He always criticizes me and comes across like he's always picking out faults. I am someone who always looks for the good in people and although he has flaws too, I never point them out. What could be wrong with him? He's 36 and divorced. Sometimes I think he's miserable with himself.
2007-09-25 09:27:17 · 19 answers · asked by nolachic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a loser to me. Is he trying to make himself feel better or what? Someone who loves you will only see and talk about your positive features. You are wasting your time with him. You must upgrade him. Dump him!!!
2007-09-25 09:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about this and let him know how it makes you feel. Tell him that he always dwells on the negative and never the good, and that it is not right. Tell him that everyone has flaws, including himself and that he should learn to start looking at the good side of you. Tell him that you accept him the way he is, so why can't he accept you the way you are. It's not fair. If he continues to put you down, and makes you unhappy, you should consider leaving him for someone that will appreciate you for who you are.
Good luck!
2007-09-25 16:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have to point out others faults to cover there own issues and problems. Some just need to feel superior. I was stuck in a marriage for a long time with the same type of person. Now that I'm out of it, even the sky is bluer. you may want to consider moving on.
2007-09-25 16:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by mark019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably correct. Sounds to me like he has very low self-esteem and likes to pick out others flaws so he can feel better about himself. I wouldn't stay with someone like that. He is 36, which means his outlook won't likely change.
2007-09-25 16:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by misbotta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Ex girlfriend did the same thing to me and I was 23 and she was 22. They point out flaws, because they are self conscience about themselves.
You should just get rid of him, and find a guy who will love you for you, and never point out flaws.
2007-09-25 16:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone like that often is so insecure that they point out other's flaws so they don't feel so bad about their own...
If you decide to stick with him (not sure I would) suggest counseling to improve his own self esteem and maybe when he likes himself, he'll stop feeling the need to find flaws in others.
2007-09-25 16:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a control freak, and apparently has a very low threshold of self-esteem.
If he felt good about himself, he wouldn't have to point out bad things about others.
What are you doing with someone like him?
2007-09-25 16:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he a Virgo? this is what Virgo's do. It's easier too pinpoint others faults then your own. If this is bringing you down then dump him. If you can get past it and maybe ask him to work on toning it down then good luck to you.
2007-09-25 16:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's not your father, he's not supposed to try and make you a better person, he's supposed to accept the good and bad in you. no offense but that just might be why he's divorced, my sis is in a very very similar situation, and she wants a divorce. he always tells her to do things and points out her shortcomings and when he complements her its very reluctantly. so he probably needs someone who is very obedient and doesn't mind being told this, can you answer mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvkYgB3sMYViRl5H_qyU.sDsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070925132141AAXdFm1
2007-09-25 16:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be trying to make you miserable too. Misery loves company and apparently he is trying to make you his company. Next time he critisizes you, just punch him in the ole coin purse, you don't need to take crap from anyone.
2007-09-25 16:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Bob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋