i just had a conversation with a friend who told me that lately, when she goes on a date, the guy expects her to pay for herself. i think this is BEYOND rude. not because the guy should always pay, because he shouldn't, but because whoever does the asking should be expected to pick up the tab, right? i mean, you ask a girl to a restaurant, you pick a place within your means and be prepared to pay the bill entirely..and if the girl asks you out, she should pay..but isn't it wrong to ask a person on a date and then when the check comes, ask them for half the money? in my opinion, that is just classess. i know people are gonna say things like i must be a gold digger or something but please read carefully...if you ask me out, you pay. if i ask you out, i pay. right? but you never suprise someone like that. i've been on dates where all i had was my phone and an emergency $20. i wouldn't even have half the money in that situation...but on the other hand, i've done the asking & paying, too.
2007-09-25 05:50:42 · 17 answers · asked by phlygirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i agree with you , whomever does the asking does the paying
2007-09-25 05:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by whatever 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I totally agree with you. Further more men lately have been acting this way and maybe that is why they are still single. I have a friend that was encounter with that exact senario and she left to the ladies room and just took a cab and never came back or for that matter even talked to him. I told her she was right to do that. Beside just as you say if you dont have the money then don't go to expensive places. If you invite some one you are expected to pay so this is about etiquette so all these cheap guys need to go and find out what is the right etiquette other wise I see them rolling around trying to get a relationship!
2007-09-25 13:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree to a certain extent. That is all very fine at the start of a relationship but as things go on I think its unfair for the man to pay for everything. Yes because we just always say we will go for a bite to eat and a few beers after.However I would not appreciate him asking me for money at the restaurant etc but would just get the beers later.
2007-09-25 12:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, the guy should expect to pay for the girl either way.That doesn't mean you can't accept it if she pays before you know. In that case just be happy. You should never go on a date if you only have $20 to your name, that is risking it. Stay home and watch movies, better yet have her bring the movies over and you get the refreshments. I'm not trying to sound mean, but your way seems cheap, especially if you are trying to impress a girl.
2007-09-25 12:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Peng-you 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im totally with you on that that account if it has been decided that way. I hate those cheap bastards that ask you out on a date and then expect you to pay for half or all of it. If he is so cheap from the get go whent it comes to somethings as mere as money, Im sure he would be stingy in other departments. Not just sexually but emotionaly
2007-09-25 13:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by dramaqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u ask a girl out on a date whether its lunch, dinner, or whatever the guy should pay. friends share tabs not a guy and a girl out on a date. i would never expect a girl to give me half the bill and even if she offered i couldnt accept. i agree with u completely
2007-09-25 13:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by jello80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... im with you but what do you say to this?
wana go out sometime lets go halffers
p.s i wouldnt ask that i always pay for my dates but im not a habitual dater and im not one of those people who always needs a g/f i pay because i can and if its not a great date than i paid to find out that person is not worth investing more time into. and if it is a great date small price to pay for a special connection. it would be cool to have a girl pick up the check though
alissa want to go out some time?
2007-09-25 12:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by a s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call me old fashion but I think the guys should be doing the asking and the paying. (Girls can drop some rather strong hints if need), but what ever happened to romance where the guy takes the lead in the relationship?
It's one of the important ways he contributes to the relationship! And once married, the money should be 'ours' not seperate apart from personal spending money! Don't people want to become one anymore? We're way too individualistic!!
2007-09-25 12:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey if she's ordering a freaking steak on her first date out with me then she's on her own gettin that paid for. First dates could be the one and only or more to follow. But I mean when I get comfortable with a woman I'll pay for those special meals.
2007-09-25 12:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree fully. Not only that, but there's the case of being a gentleman and chilvary that comes with the guy paying. My boyfriend of two years ALWAYS pays, because he considers himself a gentlemen (and he will tell anyone this is so) and only when he's low on funds, do I pay. When someone asks someone out, then be prepared to pay scince you are the one that offered the date.
2007-09-25 12:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by catch22 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I look at it this way (since I'm female): if I ask my boyfriend to go out to eat, I get the bill. If he asks me, he picks it up. Sometimes if I feel that he's been treating too much, I offer to help pay or put the tip down. I work, too, so why not help to pay sometimes?
2007-09-25 12:55:32 · answer #11 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋