can i find my biological father and take him to court? sue him for unpaid child support? and get the backpay? i am 22 yrs old. and im in financial troubles. my biological father never gave my mom a dime for 18 yrs. he left when my mom gave birth to me. can i sue him for 18 yrs of child support? i also believe he was older then 18 and my mom was 15 when they concieved me. will that play in my favor in court?
2007-09-25 06:06:08 · 18 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if i can please tell me why and if i cant please tell me why
2007-09-25 06:10:53 · update #1
reddevilbloodymary u dont know what went on in my family. my mother has never been here for me, emotionally or financially. i had to get a job at 14 years old. ive carried myself financially since then. she didnt raise me. my grandmother did, and she's f*cken dead now so thank you! idiot!
2007-09-25 06:13:01 · update #2
she didnt take him to court cuz she didnt want me to know her husband wasnt my real dad. she has never confesses i have a biological father out there somewhere. i confronted her one day and she said cuz it would hurt my "step" fathers feelings. she never cared about my feelings or if i wanted to meet him.
2007-09-25 06:15:23 · update #3
chaoss13 i dont owe my mother nothing. i havent spoken to her in 2 yrs. she gave me a horrible abusive life. i never had a childhood when staying with her, i always had to clean and take care of my 3 brothers while she went out to hotels to f*ck my step dad and get drunk!
2007-09-25 06:17:39 · update #4
PLEASE DONT ASSUME I HAD A BRADY BUNCH LIFE, CUZ IT WAS FAR FROM IT!
2007-09-25 06:18:08 · update #5
THX chaoss13 ON THE EDIT!
2007-09-25 06:31:05 · update #6
thx angel, he did know about me....i guessits too late to everyone who answered wethere negative or positive but did it in a respectful manner. not rudely like certain ppl.
2007-09-25 06:35:01 · update #7
I MENT TO WRITE: thx angel, he did know about me....i guess its too late. THX to everyone who answered wether negative or positive but did it in a respectful manner. not rudely like certain ppl.
2007-09-25 06:36:33 · update #8
The back support is your mother's money. She made a choice not to persue it.
Leave it alone.
Let's call it what it is. You are in financial trouble, and looking for an easy out. This isn't your out.
Honestly, your mother did well to provide, obviously, and you owe her the dignity of not stirring up her past in something that she evidently did not want to come back.
EDIT: You have some serious anger issues. It doesn't matter how she raised or treated you. It IS a simple fact that support goes to the custodian of the child, in this case....your mother. She had her chances to collect and declined them.
Nobody assumes you had a brady bunch life.
I grew up not even seeing a picture of my father until I was 28. I know what it's like not having a father. I also know, that because he was such a "piece of work" that I am now a great father to my 2 kids.
You are using your whole past as a reason for your present, which from what I can see is spinning wildly out of control.
You need to take the reins and take control of your life now. It's no longer any issue your mother or father or grandparents have anything to do with.
There are many, many utilities within most governments that can assist people in times of need. In getting you qualified to get a good job, and getting and staying on your feet. Some people live off of these provisions. Others use them as a temporary crutch, when they just need a little help getting back on their feet. Look into what your local government can do to help you out.
2007-09-25 06:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately most everyone else is right; the money would belong to your mother and not you. I just don't think you have a case, at all. You might try seeking some legal advice, theres a chance you could be entitled to SOMETHING!! I am sorry for the troubles and strife you have had to contend with.. you had to grow up too soon. And girl try to vent some anger sometimes..its building up inside of you..don't let it take over. I hope this helps...try a lawyer and wish you BEST OF LUCK!!
2007-09-25 06:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Rachel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please contact a family law attorney, your question should come under what is called consultation , usually the first one is free, or another option is to locate family law web sites and search out the law concerning back child support in your state and the statue of limitation. I wish you the best of luck and much success, but do not allow your life to be embittered by actions taken beyond your control, your mom for what ever reason has not searched him out In court that is a big red flag, and as always DNA proof is required, please! please make sure Mom has no secrets concerning you, ask her to tell you everything about her relationship with your Dad because it is always another side to every story told. Do you just want and need the money or do you want to get to know this man as your biological father? Make sure your motives are clear and not based on rage and entitlement alone.
2007-09-25 06:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it might be too late now.....based on child support law the support will start on the date when u file...but like u mention your over 22yrs old now....so your not consider a minor...your mom or your grandmother should file for child support when u where minor.....then if your mom knows his middle name it will be easy for the child support agency to find him....or better if she have the sss....but let say your mom file the support long time ago then it already 2yrs but still they haven't found your biological father the child support agency will dismiss your case.....it happen to my friend....plus also with my sister..on my sister case when her and the ex husband separated....my sister didnt file support after 2yrs.....so the child support agency didn't charge the ex husband for those yrs ONLY WHEN SHE FILES HIM....
on my case since i was pregnant(3mths) i already file my son father for child support...lol so now he has BACK PAYMENT PLUS THE INTEREST.....so he owe money for my son...so no matter what he needs to pay that....now i'm still receiving support from him......
my other advice for u is.....search for your father..used the internet...i'm assuming he didnt know about u....any how i hope i kinda help u on your situation...WISH U GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-09-25 06:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a little bit too late to do that now. It should have happened before you turned 18. It sounds to me like you are just wanting to get something for nothing now, and I think that's what it would look like to the courts as well.
2007-09-25 06:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by kj 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately Nothing can be done. Your mom was the one that had to file a child support case against your father. She didn't do that and now you are 22. you can't file that claim now it is too late. Why didn't she take himto court??
2007-09-25 06:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by jpoveda2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but, no, you can't do that. The reason why is because the mother of the child (your mom) would have had to have filed for child support. Sorry about your financial troubles - you will have to look elsewhere because as much as I wish that is what you could do - you can't.
(btw- just think of it as - you are better off without him anyways if he left).
2007-09-25 08:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not put your concentration on figuring out how to earn more money. You're all grown up now ... or you should be.
Get a job, get financial planning, get yourself out of your own financial troubles.
Thinking about suing your bio father is a childish reaction. Not feasable.
2007-09-25 06:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
baby help and custody are 2 distinctive themes. the two could be court ordered. because your father grow to be court ordered to pay baby help on your mom, that's what he's doing. because you mom grow to be granted custody of you with the aid of yet another court order, you reside together with her. in case you want to stay consisting of your father, and your mom isn't prepared to allow you to achieve this, he might want to return to court and petition that the unique ruling giving your mom custody be overturned. to ensure that that to prevail, he might could teach that living consisting of your mom is a threat on your life and secure practices. So no, you saying you do in comparison to your mom (as all babies your age do faster or later) will no longer make a decide overrule an modern custody order.
2016-10-19 22:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may find your father but why you should take him to court? now you are 22? you are a grown up woman so be that, why you have to depend on him? now you can work and make a living without him, so do it, ignore him, if he wasnt a good father this is his problem, you be a good daugther and forget/forgive him. .
2007-09-25 06:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋