There's this guy I know who lives 1 state away. Last fall, he started emailing me a lot and was like "Oh, I love you, Cutie," and wanted to get together and all that...then he stopped talking to me in January ('07). I hadn't heard from him in 9 months. NINE MONTHS! But guess what? He's emailing me now, and he's starting all that up again! He's 3 years older than me! I'm only 15!! I have a crush on a guy from my school who is MY age, and this 18yr/o guy is trying to start "back up" our relationship after 9 months! I'm not into him anymore. I've tried to nicely send him hints since he's really sensitive, but he's just not getting it!! I don't want him anymore! He hurt me 9 months ago! How can expect me to take him back?!? HE'S OLDER THAN ME BY 3 YEARS!!! Help!!!!
2007-09-25 07:12:57 · 27 answers · asked by ♥SorrowLasts♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
fyi: i met him at a camp last summer
2007-09-25 07:17:48 · update #1
summer of 2006
2007-09-25 07:22:04 · update #2
Honey, guys don't get "hints." They aren't mind-readers. And this guy isn't really all that sensitive if he ignored a relationship for nine solid months - he's just needy and cowardly.
You can be polite but still be blunt. Tell him straight out - "Since we didn't talk for the last nine months, I felt our 'relationship' was over, and I moved on and am now interested in someone else. I'd love to stay friends, but I'm no longer interested in a romantic relationship with you, which would be illegal anyway. I'm sorry to disappoint you, but I don't want to mislead you."
And honestly, unless someone's dying or pregnant, it isn't a "major issue".
2007-09-25 07:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not as sensitive as you think. We put on that face to try to connect w/ girls better. We don't get subtle hints, so you need to tell him to knock it off. He probably got together w/ another girl for the 9 months he disappeared from your life. You should date the guy that's close and your age. It just makes more sense. If you start dating the kid in school, maybe just mention that to this other guy... this will likely get him to back down.
2007-09-25 07:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by asig33882003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he knows you are 15 then he is a perve. Just tell him outright you no longer want to be bothered by him. Or, the best thing is to not answer the emails. Actually put him on the "spam" or unacceptable email list. You have nothing to lose by doing that. Stick with guys who are your age.
And he may not be that sensitive. People can "write" anything they want about themselves over the Net. It doesn't mean it's true.
You're smart to be able to see through this.
2007-09-25 07:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so what makes him think he can walk in & out of your life JUST LIKE THAT...9 months is almost a freaking year...he knows your young & when he can get you into him again by saying some "sweet words" screw him! its not like you see him in real life or something? just STOP RESPONDING back to the email; do what he did; give him the cold shoulder...& go with the guy whose in your school.
2007-09-25 07:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by crazykiaray23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Block him from emailing you. Go into your options in your email account and you will be able to move on. He will get the hint. It sounds like he is just using you after his little "flings" he has in between. Not worth your time!
2007-09-25 07:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, NOW he is an adult harrassing a YOU, a MINOR. Tell your parents. Obviously, he had a girl during those 9 months, now he has broken up with her and thinks he can drag you back to his cave. BLOCK his email. You sound more mature than him.
2007-09-25 07:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by CAT 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have you ever met him? if not.. block him, he's to old and lives to far away anyways.. and people on the interent are not always who they say they are,, how do you know he's not 50? or 5? if you are worried about it.. talk to your mother about it.. she'll be able to help you with what to say because she definitly wont approve of you dating an 18 yaer old anyways.. so date the guy at your school. he's your age, and you know hes not some freak. good luck
2007-09-25 07:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by miss huff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him when he stopped talking to u nine months ago u moved on and are interested in someone else. u have to be honest with him even though u may hurt him. stick to the guy at your school.
2007-09-25 07:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by jello80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl hes just playing games never did ya have a relationship
your to young so stick with the guy you have now and block this other 18 year old
2007-09-25 07:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by <3 ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him hints, be direct. Be honest, tell him you've moved on, after all, it's been 9 months and this is a cyber relationship...
2007-09-25 07:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋