my mom is 80 with alot of health problems...now on top of all the probs she has, we find out thursday if she has breast cancer or not.....i don't want her to suffer or be in pain....should she get chemo, surgery, or just let it go on the way it is...i want her to pass as peacefully as possible...what should i do?
2007-09-25 12:49:43 · 7 answers · asked by deb04005 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
What does she want? You are not sure if it is breast cancer or not, because you are stating she has breast cancer or not....
Breast cancer can be controlled with different kind of treatment, it all depends on the type of cancer and the hormone receptor, the stage of her cancer and if it has spread to other organs. Breast cancer that has spread to the bones can be kept under control for years. A talk with an Oncologist would be wise to find out her options. It doesn't have to be the end. She could be around for many more years. Maybe she only needs more surgery and oral adjuvent therapy.
2007-09-25 17:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that. I am only 38 and have breast cancer for the second time original diag was 1/06. If your mother had a biopsy it is then sent to a pathologist who determines the stage it is and the size of the tumor. I had a lumpectomy. The therapy is what really takes a toll on a persons body (chemo, radiation) I would wait for the results and then go from there. A good ongologist can offer the best advice on treatments. I'll be praying for her. Let me know f i can help further been thru it twice in less than 2 yrs.
2007-09-25 20:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Carla M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my grandmother had breast cancer about 4 years ago, and she had stage 3 breast cancer (there are 5 stages 5 is the worst) she got the chemo to kill the cancer cells then what they did what ever was left over they went in and cut it out, but if its too bad they have to tkae the whole breast off and thats what happend to my grandmother, but don't worry they put another one on, sometimes if its not bad they will do the surgery first and take the mass out and if they missed any they will then use the chemo,
i wish your mom the best and i hope she doesn't have it.
2007-09-25 20:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by ........ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she in a mentally fit state to make the decision herself?
If so, then it is her decision alone after getting diagnosis, treatment options and prognosis from her Dr.
If you are the ones having to make the decision, I would be discussing treatment options and prognosis with her Dr.
Given her other health issues, these would need to be considered before surgery was undertaken. I would be unlikely to pursue chemo if it were me, this is an onerous treatment, which given her ill health would possibly make her remaining time poor quality while doing little to improve her life expectancy.
I would be talking to the Dr to devise a treatment plan to make her remaining time as high quality as possible.
2007-09-25 19:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tarkarri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough situation to be in. is your mom lucid? i strongly believe that this should be a personal choice. if i were eighty and received this dx. i would just ask the docs to help me live the rest of my life as comfortably and with as much dignity as possible. again. this is my personal choice. can she do that or do you have to make the decision? you really ought to try to get her to make a living will. it doesn't make decisions any easier but there is some solace in knowing that you are carrying out the wishes of someone you love.
2007-09-25 19:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess that would be her decision if she could make it. just try to be supportive as possible...If she cant make the decision then if it were me i would try to keep her alive as long as i could..but if she were suffering i would let her pass peacefully. I dont want her to live longer if she cant do the things that make her happy or be pain free you know?
2007-09-25 19:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what stage her cancer is in? If her doctor says she qualifies for surgery, surgery is usually the #1. choice.
2007-09-25 19:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Rathaford 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋