i am in the worse situation and i dont know what to do about it?

Question

ok i have been with my husband for 5 years now we got married in marhc but the last few monht things hvae gotten very bad quick. he injured his back 3 years ago and it is so bad that he cant work but he is going back next week after being out for 9 months. anywas my parents are not supportive of us being married nor were r friends. i feel like i have no one in th e world. he has been very angry lately and getting mad at every little thing i do. he gets mad when i go out with my firneds without him bc he never wants to go out and he never wants sex. well i met a guy at work an di know im married but he srated to make me forget my problems when i was with him and i think i fell for him. but i dont think he wants anythign with me anymore he did at first it hink but now he doesnt. he is still nice to me but not as sweet as he used to be. i get upset when i see him with another girl but i shouldnt. i am so unhappy i feel like no one in the world understands me. should i save my marriage?

Answer 1

Yes, you should do everything possible to save your marriage. But remember, he has to put effort into saving it as well or the whole thing will be pointless. Remember, at one point you felt enough for each other to say "I do" when the preacher said "till death do you part."

Answer 2

my friend it looks like a very bad situation but there is no trouble that we can not save unless the death, the unique thing that just god hand at all. your husband has been acting in a very strange way it doesn´t seem he is taken the relationship seriously and y said he is not getting the compromise like before it looks like he is doing the way you said because he doesn`t care of you, for what you do,how you would like to be treat and share yours feelings with him.I mean u should feel like to ask him somethings, was he total sure that he wanted to get married with you? did he make everything clearly about his wishes while you wering deciding about your married? what did he really held ? what really make him accept the wedding? My friend i think you should get him in hard and accurately questions that made him give you the rigth answers which you need to hold on the matter,so do not lack the chance to chach him in the right way you want him to teel you all the trues and if he is avoinding the way u show him is because maybe he is suffering from any kind of depression,or do want teel you that he is giving up the relation but not is afraid of the reality be against him, what your parents really mean to not accept married I think u should have a serious talking with your parents too to them figure out their position on what tey are meaning to u and yuor husband,and abuot him, did he have working so much that it makes him weary and very tired taking all his energies away? doesn`he have parents or somebody who could give any advices? off course, the best person would be you because he must understand that u is his spouse and should remain a very opened relatoinship ,all right? so do not accept more suffering and try to cearlly the situition. god bless you!

Answer 3

I am sure there was a part of your marriage vows that said something like ---for better or for worse.Now I want you to take your exact same story; and instead of your husband, you are the one with the problems. How would you feel and/or respond if your husband was feeling the same way you are now doing . Don't get me wrong, you are only human; but if your response to every adversity is to get involved with anyone who offers you a sympathetic shoulder to cry on, your life will become only a series of affairs.Your husband's medical and job problems have made him grouchy, however it is directed at himself cause he feels like a failure. Although on the outside, it may look like he is mad at you; usually people in that type of situation lash out at those they love the most. There is so much more I want to tell you but for space constraints, I will say think of the following:1)The way you feel is understable but the solution you have chosen is dead wrong2) your co-worker may have done you a big favor, rather than get jealous or mad , channel those feelings and energy into your husband and marriage3)gently initiate sex with him in case he has pain and is afraid of not being able to perform4) while you did not say why your family and friends have abandoned you, I think you should try to re-establish a working contact with them again. 5) do not hesitate to also pray to the good Lord .I can't begin to appreciate how overwhelmed you must feel now, but don't forget that like grains of sand running through your fingers, problems also pass to be replaced by good times. I wish you all the best .Please keep us posted on your progress for you are not alone even if it feels like that sometimes.

Answer 4

Your husband is going through a tough time now and he just might be temporarily grumpy due to his back. Hang in there. If things don't go back to the way they used to be, you really have to talk things out. Also, you need to communicate with your parents. They should be happy if your happy. Although, you don't seem very happy right now so you may want to listen to them. But don't shut them out. There will be times where no ones there for you and they will be there. You need to keep th relationship-with your parents I mean. With your husband, if things get worse, maybe you should see a marrige consulor. I hope I helped. Stay strong.

Answer 5

first of all how old are you?do you have kids?do you still love your husband think before you answer i havebeen married to the ame man for 38 years i was 16 now i am 54and let me tell you it has not been all peaches and cream i have done the same thing before if you just hang in there it will work out your husband is probably going through a funk.and i am sure to you the same ole routine is getting old too.

Answer 6

it sounds like you had an affair, i guess? I would wonder if you are really emotionally invested if only being married a few months, that you were unfaithful. I sure don't mean to judge, but my first hubby had a back injury, and he couldnt have sex, so I went the rest of our marriage, without sex, and well, without any additional attention from him,if you catch my meaning.

Answer 7

I went through the same thing. Almost exactly. And someone brilliant told me marriage goes through seasons. You are in a hard season. DO NOT DO SOMETHING STUPID! You are married and must talk to your husband and tell him other men are giving you attention and it is dragging you away. Beg him for his attention and leave the other guy in the dust.

Answer 8

WELL, THINGS MAY GET BETTER NOW HE IS GOING BACK TO WORK,
BUT, LOOKING TO SORT OUT YOUR PROBLEMS WITH ANOTHER MAN WILL NOT WORK, IT MAY GET YOU DIVORCED, A FEW FAMILY MEMBERS HAVE BACK PROBLEMS & I KNOW WHAT HE HAS HAD TO PUT UP WITH, IT IS VERY HARD & PAINFUL, SO IF YOUR WORKING & LEAVING HIM ALONE ALL DAY THEN GOING OUT AFTER WORK I CAN UNDERSTAND WHY HE IS ANNOYED,
YOU HAVE ONLY BEEN MARRIED A FEW MONTH & INSTED OF LOOKING AFTER HIM UR OFF TRYING TO COP OFF WITH A MAN FROM WORK, HOW WOULD YOU LIKE IT THE OTHER WAY ROUND, I THINK YOU NEED TO SORT OUT IF YOU DO TRULLY LOVE HIM, THE WAY YOUR MESSING ABOUT MAKES ME THINK YOU DONT,
YOU MARRIED FOR SICKNESS & HEALTH BUT AS SOON AS HE IS SICK YOUR LOOKING FOR A REPLACEMENT,
REMEMBER WHAT GOES ROUND COMES ROUND & THINK ABOUT THAT B4 YOU ARE ILL & NEED HIM TO LOOK AFTER YOU,

Answer 9

if all it is in txt's then take your telephone with the txt's to the police and pass from there he will be arrested for threatening behaviour and he or she will then be counseled the truth. . he needed all of it and did for a jiffy now your hurting the gf is hurting and he's annoying sick of the truth being informed. he's a jerk and his clinical care of you and his gf is appalling. don't be frightened of him do the right element and get him off the line . the police may even grant you with surveillance or flow you to a secure residing house dam if i lived close to you i'd pay mr t a visit and knock him round slightly i hate adult men who take care of females like **** .

Answer 10

I'm sorry but your story confuzzled me. Sit down and have a heart to heart with your hubby and find out what's wrong, or see a marriage counselor?