So I saw my ex last night, I hadnt seen him in moths. Here's a little background he cheated on me and I found out in a very harsh way. We then broke up and he decided to go out with her. Now all of the sudden he calls me to tell me he has some of my stuff and for me to come pick it up. It just so happens that they're not together anymore. When I saw him I realized that I still have feelings for him, but at the same time it brought up old feeling of what he did. I sent him a txt saying it was nice to see him again, but he hasnt responded. That makes feel even worse, what should I do? Should I tell him that I still have feelings for him? I dont understand why he called about things almost 4 months later!!!!
2007-09-25 06:01:29 · 25 answers · asked by x8Jaded8x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you get your stuff? Good. Time to move on and forget about him. It's for the best.
2007-09-25 06:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by Billy Bob Barker 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he probably realized that he still had feelings for you and that could even be the reason why he broke up with that girl.
Still, if you think that you can't forgive him, there's no point in dragging up the past.
But, if you actually have feelings for him, then why do you have to lose by telling him?
My guess is, he now knows not to mess up with you, and also knows how much he cares about you, so if the two of you were to get back together, he'd think twice about jeopardizing that.
Good luck.xxx
2007-09-25 13:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No--don't tell him anything!! Funny how he waits until AFTER he's not seeing the other woman for you to come get your stuff. I would leave it alone...I know it hurts!! But I think it will be for the best. Besides, the feelings you got back about him cheating will follow you..and could hinder the love feelings. Just do your best to try and forget about it..and move on. He doesn't deserve you!! Hope this helps..
2007-09-25 13:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Rachel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine you still have feelings for him, that just means the feelings were real. If he came to you soon after the break up realizing the error of his ways, that my have changed my opinion. He didn't so for him to bring up returning your things now and not to have attempted to do so while in his last relationship speaks LOAD AND CLEAR!! He wants you in his hip pocket. You know, the I don't want you but like that you want me thing. Not answering your text says it, but since he did contact you I see one thing. He is insecure and selfish. He wants to feel desired even it its hurts someone else.You said you didn't tell him you still care? I could tell you did in your message before you even wrote it, I'm sure he knew it from your voice. Don't be his self-esteem booster, he doesn't do the same for you. Pick someone who feels lucky to have you.Go get a ticket to a baseball game and keep moving to empty seats till you meet a new friend. Your ex isn't terrible, just terrible for you.
2007-09-25 13:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opion only, he cheated on you because he wanted sex with another woman, I feel most men who cheat are very insecure and immature. Now after the thrill has worn off, he realizes that he made a mistake, he loves you, but is too ashamed to admit it because of guilt. He would want to come back to you but down the road I feel he will remember how exciting the extra sex was and stray again. I suggest the
only way is to move on with your life, I know when I caught my wife in bed with another man, it hurt like hell, but I started to date and my life went on and I am better for it.
Good luck and remember you are a very nice person and you deserve better in your life, go get it!
2007-09-25 13:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by jake5282 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Acccckkkk!!! Leave him be! DO NOT waste your precious time, energy and feelings on someone who so obviously has no real feelings for you....is not worth it...is a "player" and should have a neon sign over his head that says "BAD NEWS"....
If he really, really, liked you...he A) would never have fooled around on you and B) would have texted or called you back...you are setting yourself up for a BAD fall if you continue to persue him.....
Think more highly of yourself than that...there is someone else out there who will love and appreicate you...
You are WELL RID of this guy!
2007-09-25 13:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Toots 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat. always a cheat......Remember you can't change a leopards spots......Trust me I was in love with my ex for 8 years. He cheated on me too. I still think about him, miss him and think about the good times we did have in 8 years...wonder what he is doing and if he misses me... but I also think if we were to get back together would I always wonder what he is doing and with who. It's not worth it... You have memories and someday you will find the one who is right for you.. The only reason that I can think of that he called you about your things is to see if you would crumble and you didn't so pat yourself on the back. If he truly changed, which I doubt he would be calling you.. Just let it go and you have been without your things this long, you don't need them.....
2007-09-25 13:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it! Just be happy that you got your stuff back and leave it at that! If he cheated on you once and broke up with you for someone eles, he'll do it again as soon as something he thinks is better comes along.
2007-09-25 13:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by god_chic 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey he's a jerk don't fall for it, he's a jerk. Keep yourself busy, get a hobbie, take a class, join gym, spend time with your friends, pray, Its normal to feel this way when you see an x, and its normal to have feeling for them. But don't put yourself in that situation again, if he did it to you once he'll do it again..
2007-09-25 13:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by Lily H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Live and let go, that's probably why he wanted your things gone. They would remind him of you who he wants to let go. You sound like your still young so don't dwell on what could have been but look forward to what will be. Good Luck in your future.
2007-09-25 13:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by AggieBoy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't even bother with that is you know whats good for you. Prove to him that you're better than him and don't need losers like him by finding yourself a real man.
2007-09-25 13:07:00 · answer #11 · answered by catch22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋