usually just with guys i like, i guess its cause i don't feel comfortable looking in their eye. not because i want pounce on them and start making out. but i find myself doing this with a lot of people and makes them uncomfortable. how do i stop?
2007-09-25 12:25:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
OMG, I thought I was the only person who did that! I just try to make a conscious effort to look at their eyes. It's still hard sometimes.
2007-09-25 12:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not 100% sure how you can stop but if you really get embarrassed (by them feeling uncomfortable) I suppose you can say that you've been friends/living with/had a relationship (any kind family, friends etc) with someone who is deaf and in order to understand them you need to look at their lips and their hands. ;)
If you explore why you feel uncomfortable with eye contact maybe that'll help (e.g. if you feel like your going to give something away you can repost that and if I see it I can reply something like...) In the end we're all humans and what we feel inside is private unless certain actions you do or words you say make what your feeling obvious (e.g. I love you, tears welling in your eyes as you say 'All those poor children around the world') and last thing I can say is people who you feel comfortable looking in their eyes when talking to them try not to look at their nose or lips and try to see how you are feeling.
2007-09-25 12:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by jackyboy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes practice to be comfortable speaking to people but you must learn how to look them in the eyes. People do not trust someone or wish to talk with someone who cannot do so. It tells people you are interested in their conversation, that you are being truthful, that you are confident and respectful. Looking into someone's eyes denotes many things depending how you are looking. I'm interested in your thoughts is a different look than I want to jump you. It's about your demeanor as well as the look. Practice or find someone who can help you with your insecurities.
2007-09-25 13:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to focus and have a respect for yourself. you also have to respect others. You know that when you are talking to someone you have to honestly look at them while they are talking to you so that you will get their respect - and vice versa. How can you listen and respond maturely to them if you are so shy or so insecure? You have to be a tough person and believe in God is always by yourside so that you will not be insecure anymore. Pray also. Do you believe in God? Read the Bible. Stop thinking of sex if male are around you - do you know that they are human being as well and some men are offended if girls are like you everywhere.
2007-09-25 12:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by earth angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem to so usually I do stare at there eyes but not for long I usually l
2015-01-13 15:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by manuel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at their forehead. They will think your looking at their eye but your really not.
2007-09-25 13:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by Banshee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SO ANNOYING I WANT TO MASH PEOPLES FACES IN WHO DO THAT. IT MAKES YOU LOOK BAD AND IT MAKES THE OTHER PERSON WANT TO PUNCH YOU.
2007-09-25 12:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋