Muslim Women Problems?

Question

Hi, I have this girl problem and I was searching it on the internet but still need more info. This question is really meant for muslim girls but a muslim boy can reply or a non muslim, anyways...I'm ganna start Martial arts soon and I have periods and that is really killing me. I wanted to use a tampon but my mother told me that tampons are haram (haram means bad) for unmarried muslim girls cause when you have sex with your husband, he will think that you had sex with another guy and stuff (they want tite things). If I was married then I will able to wear a tampon but I can't now! How can I wear a pad and do Martial arts cause you have to do lots of splits and high kicks and you also have to wear a white uniform! I just want to ask if tampons are really haram for unmarried muslim girls and for the girls, is there any other way to do Martial arts with a pad? I heard that you can wear a flexible pad and wear spandex and you can do sports cause it won't spill or slip off. Please Help!!

It is not that haram 100%. Some men just dosnt understand and some do understand. my mother is from africa, she dosnt kno that much about the human body so i wont blame her. some muslim girls wear one and it is not bad, its just how the men thinks.

Answer 1

The hymen tears easily and you will not be a virgin anymore.
thankfully men in the USA are not obcessed with a hymen.
Because I didn't know that and used tampons and it was so painful and I tore myself really bad. My husband understood it was a foolish childish thing to do but not a good idea.
But like I said they trust women who tell them they are faithful to them and do not need assurance.
My advice to you is don't. women shouldn't be doing martial arts anyway. Join a ballet class and try to be more femine.

Answer 2

No tampons are not haram.Girls who are virgins usually have a hymen, a very thin piece of skin-like tissue that stretches partly across the opening of the vagina. A lot of people mistakenly think that a girl is still a virgin if her hymen has not been broken. Most of the time a girl's hymen breaks after having sex for the first time.But a girl's hymen can tear in ways that have nothing to do with having sex. For example, it is possible that inserting a tampon might tear the hymen (although that usually doesn't happen). So even if a tampon does break a girl's hymen, she is still a virgin until she has had sexual intercourse
As far as what your mom told you,try to understand where she is coming from. At her day and age tampons were probably not around and as we know in our culture our parents being brought up the way they were brought up get intimidated w/ new technology and new things and try to take cover from these changes behind our religion.

Answer 3

In my opinion, you could wear a pad, but do wear something tight (like spandex or your underwear) with it so that it will stay in place better. That should work fine. If you find that it doesnt' work, talk to your mom about it.

As far as what your potential husband will want from you, I think the idea is that you are pure and untouched by something other than him. It is possible that you will find a husband who understands the fact that you are growing up in a world that will have conflicting interests, such as being expected to participate fully in sports, but not use tampons, which most girls would do. Dont think of it in a bad way, but the ways that you are different will make you who you are and you should be proud of that. Respect your parents wishes and you will be less likely to regret anything that you do.

Answer 4

You can wear a tampon without your hymen breaking. Although, if it's against your religion, that is something you have to decide for yourself.

Just so everyone is aware- just because your hymen breaks, doesn't mean you aren't a virgin anymore!!!!!! Some girls are born without one, some have hardly any of one, and some have theirs break from normal activity, or an accident. This doesn't mean that you are no longer a virgin. It just means that you don't have that part of your anatomy anymore.

Tampons can be uncomfortable, especially the first few times you wear them, and it is possible that your hymen will break from wearing one. I understand that your future husband wants you to be pure when you marry, but wearing tampon doesn't make you not pure. If they think it does, they need to learn a few things about human anatomy, and what it really means to be a virgin. It shouldn't be anyones business but yours what happens to your body, and what you choose to do with it.

Maybe have your mom talk to a gynocolgist about this. They may be able to help her understand all of this, and it might help you. But just remember that you still need to respect her, and respect your religion.

Pads will work for you, just try wearing biker shorts under your uniform. You can get them in white even. Make sure you wear some with wings. That will help with leakage.

Answer 5

If it's the principal of the thing- something being inside you before your husband, then I'd encourage you to avoid tampons- any kind would be inappropriate.

If your mom is worried about what your husband will think when you get married, then there are lots of options. Tampons come in many sizes and lengths- from the tiny OB brand to the super-absorbant kind... NONE of which are as big as an excited man!!!

Tampons don't stretch a girl's body out... The only thing I know of that really stretches things out is childbirth, but by the time that happens to you, hopefully your husband will already know you well enough to not be worried.

If you're truly worried about it, go to a gyencologist with your mom and ask all the questions you have.

Best of luck

Answer 6

I doubt wearing a tampon is haram and you shouldn't have to worry about your future husband questioning your virginity because if he was a real good husband he would trust your word. You can still wear a pad and do martial arts, I doubt it would make a difference. Try that flexible pad thing you were saying about. Good luck with that martial arts thing.

Answer 7

Hope this helps:

As far as the Islamic perspective on using tampons for married and unmarried women is concerned, in principle it is considered to be disliked (makruh), for it is something that is inserted in the internal part of a woman’s vagina.

Firstly, some experts are of the opinion that tampons have been shown to have a connection to toxic shock syndrome (TSS), a rare but sometimes fatal disease caused by bacterial infection. Hence, if that is the case, it would not be permitted for women, married or otherwise, to use tampons.

Allah Most High says:

“And make not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction.” (Surah al-Baqarah, V: 195)

Based on the above verse of the Qur’an and many other evidences found in the Qur’an and Sunnah, it is prohibited for one to cause harm to one’s self or another person. Hence, if it is proven that using tampons cause harm to the woman, it would not be permitted for her to use them. This can be determined by enquiring from an expert.

Secondly, some people consider using tampons impermissible for unmarried and virgin women because they fear that the woman may not remain a virgin, which they believe to be a defect in the woman.

This, according to the Islamic understanding, is incorrect. The hymen of a woman may be broken in many ways: Injury, accident, playing sports, riding a bicycle, penetration of any sort such as a medical examination, use of tampons, or a douche. Thus, Islam commands the husband not to suspect any wrongdoing on behalf of his spouse if he were to see her not being a virgin.

Sister it is not haram but disliked as it can your health and well being in many ways

Hope it works out for you!

Answer 8

Actually, if it's haram with your mom, it might be best not to unless you can help her change her mind. But you might let her know that reviews show slim ones don't actually change the opening at all. But you might want to be aware that doctors say some activities, possibly even splits and high kicks of Martial arts could break that sensitive membrane just as easily. I'm not a Muslim. I'm a Christian. But glad to help if I can.

Answer 9

I understand where your mother is coming from, as far as wearing a tampon, you can be a virgin, and stay a virgin while wearing tampons, but I will urge you to listen to your mother. Those are the most uncomfortable things in the world!!!! I tried to wear one for swimming class when I was in high school (& still a virgin) most unconfortable 55 minutes of my life!!!! It didn't break my hymen or anything like that. My boyfriend had proof I was still a virgin many years later, so no your husband to be won't think you're not a virgin when that time comes. But post virginity those things are still unconfortable, and I would advise you not to use them. If you're worried about leekage then maybe try wearing an extra pair of shorts under your uniform at that time of the month? Plus you have to worry about toxic shock syndrome when using tampons.

Answer 10

your mother married a muslim man and knows very well how men think esp our middle eastern type.
you should try to protect your hymen because many men are ignorant and you may not have a chance to convince your future husband that bleeding has nothing to do with virginity/virtue/honor/chastity. you wouldn't want to get divorced because you chose to use a tampon before marriage.
even the strictest muslim scholars agree that the hymen can be damaged in a virgin and men shouldn't in any way misjudge a woman for it / not bleeding or not bleeding enough on the wedding night, but i suggest they convince the men who would usually never listen except to their ignorant friends.
actually it's a sin in islam to accuse a woman of any wrongdoing just because of this issue.
so if you want a future without problems and accusations listen to your mom, all she wants is to protect you.

Answer 11

I'm Muslim. I seriously have not asked about tampons and when there is something I have not asked about and don't really need, I just avoid it.

If you really want an answer you can ask my shaykh Salim Alwan at:

www.darulfatwa.org.au