I thouoght this was special......What do you think?

Question

I have been saving for an engagement ring for several months, planning to propose to my gf of 4 yrs at around Christmas time. I was planning on getting a 3/4 princess cut in white gold as this is waht she had told me she wanted. Well today my 97 year old granmother (that raised me since I was two and I love to death) offered to give me her engagemnt ring to give to my gf. Her and my mother aboslutly adore my gf and they both thought it would be really special. At first I thought it was a really great idea, its around 3/4 carot with two little diamonds on the side, with a platinum band. But the question is....do you think she would feel resentful that I didn't get her something unique for her? In other words will she think I am skimping by giving her my grandma's ring? She knows how much I care for her, and she really likes my grandms. Now I would feel bad to turn my grandma down but don't want to hurt my gf. What should I do?

Answer 1

I would have loved to have had an heirloom ring, especially if the family member speficically offered it to my htb to give to me. That shows that your grandmother cares about this fine young woman you have chosen.

Either way, she will love it because she loves you.

Answer 2

You know your girlfriend better than we do. Is she the kind of person who values sentiment and heirlooms, or one who doesn't put much stock in that sort of thing. (There's no bad or good here - just what is.)

If she is, she would treasure a ring that had a family history more than a new ring. Grandma's ring would have the uniqueness of it's history, even if the piece of jewellery itself is more on the plain side.

I know a couple who used the fella's Grandma's ring as an engagement ring. The Grandma had passed away even before the girlfriend was in the picture. The gal was over the moon to be brought into the family in such a way.

Answer 3

I don't think you would find anything more unique than your grandmother's engagement ring!! It's probably an antique and there wouldn't be anything you could buy similiar to it. I would love to be surprised by a family heirloom. Your grandmother must really love your girlfriend to offer you something that has meant so much to her for so many years. I would definitely give her Grandma's ring!!! The money you already have saved can buy her an extra special wedding band. Good luck with the engagement!!

Answer 4

This is a difficult question. I dont think that grandma's ring would be looked on as skimping.....but yes we all love something uniquely chosen for us by our man. And she may be sad to have this taken away from her....but then again, she has told you what she wanted so the ring itself will not be a suprise........
I think in this situation, suprise is not an option. I would actually talk to your girl and tell her the dilemma and see how she feels about grannys ring....she may love the idea. I really do think it is better to be up front on this one. If she is happy to recieve grandma's ring, then maybe you can buy her another beautiful engagement gift with the money you saved. Or an extra special and beautiful diamond wedding band.
Good luck.

Answer 5

This is a tough question...
If you wanted to, you could take the diamond from your grandmother's ring, or take the platinum band and put a different diamond on it or put it on a different ring, and then maybe have a necklace made out of the diamond... does that make sense?
You'd need to ask your grandmother about that though.
So basically, either use your grandmother's diamond for a newly designed ring, or use grandma's band to put with the diamond cut that your gf wants.

Answer 6

i think you should defidently give her your grandmothers ring. That is more valuable than anything money can buy. You can always use the money you saved to plan a extra special romantic night for the proposal.
My fiancee proposed to me with his mothers engagement ring. She had given it to him and wanted him to have it to propose to me. I thought that was the sweetest thing ever and meant a lot more to me than a store bought ring. It has so much sentimental value . I think your girlfriend would be thrilled with it. After all is said and done, you can always give her the option of getting a different ring if she really dosent like it. (which i highly doubt will happen)
Good luck!!!!

Answer 7

This is tough. If the ring is the same color and size as the one you would have bought her then I think it's okay. The only time I don't think it's okay is when the heirloom ring is very different from what the bride wants because I think every bride is entitled to their special ring, just the way your grandmother was all those years ago.

Answer 8

I would offer her your grandmother's ring, and tell her if she'd prefer, you can go & get her her own ring if she'd rather. If you accept it from your grandmother, tell her you;ll offer it to her, but give her the choice if she wants her very own ring. If you tell your grandmother up front that you're going to give her the option, she won't be upset if she decides not to wear it.

My fiance's aunt offered me her engagement ring, but I told her I wanted my very own ring, and thanked her profusely for offering it to me. Her ring is lovely, but I think she should keep it. And, what worried me with an heirloom ring is if I ever lost it, it truly is irreplacable. My new ring is insured, so I can buy another one, if necessary, but if I accepted the heirloom, then lost that, not only would I have lost my engagement ring, but a family treasure as well. I really didn't want that kind of pressure!

Answer 9

I think it is very sweet of your family to give her the ring. And she should appreciate it. And you can offer her to get her a very nice wedding band for her, something she can wear when she is working. Or a necklace to go with the Grandma's ring, in the cut she wants. If she doesn't like it, then you can turn it into the ring, and save the grandma's ring for you son :)

Answer 10

I personally feel that nomader how in love your girlfriend and your grandmother is, there is no way I would want a ring off of an old lady. I think you had a good though but I think buying the ring would be nicer.