If a woman is abused, raped, lied to, lied about, cheated on (but partner claims he didn't do it even when there were pictures) for 10 years & her husband is just starting to take medications that seem to work but every time he gets angry, cranky, or raises his voice, her fears that never leave become overwhelmingly strong. She married her rapist after several years, she spiritually thought it was the right thing to do. She hurt her body too many times & her baby died & though doctors say it was an infection, she blames herself. Since the abuse just recently stopped, her life is still filled with fear of further attacks & blame, anger, resentment, depression over a ruined life lost, time wasted. She cant sleep at nights & she cries wishing she had been killed like he told her he would. She has been broken into so many pieces that she thinks no one cares nor will fix her. She doesn't think anyone can fix her, especially not herself. & has self hatred & urges to cut & stab. There is no
2007-09-25 10:02:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
relief, not even death can garauntee that she will be freed from this pain and daily torment.
2007-09-25 10:04:04 · update #1
Her husbasnd is mentally ill and doesn't want to hear about her problems. And they can't afford to get her the help she needs, but she also has been to see many counselors and pastors over the years.
2007-09-25 10:06:12 · update #2
This is what someone wrote but he didn't know to look at the history:
"You know what? He is probably not that bad of a guy. She might not be putting it across the right way. or maybe she is a chronic complainer and needs attention constantly. She obviously gets it here. You all feel so sorry for a person you know nothing about.
You talk about support. What about degrading your husband online in front of thousands of strangers. Not much support there. Hmmm there is always three sides to every story, What She says, What He says and the Truth.
Truth hurts CC Curious
Good luck with your pain and your weight loss. Try to make your marriage better instead of running away like the people in here are saying. Doesn't anyone commit to anything anymore? if there are problems, shouldn't you work on fixing them instead of tossing the issues aside and running. that to me is L*A*Z*Y. Marriage is not disposable in the eyes of the Lord that you stood in front of the day you were married."
2007-09-25 10:13:54 · update #3
She tried so hard to be the kind of woman her husband wanted her to be so he wouldn't abuse her, lie to her and about her, and act like he was cheating.
She was even willing to take mental pills while pregnant to make him stop abusing her, meds that could possibly cause her to lose her baby. She has been through counseling.
If her husband is mentally ill, should she still be held to her vows of for better or worse, in sickness or hell(th) {I know I mispelled it but that is intentional because that is what it feels like to her).
They can barely afford for her husband to get the help she needs, let alone her, and she is miserable while he seems to be moving on.
She still tries so hard to do right. But never gets anywhere. Never gets the healing from the Lord.
2007-09-25 10:22:20 · update #4
Will she be emotionally healed in this life?
Or does she have to wait until the next life?
This is affecting her in all areas and walks of life.
2007-09-25 10:26:07 · update #5
The bible gives desertion and adultery as scriptural reasons for divorce.
That being said, I left my husband for a reason not given in scripture. I was forgiven and God has given me a beautiful new life.
However, since the bible says "a woman is not to leave her husband, but if she does, she is to remain unmarried", I am not married, do not date, and will not marry again.
I can't tell this woman what to do. I do know that God loves her and I pray that He give her counsel on what to do with this situation. And it doesn't matter if he denies adultery if she knows he committed adultery. That is a biblical basis for divorce right there.
2007-09-25 10:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by Esther 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
She should run and don't look back. She has let go of God and is running w/ her emotions. I did 11 yrs in the crap . my husband was so twisted and crazy . He could less about her. they can't see past their own issues. She is not spiritually strong enough and you are right to care and help . If she leaves him she will start to heal. She may need meds.
GOD BLESS
I'm praying for her mind and heart.
What happens if he just kills her? It's been to over 2 yrs since my ex left and i'm great . i 'm healthly. And married now to a wonderful man ,who is sane and loves God. The healing didn't take longer. Thank God
2007-09-25 10:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by TCC Revolution 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can be scripturally divorced and remarry if she is cheated on and the adultery can't be remedied. Otherwise she can be divorced but not remarried.
Edit not sure why the thumbs down they are the words of Jesus.
Mat.5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Of course she can be healed she believes in Jesus she should be healed. She is in my prayers I pray that she draws closer to God in prayer and in his word and in meditation that God will lead her in the way that she should go.
2007-09-25 10:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by djmantx 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
no not in those cases...i had drs reports of abuse...but couldnt afford court so i got ripped off.. what does this prove? you have no references here....see current events...
2007-09-25 10:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's even more deluded than her rapist husband.
2007-09-25 10:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lex Fok B.M.F. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She should leave him. You're hung up on catholic legalism. Catholics are not saved Christians.
2007-09-25 10:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋