Im 19 years old,,,Im a mother to a 15 month old girl,,,I'm graduating highschool this year,,,and I want to go to U.S. Military Academy at West Point,,,people are telling me that you can't have kids if you want to go to the military,,,or that I have to give up custody of my daughter to get into the shcool,,,I don't want to go to the war I just want to attend school there,,,then go on to become something great,,,I just can't give up custody of my daughter though,,,is this true that I can't get into the school if I have a child,,,someone help me!!!
2007-09-25 05:43:28 · 9 answers · asked by sexiiness88 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
May I add,,,Im not saying that I don't want to join the military or army exactly,,,I do wish to jion them but later down in life,,,like when my daughters older,,,for those people who had ignorant comments about me being "naother one of them",,,no honey I want to join but not to soon,,,thanx
2007-09-25 09:14:02 · update #1
The only way that you can go to West Point is if you have an EXCELLENT high school record and then agree to serve at least 6 years in the Army after you graduate. I do not know about kids though.
2007-09-25 05:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by nsrnugn 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You can not join any Armed Service as a single parent with custody of a minor child. If you give up custody temporally to the other parent or a grandparent you can join.
You can then take custody back once you have completely all initial training and get to your first regular duty assignment.
In most cases this can be approx. six months, more or less.
If you have any dependents you will not be accepted to attend a military academy. Your other option would be to attend a college or university with an ROTC program.
You would still owe the military time on active duty after graduation.
They are not going to just pay for your education and not expect something in return, usually six more years of your life.
2007-09-25 06:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most if not all will not become a baby sitting service. Yes you give up custody on paper, to the child's father or your folks someone other than you it is for the well fare of the child. Now once you come home from training to include schools you pick up were you left off. It becomes another battle. I'm sure that upon enlistment they ask do you have any kid (s)? Yes you do however, they are with in custody of such and such. So it is you have a child they are aware now later for you to be with this child becomes another matter later. You will/can get support sent while you are gone, it is a matter of over all custody. It is a mess but it is worked out each day.
2007-09-25 06:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Yogi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Fist of all why are you going to a military academy if you don't want to be in the military? Second you don't have to give up custody to be in the Army(I don't know about the other branches) The school's policy may be different though. I don't believe they can make you give up custody you have to have a "family plan". That is that when you are activated or deployed you have arranged for your daughter to stay with someone while you are away. As for the war thing... being in the military doesn't guarantee that you will be deployed to the war, however it is a huge probability that you will be. It really isn't as bad as the news makes it out to be. I hope i have helped you. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-09-25 06:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by Crys L 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You cannot have the legal obligation to support a child or children. (This applies for the entire four years.) You also must serve a minimum of five years in the military after you graduate. So if you "don't want to go to the war" and "just can't give up custody of my daughter", West Point is not an option for you.
http://admissions.usma.edu/FAQs/faqs_admission.cfm
http://admissions.usma.edu/FAQs/faqs_wp.cfm
http://admissions.usma.edu/overview.cfm
2007-09-25 06:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
West Point and all military Acadamies are out.. you may have NO dependents whatsoever, custody or other wise.
ypumay not enlist as a single parent,and you may not give up custody for the sole purpose of enlisting. nor can you regain custody at all during your first term of enlistment.
in any event.. you would be a poor candidate anyway.. by accepting an appointment to any of the Academies, you incur a military service obligation of anywhere from 5-10 years after graduation. so the whole 'want to go to school there but not go to war' premise is flawed. you WILL deploy. period, end of subject. No education is free.. you want the military to pay hundreds of thousands of dollars to educate you and then not expect to have to pay them back?!
2007-09-25 07:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
A few years ago, before I was married and had my second child, I was contimplating joining the Reserves. I spoke with a recruiter and they told me that I would have to sign over custody to his father or other guardian "on paper" so that legally the child's welfare was being taken care of for sure while I was away at basic training. You cannot take your child with you to basic. They cannot have recruits who cannot perform their training and/or tasks or who cannot complete MOS school because of babysitting or child care issues. That is what I was told. When this came up, I discussed this with my son's father and we are on good terms and he assured me that we would come up with arrangements so that "on paper" our son was in his custody, but when it came to custody when I was home or available we would work it out. It has to be "on paper" that the child's care is ultimately in someone else's hands, but you can work around that. That's what the Army Reserve recruiter told me.
I decided to not join afterall, but I nearly did.
Good luck!
2007-09-25 05:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really look into a non Military school.
You really don't want what they are offering. Its not just an education.It's a leadership school to.
It's great you want to get an educations and I hope you succed. Just not at West Point from your reasoning is. you would not succed there any way,So save the time and energy.look else where.
2007-09-25 06:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So I take it you want to join the military, get what YOU want from it, then get out without giving back? Then DON'T JOIN! We have enough of your types in the military, screwing it up for the hard working ones. Go to a normal collage, that's all I can say. As for giving up your daughter, all you'll need is a family care program, so your family can take care of her when you GO overseas. Why? there is no way out of it unless you go to Japan as a duty station and that's HARD just starting out. That's a reenlistment station I hope to get.
2007-09-25 06:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by agonzalez 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋