How do you help someone with anti-social behaviour disorder ?

Question

He is trying to change and he is my husband.

anti social personality disorder

Answer 1

I believe this is the same thing as a sociopath! This person has no conscience or sense of morality. He will hurt others and think he has a right to. Many times they try to mimic real emotions, but they are not capable of feeling real emotions except anger. Maybe they feel sorry for themselves. Many of your serial killers are sociopaths. They are not able to feel sorrow or remorse and will continue to hurt others without any feeling of guilt what so ever. Let me give you an example; they could do away with a person and have lunch as if nothing has happened! I hope this is not what your husband has, but if it is........ go now while there is yet time to get away! You would not want to be his next victim. That is my advice to you! Ask his doctor what this diagnosis means. Look it up for yourself. Do not be so naive to think he will change......if this is what he is has he cannot change!

May the Lord bless you and keep you safe!

Answer 2

Antisocial personality disorders are considered one of the most difficult of all personality disorders to treat. People who suffer from the condition rarely seek treatment on their own and may only seek therapy when directed by a court. They may abuse or neglect to take any prescribed medications. In general, there has been little success in treating people with antisocial personality disorder, but there are approaches that may help alleviate symptoms:

Medications. People with antisocial personality disorder often suffer from associative conditions such as anxiety, depression, other mood disorders and substance abuse. Doctors may prescribe antidepressant or antipsychotic medications to help alleviate these conditions. Unfortunately, many people with antisocial personality disorder don't take their medications as prescribed.
Psychotherapy. This therapy can help people with antisocial personality disorder develop appropriate interpersonal skills and instill a moral code. A critical part of this therapy is developing and maintaining a strong therapist-patient relationship. This can be challenging, as the person is often angry, emotionally unstable, interpersonally inappropriate and prone to impulsive behavior. In some cases, doctors suggest group and family therapy when individual therapy has not been successful.
In some cases, where there's a risk of self-harm or harm to others, people with antisocial personality disorder may need hospitalization and supervision at all times.

If you're a friend or family member of someone with antisocial personality disorder, it's important to learn to communicate with the person in a clear and nonpunitive manner, and help set definitive rules for social interactions.

Answer 3

So, you're getting lots of ideas, I see.

Sounds like he's been to a psychiatrist/psychologist already.
That's wonderful he's trying to change.
Old behaviors are hard to break.
They must be replaced with new behaviors.

If he's up to it, ask him if he will first go to the local movie theatre with you, once a week. This way, he's out in public, but not required to have too much interaction with others.
Baby steps. Remember, it's baby steps.

For him to want to change, you are blessed, my friend.

What did the person who diagnosed him with the antisocial personality, say? Did they make any suggestions?

Tell your husband you are happy and will support him in every way, as he makes attempts not to isolate, and not to despise those who don't have the same problem as himself.

I see others telling you not to put up with that behavior. If you see him not wanting to change, that's when it's your choice to live that way, or not. --- But if you are telling the truth here, kiddo, encourage him to make a habit of going somewhere outside of the home with you, at least once a week. Then more, as he becomes comfortable.

Good luck, and God bless you both.

Answer 4

How to Deal With Someone That Has O.C.D. (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) :

First, you have to be really patient with the person in general. Usually someone with OCD has Major mood swings because they are angry at how people keep telling them they are crazy, or because their obsessiveness and perfectionism stresses them out.

If you feel really bothered by the way they behave, you want to tell them very carefully and with caution that they are taking things to seriously and that you know they can't control it but that they are hurting others by paying more attention to something they don't even know why they are obsessing over.

If they don't listen to you and become aggrivated, ask someone else to do it, because then the more people talking to the person, the more motivated the person will feel about how they are letting others down. Suggest something to them, like a therapist or a medication of some sort.

Take their mind of the the obsession. We usually like to bother my mom to take us somewhere, like the mall, so that she will put her Swiffer down and go have something to do with her kids.

wish you the good luck

http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Someone-That-Has-O.C.D.-%28Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder%29

Answer 5

It must be hard for you too and there are support groups out there for you, if you wanted to seek one down.
Al-Anon would probably help in alot of ways, but you could ask them what else is available.

Since he is trying to change now, grab him whilst you can as he needs guidance to help him do this, someone such as a psyciatrist or psycologist to set him attainable goals that he can stick to and someone to see regularly, so he is answerable to them and great when he overcomes some maybe small to us thing, and him and his psyc can talk about and deal with any issues that arise.

This may be of interest to you;

Antisocial behavior
Answers to questions on Conduct Disorders, Behavorial Issues & More
emotional.health.ivillage.com

Answer 6

All you have to do is an internet search on Personality Disorders. There's alot of information available on line.

Answer 7

This is just one of many diagnoses given to my eldest child. We tried everything, even ignore the bad behavior, that is hard to do, because ignoring it only made it worse and she acted out.

Her and I eventually parted ways. She would act in ways that was bad for all of our health.

I truly wish I could give you some advice to help,but I tried everything and everything I tried would cause her to retaliate in an untrue way. (telling lies, horrible lies)

If I would not give into her wants (no matter how horrible they were) She would find other people to try to force us to give into her ways, and someone in our family, home, friends or neighbor's would suffer her anger, just to get at me. (Not all things she asked for was bad, just wrong time to ask when she was grounded.)

For the sake of our other children, and everyone else around us we were forced to leave her behind, and move to another state (s).

Take what you learn from this, and speak out. Then maybe more people will listen. You see they always hurt the ones they love, because they assume we will always be there, and never understand the reasons we had to leave.

Edited:
majnun99 thank you, my baby girl was started showing all those signs ate age 4 1/2, was diagnosed at age 6, and has NEVER been sorry for anything she did. She has changed not just her name, but EVERYTHING about herself.

Answer 8

i would suggest going to the library and checking out some books, maybe going to see a counselor if you are already seeing one.

but keep trying to get him to get out and be around people, probably people he would relate to. for example, if he's not the kinda guy who would go out drinking and dancing all night, don't try taking him to a bar if he's got an anti-social problem. i don't have an anti-social problem but if i go places where i would never fit in, i get uncomfortable, and that really would not be helpful for him

but the more you talk about it and the more you try to get out there the better you'll get. it's just like training. the more you do it the better you'll get at it

good luck!

Answer 9

i had something like this also but mine was very different . I was starting to fish pills 2 of each and some how i was starting too feel better. The fish pills called Alta labs of Canada wild sea Salmon oils enriched with fish oils pills and efamol Ffalex pill, thats is good for the brains and eyes you can get them at a Healths store in Canada if its does not work then he shold see a dr.

Answer 10

This is a hard question to answer. He might have to seek professional help. Sometimes you can do all you can do. Sometimes he could be playing you. Seek the Dr. thing. See what happens.