I just ended a friendship with a very toxic friend of mine (as advised by the yahoo questions community) and she has invited me to attend her son's birthday party. Our kids used to play together and that's how we became friends. She hasn't attended anything that I've put together, so I feel a little weird about her inviting me in the first place...
I honestly don't know what to do. I know it's for the kids, but I don't want to be the subject of her gossiping at the party and I don't want to feel bad about myself all over again!
2007-09-25 11:12:20 · 14 answers · asked by tiffguam 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Our children are 1 and 17 months.
2007-09-25 11:19:17 · update #1
Her son is 1 year and mine is 17 months
2007-09-25 11:19:59 · update #2
Personally I wouldn't go. It seems that you've already made the decision to break ties with this person. You must have had good reason to do this, so stick to your resolve. Otherwise you will be just dragging out a awkward situation. I can understand you saying you want to do the right thing by the children, but I agree with the other answers that at their age they honestly wont be that aware anyhow.
Truly the world is full of genuinely nice people, don't waste your time and effort on someone who brings you down.
2007-09-26 12:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Krissie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my personal opinion, it's better not to go. The fact is, it would create a friction between you and your ex friend. I know that the kids has nothing to do with whatever problems you may have but it's hard to guess what she may be thinking and it will be awkward between the two of you. And also I've been wondering why she has the nerve of inviting you if she's not in good terms with you. Any action that you may do in the party will show an act of hypocrisy so to avoid any of these, I would rather not go if I were you. The reason for me saying these is because I've experienced it already and after that party, the next time we meet again , it seems that she doesn't know me at all, that may piss you off, for sure , right?
2007-09-25 14:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by Reeze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she invite you or your son? If your son is still friends with the birthday boy and he WANTS to attend the party, then let him go. If another one of your friends is also attending, ask her if she'll take your boy with her so that you don't have to be there. If you do have to be there, just ignore the ex-friend. Sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt you.
*Just read your edit. At that age, there's no reason to even worry about it. Just don't go. Problem solved. If the kids were older, then it would be a different story. At that age though.... they don't even know what "friends" are.
2007-09-25 11:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I cant believe you'd end a friendship based on what ppl in on this board tell you to do. You should have ended the friendship if it was toxic without the opinions of people on the internet. That being said. If the ONLY reason you want to go is so you wont be the subject to gossiping then do not go! If you are going because it is your child's playmate then I say go. Sometimes as ADULTS we have to mend fences.
2007-09-25 11:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, I wouldn't. It will just get ugly if you go, and besides, you cut her out of your life for a reason. You need to stand by your decision. As for the kids, I doubt that at 1 year/17 months, they even know they're at a birthday party, much less whether their moms are fighting.
2007-09-25 11:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you should give her a call and find out exactly what the problem is, was, whatever and see if it can be fixed. Then if the answer is to your satisfaction, proceed from there. If it doesn't get resolved to your satisfaction, just let her know right then on the phone. No sense in wondering what or where the next jibe will come. Just get it done so it doesn't come back to haunt you later. Just my thoughts.
2007-09-25 11:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have said go for the sake of your son. But once I saw the ages I think its best for you not to go. Your child won't really remember or really care (to be honest) whether he goes or not. He's too young to really communicate his feelings toward his friend. He can't get mad at you for not wanting to go because he is too young to understand. It's just unwanted drama in your life and instead of stressing yourself out at that party take your son out somewhere and spend time with him... just the two of you.
2007-09-25 13:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by beanie baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say just go and let the kids have a good time.
Its a little unfair that the children cant be friends anymore just bcus you 2 have fallen out..........
2007-09-25 11:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kids are too young to really remember each other. if you don't want to deal with this person, i doubt your child will have a coniption if you don't go. forget about her and her kid and move on with your life.
simplify...simplify...simplify
2007-09-25 11:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by Malina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your child going? Be the bigger person for your child who is friends with her child.
good luck!
2007-09-25 11:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kali's Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋