Thank you cards...?

Question

Obviously we're intending to send thank you cards out from all our gifts we recieve during showers and our reception. my fiance and i found these thank you cards and think they're hilarious (this really all depends on your sense of humor). We really want to send them...obviously as a joke, but we're trying to come up with the best way to do it.

I feel if we send that by itself and wait a week to send the real ones..it gives people too much time to get offended. We're also going to send out the thoughtful hand written notes as well...we're just wanting to know the best way to go about it.

Everyone knows we're kinda quirky and out there though..im just not sure.

any advice?


here are the joke thank you cards btw.

http://www.knockknock.biz/commerce/Cards/Everyday-Cards/Boxed-Cards/Thank-You-Bridal.html

Answer 1

I would do it ONLY if you enclose the "real" thank you note WITH the joke mailing (i.e., write it on a matching piece of stationery folded inside). That would be funny, and no one could possibly be offended. If you mail them separately, God knows how many vitriolic e-mails could go pinging around the country to an "all family" mailing list about what a horrible bride you are. Save everyone from any possible embarrassment and put the two pieces in the same envelope so there is no mistake.

Tread carefully here -- if you do a search in YA for questions re: thank you etiquette, you will find that people are VERY touchy about this subject.

Answer 2

If people already know you are both quirky i am sure they won't be offended by the hilarious cards you send. But to be on the safe side send the hilarious ones first and then send the other ones 1-3 days later to give it at least a couple more days from the first ones.

Answer 3

OMG I wish I would have seen these when we got married two years ago!!!! Loves them!

I think I would buy some of these and send them specifically to the people who would get the joke and not be offended.

Two days after I mailed them out I would mail the real ones, with something along the lines of "did you really think that was all you were going to get for the _______ you gave us at our wedding??? Thank so much...we really loved....Sincerely..."

Sending them out two days apart would put no more than a 4 day delay between them (weekend time might affect). Enough time for you to get a nasty email from someone unexpected, to which you don't have to reply because the real ones are going to make them feel all mushy and sorry that they yelled.

Answer 4

If you are planning to send a nice hand written note along with it, as your actual thank you note, I see nothing wrong with sending the joke cards! Perhaps you could send the real note along with the joke one, something like "GOTCHA" I only suggest in the same envelope because if you send out the fake ones and the real ones at the same time, that doesn't gurantee that they would be there at the same time.

Answer 5

Maybe in the "personal note" section of the card you could say something like "haha, hope you found this thank you note as funny as we did!"...

Mail the "real" thank yous just a day or two after you mail the funny ones...they will recieve it just a day or so after they get the funny one and won't be offended. To save money, you could just send the funny one to those who you know will find it funny and not offensive at all... save the "real" ones for grandparents and such.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I think they are definately unique! I think they would offend guests that do not know you as well as your parents. So, I would save those to send to your very closest family and friends and then send the real thank you notes a few days later (not even a week later) to avoid making anyone to upset. Then for your other guests I would use a traditional thank you note to avoid offending any of them.

Answer 7

I might send this card to a few friends my age who would find it funny, but I absolutely would not send it to older family members or anyone who didn't know me really well, as there would be fallout.

Remember, not everyone has a sense of humor at all and in the realm of weddings and thank-you notes many people are sticklers for traditional etiquette-- especially if they just dropped a bunch of money on a gift for you. You'd end up angering people and humiliating yourself, then ultimately confusing them. Or angering them more. I just wouldn't do it.

Answer 8

I definitely think those cards are amusing, but if someone actually sent me one, I wouldn't know they were joking, and would feel offended. I suspect a lot of your guests won't know you're joking, and think you're quite crass until the real TY arrives. If you want to send the joke cards, I would place them in the same envelope with the actual TY note, so that the guest pulled out the phony one first. Make sure the envelope is large enough to accommodate both cards.

P.S. I'm in the older generation the below posts are referring to, and old enough to be this bride's mom.

Answer 9

I agree with the others - I'd laugh if I got one, but not sure about others - especially Great Aunt Betty who won't understand getting a 2nd card or even an ensclosed note. Even younger people can get strangely traditional when it comes to weddings.

Answer 10

I think it is hilarious. There are some that are attending that I wouldn't even dream of sending it to, but those could get regular thank you cards.

Our friends would get a kick out of it though.