so im with my b/f for about 7 yrs and have a 2 yrd old daughter..and im really frustrated that his niece whose 15 disrespects me by rolling her eyes or by mocking me..i would say something but if i do her mom(who is my b/f's sister) will hate me forever..do i say something to my b/f or do i leave it alone..im getting to the point where i wanna snap on her..what should i do..basically if u say something to his family and they dont agree or dont like what u said they will hate u and talk about u forever!
2007-09-25 09:34:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, you have the right to be respected and be treated like an adult by this child. You also have the right to be respected in your own home.
I would encourage you to sit down with the girl and her mother and let her know what is going on. I'm sure if her mom gets upset, she'll get over it. Maybe she isn't even aware that her daughter is behaving this way.
2007-09-25 09:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an adult with a child of your own, why are you finding it so hard to find your 'voice'? You're obviously suffering from some kind of delusion that you are not significant enough to speak your own opinion and are deeply distressed about what other people think of you. I'm a parent too and if an ill mannered immature cousin, niece, nephew, aunt, uncle, brother, sister, in law(s) ,( no matter what 'age' they are) are being disrespectful to me, I wouldn't care what they thought of me I'd nip it in the butt! I wouldn't want to raise my daughter around that kind of behavior. If your bf's sister hates you forever....So What!!! She obviously hasn't had the brains enough to raise a responsible young adult so why would you want that person in your daughters life for anyway?! Just tell the 15yr old that you don't appreciate her acting like that around you and/your daughter because you don't want to have that kind of influence and or behavior introduced into your child's life at such an impressionable young age. Good Luck! If the Mom says something, be 'quaint' again and tell her that her daughters inappropriate behavior could be damaging to your daughters development in regards to social circles you intend to introduce your daughter into.
2007-09-25 17:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by happy dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she is 15 that is what they do is try to disrespect people. Has this been happening the whole time you have known her? if not then you need to just be firm with her and ignore the eye rolling and if she is mocking you call her on it. she wants to act grown up talk to her like a gown up. Talk to her not her parents.
2007-09-25 16:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by pookerangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk it over with your man in a clam way and not in front of anyone. Try to keep distance between you and his family. Remember, to SNAP ON HER WILL BRING BIG PROBLEMS. Your man should be understanding to your need first because you are his family now.
2007-09-25 16:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Alex G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur bf to talk to her,maybe he can talk to her without telling her that u said anything to him like its all his ideal something like (i've noticed how u talk to my gf and i dont like it she's the mother of my child and u should show her some respect)and maybe she will stop
2007-09-25 16:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by gin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the girl is disrespectful, don't do anything for her... ever.
ignore her, and act as if she doesn't exist.
she wants a REACTION from you and seems to be a brat. don't give her what she wants.
and it's ok to tell her she's a brat... she deserves it.
2007-09-25 16:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd go off on all of them and they'd know I can't stand them and my goal in life is not to be their friend.
2007-09-25 16:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋