I've heard it said that parents-upon reaching their late 50's or early 60's-tend to pressure their adult children to get on with their lives by getting married and have children so they can have the gift of grandchildren. My parents are the complete opposite. They're in their 60's and I'm in my late 20's but they are against me getting married in my 20's.
Can you provide analysis of why they believe this way? They married in their early 30's and expect me to do the same. More than anything, they seem to dread getting older. They don't mind having two adult children (25 and 21) living in their home (I'm the only one who lives away from home). For a while, this lifestyle seemed normal. But after experiencing some time away from them, I've come to realize that they are the odd ones. Why aren't they encouraging marriage?
2007-09-25 09:06:00 · 11 answers · asked by Andre 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your parents are not odd. They realize the divorce rate. You will never regret waiting until you are 30 to get married. Your parents sound very wise. They have probably seen many grandparents get stuck watching grandchildren or solving the problems they bring. Many times there is a conflict between parents and grandparents about discipline or lack of it. I can only say that someday you will be thankful for your parents input.
2007-09-25 09:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by barthebear 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't care why they feel that way, but i would like to say this --
it's not up to our parents to decide when their adult children get married or when they are "blessed with grandchildren"... it's none of their business, when it comes right down to it.
Do what is best for YOU... you are living your life, not your parents.
2007-09-25 09:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They know how difficult it is to stay married especially with children involved. They know how devastating it is to be in a broken family, and how much the grown children wind up depending on their elderly parents. Listen to people who have lived a lot longer than you. They know that waiting until you are a bit older and wiser is better in the long run. Don't be so much in a hurry to tie yourself down with a spouse and children.
2007-09-25 09:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Pixie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is the same, perhaps they want you all to live your own lives and see no reason to pressure you into marriage and kids...bravo them.
You should live your life for you, not for your parents (they've already had their shot at marriage/kids). I don't think anyone should marry or have kids on their parent's schedule anyway...it's the individual's life and they need to do what's right for them. Their Mom and Dad will accept it or be left out.
2007-09-25 09:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only thing wrong with this is that you're in your late 20's and still this concerned with your parents' opinions on when you should marry and/or have kids. They can add their two cents, but at this age that's about all it's worth.
2007-09-25 09:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by . 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they are having trouble adjusting to being the age they really are. Some people live and act younger than their years.
I would go ahead and live the life you feel you should live and just explain it to them as best you can when they object. They will get over it.
2007-09-25 09:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by John M 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that they had all those years inclusive of your mom and dad to determine what worked and what did no longer with regards to infants and youth. and individuals usually relax as they age and understand that "sweating the small stuff" isn't rather actual worth the time.
2016-10-05 08:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they just feel you are too young and obviously they don't want to feel any older then they do...but you can't put your life on hold for them...You are an adult and should do what you feel is right for you.
2007-09-25 09:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by grnidblnd 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They have no choice in the matter. Tell them you will do what ever you want to do.
2007-09-25 09:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
perhaps they are both unhappy with each other and their marriage and want better for their kids.
2007-09-25 09:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋