he comes up behind me with my clothes still on and humps me...i tell him to stop he doesnt... he is teaching my child to do this cause she seen it more than once...please help me get him to stop and grow up.
2007-09-25 07:21:10 · 19 answers · asked by bzstacy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Explain to him that in the future she may do that type of behavior to other little boys before she is old enough to know what she is doing...or even allow an older man to do it to her. That should give him a not so nice visual and maybe he will stop. Just tell him to wait until she is not around and save that for private behavior. When your daughter gets older it can resume again since she will probably go " daddy that is gross eww..." and it won't matter then.
2007-09-25 08:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it not in front of your child, tell him you feel its REALLY important to teach her respectful ways of being affectionate and teasing towards one another. Thats just immature, but maybe if you relax and dont make a big deal he'll stop. He might be trying to get a rise out of you, my fiance usually does something more if I tell him to stop even if I get really upset, I think its a guy thing, I have to drop it and then he stops? You could do it back and act really stupid and maybe he'll feel dumb and stop. Not in front of your daughter though. Good luck.
2007-09-25 07:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by MNgirl@thebeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband use to do this too it drove me NUTS! I just was firm with him and told him to stop, it is not bad for kids to see affection between their parents though just nothing to the point of being vulgar. It is healthy for them to see their parents kiss, hug and touch, but like I said keep it rated PG in front of the kids that is the compromise I had to make with my husband now he only humps me when we know she is not around! We lay on the couch together my husband and I and we kiss in front of my daughter and she has caught him more than once feeling me up above the clothes (which we stop as soon as we know she is there) but she just giggles and walks away and like I said some intimacy in front of the children is good it lets them know what a healthy relationship looks like, as long as you are not almost to the point of fornication in front of them.
2007-09-25 07:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Humping? What a stupid little idiot he is! Seriously by all means have a kiss and cuddle when your kid is around, but sexual thrusting is quite bad manners. Why wont he stOp? Ask him in private WHY HE WONT STOP and demand and answer. If he is upsetting you he needs to realise it is unfair and change his ways.
2007-09-25 08:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by Siamese Triplets 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he is putting a bad influence on the daughter. Then explain to the child daddy is just dancing on mommy. Let him know, he'll get it later. Hint and wink on the subject.
2007-09-25 07:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Pika Hime Chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just told us. Tell him to stop and grow up! Even though he's trying to be funny, he's teaching his daughter to walk around and hump people. He'll be mortified the first time she does it to a stranger or your mother-in-law. Talk to him soon.
2007-09-25 07:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is something that you may want to rethink. I know that sounds horrible but think about it. My husband was brought up by parents that did not show any kind of "relationship" of the married kind. He is now very reserved and shy about sex even now and we have been married for 8 years. My parents were like your husband, and I am a open and have a healthy sexual appetite. As a teenager I understood sex and I felt comfortable with my parents enough to talk to them because they never hid anything from me. Kids are more likely to experiment with things that they dont understand. Not to say that is approprite for your hubby to do all the time but I would think twice before hiding it all together.
2007-09-25 07:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by ldysam1 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Push him away or tell him that it's disgusting and showing your daughter that she's just an object. Ask him how he's going to feel when his daughter is fifteen and thinks that it's appropriate to be humped. If she sees it now and thinks it's ok, she'll also think it's ok to be having sex and to be treated like an object. He probably won't like that idea.
2007-09-25 07:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well how old is your daughter??
I would talk to your hubby and tell him that it is not a good idea to do that in front of her b/c he's teaching her that its ok to do .. and when she gets older (teen years or younger who knows) she's going to remember that and do i with other guys b/c her dad did it in front of her. I mean yes it is important to be affectionate in front of your kids but thats crossing the line. theres somethings that are just inappropriate.
2007-09-25 07:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by Christen T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its childish innappropriate behavior for sure.. he is "testing" you.. if you tell him to stop he will probably pout and say you are picking the kid over him..
I would ask a professional to help or your kid will have a distorted view of sexuality....
on the other hand it is important that kids see parents being loving to each other so make sure you hug and kiss hubby lots infront of her - that might make him more secure and he will stop the other behavior...
2007-09-25 07:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋