Biological clock ticking??? When does it start??? I am turning 29, don't have children, have tons of bills

Question

and a husband. i want to have kids before i am too old.....
have a husband....................we've been married a while, don't have kids yet because we want to enjoy each other before having kids...

is the biological clock supposed to tick this young? when does
it start/??

Answer 1

Listen you are far from too old to have kids you have plenty of baby making years left. and as far as the bill thing goes if you wait to be totally out of debt you will never have children. life is short, enjoy and follow your heart. Tell your husband you never know he might feel the same way you do!

My husband and i both wanted children and were going through the same thing you are EXACTLY!! and one day we finally talked about it and relized we both wanted a baby! Now we are Happy Parents of a Beautiful baby boy. The Bills will always be their!

Answer 2

Honey, I'm only 23 and I feel like my biological clock has been ticking for five years! It's normal to want kids and to worry about being too old to be a mother, or to worry that if you don't get pregnant soon then you never will.

I'd suggest that you talk to your husband about this. Tell him how you feel. The two of you can probably come to some kind of agreement on when would be the best time to try for a baby. Maybe after some of the bills are paid off? Just make it clear that you don't want to wait forever.

Answer 3

The 'biological clock" is different for everyone. It's completely hormonal. For me, mine began ticking loudly when I was 24...certainly in no danger of running out of time then. Since that time it comes and goes. Typically the insane desires begin in late spring and last a few weeks.

I think with women being able to continue to have children well into their 40s it's hard to say when the "biological ticking" would begin. All I know is that all the women who I know who have waited until they are in their late 30s and early 40s to have children wish they had started earlier.

Think about it this way...if you have a boy when you are 40, when he reaches 10 (a very troublesome time for boys it seems) you'll be hitting 50. When he begins to get hormonal and rebelious you'll be going through menopause. The same can be said for girls of course. The women who are mothers of pre-teens and are now in the late 40s, early 50s, I see them absolutely exhausted. Menopause is hitting them hard and they are hormonal and tired and need a break.

So while at age 29 you still have a ways to go before in you're late 30s, early 40s...you may want to figure how many kids you want..take into consideration that you may have difficulty conceiving, and then take action to help clear up those finances to make it easier for you when you're ready.

While you don't have to start popping out the babies right now, now is a good time to get started in the preparation for having kids.

Answer 4

You have time. I just had my first child and i'm 30. I use to think my clock was ticking, then I got pregnant. I sure wish I would have waited longer myself so me and the husband could enjoy each other. Instead we have a screaming baby, bills piling up, and well, i'm on 3 hours of sleep! Look at the lady in the news that is 61 with twins. I'm not saying wait that long but you have time. My sister-in-law had her first baby at 37.

Answer 5

There's not a good or a bad age for the clock to start ticking. Or maybe for some women it never ticks. I know not all men hear it, so why would all women ?
Try spending a little more time with kids, it might just get it started;)

Answer 6

An intelligent person would ignore the ticking clock.. get your bills paid off FIRST.. kids are WAY expensive and being in debt will ruin your marriage and cause way too much stress.. so CUT ALL UNNECCESSARY expenses.. (cell phones, satelight TV, etc) eat cheaper - no meals out.. drive an older car, one that you dont have to make payments on...
concentrate on paying off the bills... DONT buy more clothes, shoes, etc...
Buy a house if you dont have one - no point in throwing your money to a landlord...

a good parent is one who realizes that haivng kids isnt always the RIGHT thing to do.. the best parents are the ones who realize they are not ready for kids or have none (eg. Oprah)...

if you are struggling financialy then 1 kid will be plenty.. and anyhow with over 6 BILLION people on the planet, and the enviorment on bad terms - it is irresponsible to have more than 1 kid anyhow...

Answer 7

I think every lady's clock is different. I'm 23 and I have 2 kids already. Me and my man have been together almost 8 years. Even with the kids we still enjoy each other. They really do complete us. I couldn't imagine life without them. Yes, in the beginning when they are babies it is hard because of the lack of sleep but it does get easier as time goes on. Just wait until the time is right for YOU. Everything does end up working out. We didn't plan our first child and we were very scared but things worked out for us.

Answer 8

Think about it. You are already too old. If you got started today, you will be 30, before you have that first baby. You will be 48 and still have a child in the house. If you chose to have two you will be about 50 with a child in the house.

If you think you have bills now, just wait until you have kids and see how many bills you have.

Now think abou this for a moment. You will have more bills, and 18-21 years of headache. How old to you think you are going to look when you are 50.

I am 41, and never had children, by choice. I am still mistaken for a man in his early 30's. I have traveled the world, with my girlfriend. We have a lot to show for ourselves, yet with both grew up in poverty.

I have way too many friends that could not start enjoying life until they made it to 55, or so. They have nothing to show for all that time, except for dysfunctional adult children.

BTW: The "Biological Clock" is a psychological metaphor (it is not for real).

Answer 9

Its actual you do strengthen your opportunities of having a baby with delivery defects, mutually with Downs Syndrome, as you age. normally that's worrysome over the age of 35, from what I even have heard. the reason being each era you have your physique selects the final, maximum healthful, chromasomaly perfect egg you have, ignoring the eggs with better chromasomes (Downs Syndrome) or different genetic themes. besides the shown fact that, having infants at 30 is positive, and individuals are having infants later and later at the instant. Many woman are having infants late 30 s and into their 40's. additionally, while you're mushy with aborting a being pregnant which you already know there is an anomaly of a few type they might demonstrate screen for such themes once you're nonetheless interior the legal time perameters for scientific abortion (i.e. abortion because of the fact of scientific illness/retardation/illness of the toddler, or wellness threat posed to mom). maximum Dr's propose you having this form of screening while you're over 30, except you tell your Dr. which you does no longer have an abortion whether some thing became odd with the toddler. whether you're under 30 they regularly constantly grant this screening besides. They asked me if i needed the screening and that i became in basic terms 25 when I had my son. i in my view might never have an abortion the two way so I opted out of the screening. I beleive each woman has to the impressive to chosen to have an abortion if this is powerful for them however, I purely could no longer do it myself. base line, while you at the instant are not waiting to have infants yet do no longer do it to make somebody else chuffed! that's no longer a reason to hold somewhat one into the international. you have to be waiting! and there is not any reason you won't have the capacity to have infants once you're 30! wish this is effective! :)

Answer 10

I married at 26 and did not have a child till 31. Enjoyed my 5 years of honeymoon ( married with no kids, focus on my career, spent lots of time travelling with my hubby) but all these come with scarifices. I have difficulties then to conceive. So I spent 2 years to slow down , went through medical tests and now I have a lovely preschooler.
So if you and your husband are ready, why wait ?
My gynay told me the best time to conceive ( that is for the good of the child, easy pregnancy for mum)is at the age of 26 years old because the body is at the best stage. No degeneration. I do hope I provide some lights to your doubts.
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