My hubby's EX is a hard person to understand they have join custody of their son.. She lives almost 15 hrs away they moved almost 4 yrs ago.Ever since she find out my hubby & i started a relationship,she started not letting their son come to visit or didn't allowed the child to talk on the phone.Hubby got behind 2 months due to an accident & I was sending at least half of the pay but even like that she got mad & for almost 2 yrs she didn't let the kid spend time with dad. He came this summer & left almost 2 months my hubby have called him, left messages& even wrote letters with no answer's.Last nigth she called crying asking him if he ever cared for his son, that ever since he met me he changed & much more,Which non of this is true he have done everything for his son we even had lots of FUN this summer he didn't want to leave & I have a good relationship with him.Why is she acting like that? I was not the reason for their divorce so I don't get it why she doesn't move on she is...
2007-09-25 04:47:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
married have a son , why doesn;t she let father & son spend time & have a better relationship we are even ahead 2 months on child support so she can let my hubby see & talk with their son but she is acting them same way like if he didn't pay anything , my hubby wants to take her to court because of this but he is unsure .. What to do?? We are planning a surprise 11th party for his son for December but she allreay told him & my hubby he will not come & spend christmas vacations with us.. Why is she like this am i the reason ?? What to do !! I hate this situations because I feel that because i am in theire lifes they can not have a father -son relationship... advices please :)
2007-09-25 04:51:27 · update #1
Same boat here...the explanation I have come up with is this. The "ex" is ticked that your man has finally got his act together. She stayed with him for however long and he wouldn't change this...or that...and so they finally split. Now your man is a reasonable person who is trying to take care of his obligations, and gosh she hates him for getting his act together with you when they couldn't make it work. She sees now that he can be an adult and it is tearing her up that he couldn't do it with her. It's not about you, you could be a saint and it would still be about the ex being pissed off that he grew up and got an adult relationship, and she isn't involved. As for the kid, well she will use him as a pawn, she will dangle him in front of your man to get him to do her bidding. Everyone else is right, get a lawyer, and do it fast. She can not just pull the child back when ever she finds it convenient for her, or not let him speak to his own son every day if he wants to. Go to court, get some rights to that child. At a bare minimum it will put your mind at ease that she can't screw with your guy any more, it will be in writing, and there is nothing the ex can do about it.
2007-09-25 06:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by CaCO3Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
child support and visitation are different and separate. She cannot control when the son visits, if that is an issue take it up with the Court system. Although in the long run it will be hard for the son - write to him, email, get him a cell phone so you can stay in touch with him all the time.
2007-09-25 12:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by phantom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your hubby need to take the matter to court. If she is denying him visitation that is illegal. She might have issues with you, but she is taking them out on the child, which is not fair at all... Get legal and legit visitation. If she denies it after that she could loose custody of her son all together. Good Luck!
2007-09-25 11:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by Leigha S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry all that is going on.If I were you I would encourage your husband to go to Friend of the Court for children and get a visitation/mediation hearing.As for you sorry but you really need to leave them your hubby and his ex to work things out.It sounds like they still have issues and you are trying to fix things.good luck
2007-09-25 12:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by lisa m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband really cares, he would have taken her to court 2 years ago when all this started. She has no right to withhold his son from him.
Just another example of how the immaturity and petty squabbling of the parents hurts the children.
2007-09-25 11:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Yogi 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She should allow your husband to see his son...that being said, you will NEVER know exactly what happened or how your husband was before you came along. You only know what you've been told by him and what you witness now. I'm sure she has some reason for her behavior.
2007-09-25 11:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time to seek legal advice. this woman has some issues and it seems like its past reasoning with her. If they legally share custody she is breaking the law by not allowing him to see/speak to his son. GOOD LUCK!
2007-09-25 11:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Gilly Bean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they have joint custody, she has to allow access, whether he is 'paid up' or not. It's not a pay to see them deal...
She sounds like she's got a lot of issues flying around. You probably need get your lawyer re-involved.
2007-09-25 11:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now you know why they are no longer together. She does not make any sense.
2007-09-25 11:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by notthatiknow 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋