i want to have sex with my boyfriend without a condom?

Question

he had i have been together over 2 years now and we have done it without a condom a couple times but it was only for a minute or two. he never got anything inside me.

I am on birth control and have been the whole 2 years we have been together. i am on the nuva ring. i was on the patch for awhile but i changed to the ring about a year and a half ago.

I really want to have sex without a condom. he isnt too ok with the idea and i know thats the smart thing but i was wondering, if i have been on bc for this long will i get pregnant? i know how baby making goes so dont talk to me like i am stupid. please.

this is a serious question.

my boyfriend wants to get his sperm counted to see how likely it is for him to get me pregnant. he doesnt want a baby right now. i dont think our age is important but we are both older then 18 he is older then 20.

please give me any information you can on the topic, i really apperciate it.

thanks

we both have been tested and we are both 100% clean. We are each others first so I didnt think we would have anything to worry about anyways.

I think i am going to wait until we at least move in together and get engaged. just in case, is that a better idea? I know it sounds dumb to want to have unprotected sex but its just something i have had which is why i think i want it so much.

he is smart in not wanting to but know he is thinking it might be alright now since we are so serious about each other.

WE HAVE BOTH BEEN TESTED. WE ARE EACH OTHERS FIRST. WE HAVENT HAD SEX OR ANYTHING WITH ANYONE ELSE!!!

I KNOW WHAT STDS ARE BUT WE HAVENT BEEN WITH ANYONE ELSE....

WE HAVE TALKED ABOUT IT AND HE WANTS TO DO IT TOO BUT HE DOESNT WANT A BABY RIGHT NOW.

PLEASE READ ALL DETAILS BEFORE YOU ANSWER!!!

Answer 1

Whenever you have sex without a condom, you are taking a huge risk..birth control or not. I know that birth control says that a chance of pregnancy is such a low percentage but it is more common than many people think. In the same year, three of my friends that were all on birth control got pregnant.
(And they were seriously on top and responsible of their b/c)
It just comes down to if you want to take that chance.
I would suggest you don't.
Not only for those reasons but also because it sounds like your man does not want to and telling him to not wear it would also show a lack of courtesy and understanding on your part of his feelings (believe me, that is how he may take it)
If he is going to get his sperm counted, you should go with him and the doctor may be able to provide you with better facts. (Although, he will also tell you that it only takes one)

Answer 2

The whole idea of the pill is to be able to Make Love without using condoms. Condoms are an interference to great Love Making and reduce the experience to both persons. The number pregnancies using the pill is really low, and somewhat matches that to those using a condom. That means that those on here using a condom and saying that you should use one, should then be asking their girl friend to go on the pill along with their using a condom? I'm not sure of your age, but if your over 18 and your boy friend as well, I'm suspecting that he's someone who knows what he's found and has kept himself for that person like I did. I would say that with no risk of std's that he knows what he's doing and plans on keeping the good thing that he has for the long haul and for life. My Lady and I were each others first with no fears and the freedom that you two have. We started out like you. We've been together for 3 years, and married for 2 years now..very much In Love and enjoying Amazing Love Making 1 to 3 times per day. I don't see your Dude as any fool and as someone who does things with a purpose and a reason. If it was his plan to be multiple partner, he likely wouldn't have still been a virgin. Wanting the best for you both Me! :- )

Answer 3

While you're mentioning you're on birth control, I presume you mean that it is contraceptive strength. Some women take birth control for treatment of acne at a level which is not as strong as needed to provide contraception. Presuming your birth control is contraceptive strength, the only real thing you need to do is add another level of protection in order to make the protection almost foolproof.

You should probably use two forms of contraception. Since you don't need the venereal disease protection of condoms, then what you want to do is use something else, like foam or film in addition to using birth control pills.

The reason being that one form of birth control can have a failure rate as high as 3%. (If not used correctly the rates of failure can be far worse.) Using two forms together reduces the potential failure rate to 0.0009%. This isn't an error; the potential for failure drops from 3 in 100 to 9 in 10,000.

Another or third method which could be used is as follows. While this might be a problem (it's troublesome, e.g. a bit of work to accomplish), sperm can't survive in hot areas (that's why the testicles hang outside the body, so they get some nice breezes). If your boyfriend soaks his balls in very warm water for a short period every day for a few days before having sex, it can kill off the existing sperm and if used consistently can be as effective as regular contraception if not more so. Which was one of the reasons some men would take hot baths every day even though it was often considered that bathing once a week was adequate. This method was used (and I believe, successfully) for a long time - thousands of years - before less troublesome methods were developed.

Answer 4

Birth control does not garuntee anything. You are taking a huge risk. If you plan to have unprotected sex, then be ready (JUST IN CASE) to play house. Every woman's body is different. You are taking a 50/ 50 chance. I got pregnant on bc...... be careful. First its "oh lets just try it once without a condom" and then its "hey, lets try the pull out method." Then one day out the blue, its gonna be "ooops! I'm pregnant!" Its just piece of mind to use protection. Or you could just wait til you get married. Not trying to be funny so don't take it like that.

Answer 5

if you're on bc, they're all not 100% effective, there's always a risk. Technically condoms aren't even 100% effective either. (and bc does not protect you from STDs, so make sure he doesn't have any...)

My boyfriend and I are having the same issues right now, and we're about the same ages as you, except i'm the older one. we both wants kids, just not right now.

I mean, obviously, we all know how babies are made, but as long as you do what's called for with the birth control, it should work. People wouldn't use them if they didn't.

but it's really up to you, as you're well aware of the possible outcome (aka, a baby)

Answer 6

Okay well if you want to do it do it if he is 100% sure that he wants to take the chance that you might become pregnant and remember Birth control is not 100% affective so there is a chance that you can get Pregnant and do you really want to take the chance of having a baby right now since he is not ready to be a Father?

Answer 7

You COULD still get pregnant. The only way to be sure not to get pregnant is to not have sex at all. By using two forms of BC you're less likely to get pregnant. Have you both been tested for STDs? If not you should really consider that before doing the act w/o protection.

Answer 8

Well with any contraceptive it's not 100%. You can still get pregnant even if you are on birth control. If you still want to have sex without a condom I suggest you and your boyfriend go get tested first, to make sure either of you aren't carrying any type of stds.

Answer 9

Condoms and birth control pills are not 100% effective
However Babies and Hiv/Aides Are More Than A Reality if you are not careful and playing a immature game of I can pull out.

Sweet precious one that is just not a safe or healthy thing to do in this day and time.

Answer 10

The preganacy angle aside, keeping onusing a condom is a wise decision. 2 years is hardly enough time for any and all STD's to have been cleared. It's too risky, also because no birth control is 100% effective. Is it worth risking a pregnancy as well as your health and possibly your life?