ok, i am now 14 and i am in 9th grade, my bf is 15 almost 16 in 10th, and theirs this boy that i also like but we r both good friends and he keeps askin if we can be friends with benefits but i dont know what to say, and i am also not sure if it is ok, i need some help can someone help me, and if it is ok, what are we allowed to do, and should i tell my bf, should i ask if it ok with him as well, im so lost i need help, someone help me please
2007-09-25 11:31:38 · 17 answers · asked by Beth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO!! It is not okay!!
This other person is obviously not your friend if he wants something sexual from you!
Tell your little friend that you aren't going to be "friends with benefits".
Then, go and analyze your relationship with your boyfriend, because if you're even comtemplating about this, then maybe you don't want to be in this relationship.
2007-09-25 11:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by zomgbuddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that you are 14 and you know what friends with benefits means. I am not one to judge but I would say that there is more important things in your very young life that you should be worrying about like passing 9th grade. YOu do not need any friends with benefits, just good friends that you can count on that you will have for the rest of your life. you have plenty of time to have sex when you are older, besides sex makes babies. take it from me. I am 24 and I have 3 kids because i thought boys were more important than school and now look at me. take my advise...finish school and then worry about boys because when you are older and have kids and now education, no self respecting man will want you anyways!!!!!!!
2007-09-25 18:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by mzting 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO..NO..NO..do not do it that is not what you are supposed to be focused on your supposed to be enjoying your child hood and having fun you should never be thinking about giving out benefits cause your to young. And for the guy that is asking you to be friends with benefits.. have you stopped and thought to yourself that he could be doing the same thing with other girls and if you were to do it.. you could get pregnant or get a disease from some friend with benefits..And you dont need to learn how to cheat already it is not a good thing take it from me.If you respect yourself then you would not do it cause it is not right and trust me you will be happy that you didn't do it in the long run.
2007-09-27 15:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by me5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not OK. It is the same has cheating. A so called friend with benefits is a friend one makes out with and has relations with. That's what it means.
If you were dating a guy you really liked. And he were to find out you had such a friendship with another guy. He would lose all respect for you.
You are young. Don't fall into such things. They cause problems. Say your so called friend started dating a girl and she found out. She will get on your case as well as his about it.
2007-09-25 18:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beth tell this fella to hit the road. If indeed you do value your relationship with your boyfriend then you won't even consider having a friends with benefit relationship with this other guy. What it involves is having sex without committments, so you don't need this kind of relationship especially at your age. You would get yourself a very bad reputation and that is the last thing a girl like you needs as it will follow you as you age. Be honest with your boyfriend and you might even want to inform him of what his buddy has been suggesting to you, just so he is aware of what kind of friend this guy is. Best of luck.
2007-09-25 18:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being faithfull is the only way to be. Would you be ok if your boyfriend was seing someone else while seeing you? I know that you don't want to be told that you are really too young to be dating anyway but, you are still learning about yourself and you dont need that kind of experience to change the way you feel about true love later in years.
2007-09-25 18:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by jack_black_91 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need biblical instruction on this. Sex is for marriage only. This guy has no right toask you such a thing. One way to know is if someone asks you something like that, if you can't discuss it with your boyfriend then the answer is no. Or else why would you call him your boyfriend? Doesn't that imply you are committed to him? If that changes you should discuss that with him,or else you are being dishonest and unfaithful.
2007-09-25 18:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by JesusIsTheAnswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think a bout it this way...would you allow your BF to have "benefits" with other girls? If you think it is okay to sleep with other guys, you'd better let your BF do what he wants to too. If you can't handle that thought, then don't do it. It needs to be fair in a relationship which also means be honost and truthful and faithful.
2007-09-25 18:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lexie J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you understand what friends with benefits means? It means you have sex whenever it is convenient. So asking your boyfriend to cheat on him would be out of the question.
This guy doesn't want to have to do all the boyfriend stuff like call you or care about you he just wants to have sex with you.
2007-09-25 18:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age, no. If you don't have a good honest relationship now, you never will. You're just learning how to love, and you should do it right. You can have fun in college after you've learned to love yourself and how to properly love someone else. Plus, you're going to get attached and get hurt, and probably end up with a reputation that you don't want or need.
2007-09-25 18:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋