginning to explore this new person. You shouldn't freak out if he fails to call you one day. And calling him to see why he didn't makes you appear needy, which is a big turnoff to guys. You should act like you didn't even notice he didn't call you one day -- and you shouldn't be expecting him to call everyday either. You should be busy with you own life, friends, activities, career, etc. Being engaged with life and being happy and fulfilled are the most attractive attributes you can have.
Waiting around for a guy to call and then being pissed that he didn't is not at all attractive.
2007-09-25 21:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by Frances 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i had a bf i would only want him to call like once a day, more often than that i wouldn't like that. i need space.. so i think your making too big of a deal out of this.
2007-09-25 14:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not a guy...but I don't think its that much of a big deal. If he calls you twice a day...I think thats good.....not sure tho :)
good luck
2007-09-25 14:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think thats bad. He was busy. See how tomorrow goes, if it gets less and less than you know. But just from that, I wouldn't think so.
2007-09-25 14:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i may not call her every day but i sms her awake every morning and speak to her as often as possible ---- there are no rules in any relationship --- why not trust him and see what happens ---- best wishes
2007-09-25 14:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋