Ok i love David so much he's my boo, his brother just got out of prison and he served 7 yrs for some pretty serious things like Fraud, he robbed a bank, False Checks he rips people off and he has to live in a half way house or a family member David brought it up that he wants him to stay with us for awhile and i dont want to hurt his feeling and say no but i dont want him to live there he will steal from us and thats a fact he has stolen from David his own brother i dont care if he has served his time he's still a Convict, Felan whatever Advice please
2007-09-25 09:17:41 · 6 answers · asked by Lauren 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tough one.
I guess it boils down to two questions:
Do you think your boyfriend will be resentful if you don't let him stay with you?
Is this something that you would end your relationship over?.
Unfortunately, in the grand scheme of thing, girlfriends don't always come before convict brother. If your boyfriend ends up harboring resentful feeling against you for coming between him and his "blood", you may end up on the street. So if keeping his brother out of your house is something that you would rather break up with your boyfriend that allow, then tell him so. Then you will know where you stand.
If it is not something that you are willing to end your relationship over, then you will have to figure out a way to live with it.
2007-09-25 09:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your boyfriend about your feelings, because if you're not, it will eventually boil over, especially if the brother does move in. Offer other solution to his housing crisis. That might open up some other options and it will show your man that you are trying to help.
2007-09-25 09:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should be worried, this is serious..
but if i were u i wouldn't say no,i would let him stay but be extra careful and hide anything valuable it may be hard but try dropping hints that u r not happy with him staying to your bf but don't say a direct NO....good luck
2007-09-25 09:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by the_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him hell no. If he can't understand your reasons why, tell your b/f to give his brother total access to his personal ID and maybe he will understand then.
2007-09-25 09:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that you feel that way. prison does a lot to a person. and i'm pretty sure that he has changed. just give him a chance. and you shouldn't label him!
2007-09-25 09:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by me, me, and me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say "NO" if you are uncomfortable.
neither you or your boyfriend are responsible for his brother's welfare, or living arrangements.
2007-09-25 09:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋