My boyfriend was allowed to invite 3 people. Well, one of those three people just messaged me and asked me if they can bring 3 more people. Everything is already prepared and it's just a small wedding (16 people). I know all 3 people he wants to invite, but I want to keep it small, I don't know how to tell him that he can't bring the extra people!
2007-09-25 06:06:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
OK SORRY! I have not fully explained myself so calm down!
He was allowed to Invite 3 FRIENDS
We both have the same amount of family comming. I actually only have 2 friends comming and he has 3, the rest is our family! Calm down!
2007-09-25 06:34:10 · update #1
Just simply say what you said, that you were only able to invite 16 very special people who are closest to you and your fiance, and you are unable to extend the invitation to others. If you are having a sit down dinner, perhaps you could ask the others to drop by the venue afterward. Or, host a "we got married" party at your house or a bar or restaurant after the fact and invite your casual friends and acquaintances.
2007-09-25 06:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You've already gotten pretty good advices.......
Just think of this: that person ASKED whether he could invite others....... a closed question can only have 2 answers: YES or NO, and he must be ready for either of them. It's YOUR wedding so you have all the right to say "yes you can", or "I'm really sorry but we're really tight and we have already invited everyone that is very important for us and who will fit in the party room / lounge / whatever.... we can't afford to have anyone else come". They should be able to understand that if you didn't invite those people who you DO know there must have been some good reason for it. I agree with the last girl who said that it's tacky to try to bring along other people to a wedding where you've been invited ..... if you only got 1 invitation (i.e. you can't even take your partner with you), it's OBVIOUS there must be a reason for that.... it's very bad taste to try to crash in with a MULTITUDE!!!
2007-09-25 06:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off I'd contact the person that messaged you and let them know the situation. Simply state the truth, that's not so hard and in doing so you'll feel more at ease by sticking to the original plan. If you are having a reception after then possibly you could ask them to join in your celebration. Your wedding is stressful enough, you don't need to deal with this kind of nonsense. Congratulations to you and may you have a happy healthy life together.
2007-09-25 08:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by ishowtt4beads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just simply tell your future husbands friend that you want to keep your wedding small and private. I don't really see how you would really have to explain too much more. I think it is kind of rude for you fiancees friend to invite other people it was not up to him to do so.
2007-09-25 08:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by mardaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a response to your request to bring three extra people with you to the wedding. You inconsiderate moron. You barely made on the guest list as it is. The only reason your still on the guest list is your promise not to continually dig at your privates. If you show up at the wedding with the three uninvited people you will get the beating of your life. Thank you for your cooperation on this matter. Looking forward to seeing you at the wedding. ALONE!!!
2007-09-25 06:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The response is, "I'm terribly sorry, but all the arrangements have already been made and there's no way we can include more people."
But it's very interesting to read your account. You are having 16 people and your boyfriend was 'allowed' to invite three? That doesn't sound terribly equitable. Would it really be impossible to include the extra three? That would give him six out of 19 people, which is a better average than 3 out of 16.
2007-09-25 06:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You simply say , sorry, we are keeping the wedding very small. Its kind of tacky to ask to invite other people to someone elses wedding.
2007-09-25 06:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Angela C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just message him back and tell him that the ceremony and all is going to be very personal and private and everything has already been set up and all and there's no more room for anyone to be added to the list. Be glad that he asked first instead of just letting them show up! Tell him the truth, that there's no more room for anyone else and that you're sorry. Also thank him for asking instead of just letting them come and "crash"....
2007-09-25 06:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How rude of him to invite people to your wedding ! Just say no if you wanted those people there you would have ask them.
2007-09-25 06:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by newtex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just simply say that there is not enough room and you only have so many places for the people that were already planned on coming.
2007-09-25 06:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dance Maniac 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋