I just had my 18 week ultrasound and, most likely... it's a boy. As far as we can tell, a healthy baby boy
I, currently, have one child, a 2 1/2 year old son.
I did not have a gender preference one way or the other, I (honestly) only care that he/ she is healthy. (I will admit, I had a slight preference the 1st time--- but none this time.)
Anyhow, some of the people I've told have replied with, "I'm sorry" or "maybe you can try again for a girl". My husband has never voiced a preference either.
I just don't get it.
Do most people want one of each?
Or, is this only b/c "they" wanted it to be a girl?
2007-09-25 10:00:22 · 30 answers · asked by Nina Lee 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The person who said, "I'm sorry" doesn't bother me too much. (He's a pretty ignorant co-worker who you might expect such a comment from.)
I've also noticed several people, including my mom, who didn't say anything but had a disappointed look on their face. A lot of friends, who I expected a congratulations from, have not even said a word.
2007-09-26 04:56:19 · update #1
I received some of the same responses with my last baby. I have two boys and we decided to have one more baby. I really wanted another boy. We decided to keep the sex a secret. Many people kept saying, wow, it must be a girl. Or, I hope it is a girl. That did annoy me.
After the baby (a boy), some people asked if we would try for a girl. Why? I said "no" to them - that this was my last baby. I think people like to see balance, and honestly, people see that with one boy and one girl - kind of like one husband, one wife.
Don't let it get to you. Two boys are wonderful! My two older boys are the best of friends! I am so fortunate to now have three healthy boys, that will grow up together and share an amazing bond. Although I love my brother, I always wished that I could have grown up with a sister!
2007-10-01 10:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say some strange things don't they? Just try to brush it off. We're TTC number two pretty soon and I have absolutely no preference either. We have a daughter and another girl would be great but it would be neat to experience having a boy too. I don't see what the big deal is with gender. A healthy baby is absolutely the only thing that matters! Best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy.
2007-09-25 18:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that people are just assuming that you want a girl because society says that the perfect family has one boy and one girl! The same thing happened when I found out my second child was also a boy! Everyone was sad... I kinda wanted a girl but a baby is a baby and a gift no matter the sex... then when I got pregnant the third time unexpectedly and had a girl everyone was just so overjoyed! I kinda felt bad for my middle child... it was like everyone kinda over looked him! But things are better now!... do not stress it after people get over the girl thing they will be just as happy to see your new bouncing baby boy!
2007-09-25 17:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by brittany_jaccaud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. People can be so ignorant! Congrats on your pregnancy & I'm happy to hear he is healthy!
I don't understand why people get so caught up in the sex of the child. A child is a blessing. A healthy child is an even greater blessing.
I think somewhere along the line, people got the idea that the "perfect family" is one of each.
I wouldn't pay any attention to them. I feel sorry for them for not realizing how ignorant they're being!
2007-09-26 09:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by PrincessJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol... I don't understand some people. I guess they just assume since you already have a boy that you would then want a girl. I feel the same as you do. I already have a girl, but I don't care if I have another instead of a boy. My husband doesn't care either. Congratulations on your new baby boy! :-)
Edit: Sounds as if they are the ones hoping for a girl, but who cares what they want, right?
2007-09-26 07:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by ticktock 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't experienced anything that blatant, but it seems like people get more "mushy" when it's a girl. Probably because the people who get excited are women who want to dress up a little princess. Our friends just had a girl and they have an entire closet of clothes from people who were out and "saw something cute" to buy. We had to buy our baby's whole wardrobe because no one just "picks up" a boy outfit when they're out and about. If you're happy it's a boy don't worry about what anyone else says (personally, I think they're easier to raise than girls in today's society so I'm excited mine is a boy!)
2007-09-25 17:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard the same thing when we found out #2 was a girl. My friend has 4 girls. Everyone just assumes you should have or want a 'pigeon pair' and that people are supposed to have one of each. Blah! I have one sib, a brother, and it sucks that I never got a sister/he never got a brother. I enjoy the bond my girls are forging, as I am sure you will when your boys bond!
People just suck, whenever they say sorry ask them why. Boy does that even bring on the stuttering! I told 'those' people that we were trying for a sister for our daughter. Suddenly it went from sorry to a confused blushing congrats!
Congrats on giving your son a brother!
2007-09-26 00:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by Tina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Don't worry about what other people think. Generally people think you are lucky if you have a boy and a girl. As long as the baby is healthy and you are too, I say who cares what people think. You are blessed to be able to have a child and even more blessed because you feel blessed by it! Good luck
2007-09-25 17:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People seem to think that everyone wants to have a perfect set-- like salt and pepper shakers, you know-- one of each.
If someone looks disappointed, feel free to LAUGH and say something like, "Good heavens, look at the look on your face! Good thing YOU don't have to deliver him!"
They may then say something about "didn't you want a girl" or whatever, at which point you can simply smile and say that you're having a hopefully health child, and that's the best gift of all, whether, as Bill Cosby once put it as only he could, there's a "stem on the apple" or not!
PS-- Congratulations-- and boys are terrific!!
2007-10-02 07:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by LJG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's strange I don't know why people are telling you sorry. If you never showed interest in a particular gender then I don't see what the fuss is about? I guess because that is every parent's dream to have 2 kids and one of each gender. Don't worry about them feeling sorry for you because there is absolutely nothing to be sorry about??? Like you said as long as your newborn is healthy that is all that matters!
2007-09-25 17:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋