Nanny personal life has become questionable, should I let her go?

Question

I have a nanny for my 14 month old daughter. She has been a good nanny and very dependable. She recently ended a 3 year relationship with a stable man, and is now involved with a less than stable boyfriend. She has been honest about what he is involved in and now she has been participating to an extent. He printed counterfit money on her printer and they drove around and used the fake bills at fast food drive through's. They were caught immediatly and she was detained. Her boyfriend had drugs on him and he was arrested and charged with 7 felonies. She was detained, and won't be prosecuted as long as she testifies against him. She is currently trying to bail him out of jail. I have sat her down and discussed her poor judgment, but am I putting my daughter in danger? Should I let her go? Please help, I am in need of good advice.

Answer 1

Wow !! Everybody would like to try and print money but the bigger issue for you is the fact that her bf had drugs does that mean that she is doing that too if so get a new nanny somebody who is stable and check for references I feel you remember think of your child's safety first ...................D

Answer 2

I have my own daughter age 2 almost 3. i know that if the person i had intrusted to care for my daughter was behanving in this manner she would be let go. the end. i agree with the person under me somewhere in saying if he has 7 felony charges whts to say he wouldnt make kidnapping his next. I understand that good help is hard to find trust me. Im 18 and i get it. But if her well being is being put in danger then i dont care about the money or the time. TAKE YOUR CHILD OUT OF HER CARE!!!

Answer 3

gosh when I first read your headline I figured she was fine and your baby was safe... after reading on I have to say you are in a hard spot.

I suppose if she is with your dd at home and not taking her places then she is safe but my issue is that she knew the bills were counterfiet. If she had just been unaware and along for the ride then I would understand but when it's your printer and you are eating the food, I think it goes beyond bad judgement and bad choices on her part..

I personally would just wonder what other poor choices she may be making .. I would look around for other care but thats just me. I appreciate her being honest but shes not great.
good luck
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Answer 4

You should definitely let her go. She made a lot of bad decisions and your daughter does not need to be watched by a criminal. Give her a week or two of severance pay if it will make you feel better, but do not leave her alone with your daughter. If she has a key to your house, change the locks as well (in case her boyfriend convinces her to rob you or something like that).

Answer 5

Is there any question? YES let her go immediatly. You do not want your child to have that type of influence in her life. Unfortunatly it will be hard on the whole family but children often look up to there caretakers, your nanny. This i am sure is not the type of person you want your child to model after

Answer 6

Yes, cut her loose now.. The idiot that she is trying to bail out and the funny money should say enough and the DRUGS I can't believe that you even asked. I would get rid of her before her honey gets out. He will be stealing from you and maybe more than money.. If he gets out on bail, DO NOT leave your daughter with her. You could lose her. Think of that if you are afraid of hurting her feelings. You can't afford to be softhearted.. Too much to lose..

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Answer 7

I am questioning your judgement here!
A nanny will pass on both bodily care and vaules to your child, if this is the sort of values that you want to be instilled into your child then go ahead keep her, if not, well say good-bye and get a new nanny, or better still, stay home and care for your child yourself

Answer 8

If she is making those kinds of decisions in her personal life (counterfitting/drugs), I would really be concerned with her keeping my daughter especially if she was doing drugs.

Is she going to continue to see this guy? If she is, then you may want to look for other help as he's obviously been a significant influence in her choices of behavior.

Is she willing to change her behavior, make better choices, and dump this guy? If she is... then you may want to give her another chance.

Answer 9

I'd let her go. It only takes one thing going wrong for your daughter to be gone forever. People who do drugs usually associate with bad people and who's to say they wouldn't do something when your daughter is around. Not worth it! There are plenty of qualified nanny's out there. I'm sure it's very hard for you though.

Answer 10

Your daughter will reflect her nannies behavior if she is exposed to it enough. That is, if your nanny spends more than a few hours a day with her than any questionable behavior will be learned, to some extent. In addition, your daughter will start associating positive emotions with the same things your nanny associates her positive emotions with.

In addition, your daughter is going through what's called identity moratorium, she is searching for whom she wants to resemble, and your nanny may become idealized, but more importantly her apparent behaviors and temptations. The daughter will envelope herself in that ideology, causing potential detrimental effects.