So I'm a girl starting to date again and I want to know..
if a girl doesn't offer to pay for half of the bill on the first date does that come off somewhat concieted that she expects you to pay?
I've done another survey and the answers I got back showed me in the end the gentleman should and want to pay but it's nice if she offers, but if she doesn't offer at all does it come off like she expects that from you?
2007-09-25 12:17:47 · 27 answers · asked by lalaland2405 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless it was a EXPENSIVE and could not pay for it. BUT- I think the guy should ALWAYS pay for the first date.
2007-09-25 12:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by LongShot™ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. If she doesn't offer to pay, of course it appears as though she expects the guy to pay--because she does. If she didn't expect it, then she'd be looking in her purse.
If the girl asks the boy out, the girl is expected to pay. If the guy is a gentleman, he will offer anyway. When she says no thank you, if he is a gentleman, he will offer to cover either the tip or dessert.
If the boy asks the girl out, he should always expect to pay. If the girl has class, she will offer to assist. She should expect the guy to decline politely. It's the polite dance we're supposed to do.
2007-09-25 19:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by swimeveryday 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he invited you out then it's up to him to pay. If you invited him out it's up to you to pay. If the diner was a joint adventure then each should pay his/her part. Customary it is considered proper for the man to pick up the tab, BUT! in today's society that has changed so for the woman to pay the tab is OK also. If this is the first date use the rule I mentioned on who asked who. You will not come off as being conceited if you do not offer to pay your share. Doing so would just be a courtesy only. If he were to ask you to pay your share, politely do so as that would be right rather then argue over it. Then file that in the back of your mind for future dates with this guy.
2007-09-25 19:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by aswkingfish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tend to be a little more on the chivalrous side and end up paying for most dates, but I think the first date is usually a given that the guy should pay, I don't think the girl needs to offer to pay anything.
2007-09-25 19:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by Nathan H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys always foot the bill (with the exception of failed, white rappers). But if she actually "expects" me to pay and doesn't offer at all, she'll probably be high-maintenance and not a candidate for a second date.
2007-09-25 19:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by JD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The girl should at least make a weak attempt. That is, she should act like she is reaching into her purse for her wallet and at the same time ask the guy if he needs some cash. In general he will say no, or perhaps you can leave the tip. Any other answer and the guy is not worth your time.
Put it this way, if you end up paying for your meal, then you at least paid a cheap price to learn quickly that he is not into you.
2007-09-25 19:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People should 'talk these things out' BEFORE they date, be it the first date or the date on which a proposal of marriage is made. I paid sometimes and he paid sometimes when we were 'best friends.' When we got together, our money was pooled, and if we had it and went out we 'both paid' without thinking of 'who put the money into the pot.' Nowadays, my husband makes 99.999% of our money (I do work sometimes for an online game company) but it's still 'our money' and we decide on the 'big purchases' together, but can make 'small purchases' (under $200) on our own. We still 'discuss the finances' all the time, though ... but we are 'together forever and beyond' and maybe that type of 'love' is BECAUSE we 'ironed all of this tuff out' BEFORE we even thought of 'becoming a couple.'
2007-09-25 19:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the asker for the date should pay. i've always paid for the date if i asked. it's nice that she offers but i wouldn't see her as concieted . if she asked for the date, i would offer to pay. LOL....i've been on dates where we fought over the check. it was funny...LOL
2007-09-25 19:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by oldguy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a man. I can appreciate a woman asking, but I also think that most men expect to pay if it is a date. If it a casual thing most men expect ohave to pay.
Call me old fashioned but that the way it is.
2007-09-25 19:22:13 · answer #9 · answered by jay h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice if she offered, but it's not something I'd expect. Either way I would pick up the check.
I wouldn't think any less of a girl if she didn't offer though.
2007-09-25 19:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋