2007-09-25 04:25:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Grief Betty, I feel sorry for you.
2007-09-25 04:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by Zappster (Deep Thunker) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people need someone to just give a care about them, especially if it's been a long time since anyone has and they have been through a rough time in life.
It hurts to be alone, but then ..pity and care can be different. But sometimes, even pity can be welcome, because then you are not alone. But soon enough you will need someone who cares, an pity will not fill the hole inside..you need someone who cares about YOU not just your situation. Some few people can care about anyone, with real intent. Others can't, or don't know how perhaps.
People who are alone want someone .. want a friend that doesn't WANT to leave, that cares and wants them to be happy, because they care, not so they can leave and be done with it or not feel guilty.
Would your best friend have to feel that you wanted to leave them? If they were sick, could you just talk, or maybe even just hold them if their mother died?
Being alone...yeah..even pity can be welcomed for a time..sometimes it's invited, because they just need someone and end up saying things that make them, (not saying all, but by those I have been with, not putting anyone down, okay?) seem attention seeking and, well, wanting pity. Some want it because they hurt inside, others for attention.
when you need something, often you take the most direct path, if you don't think. And the direct path is not always one that leads you there.
You may need to make a friend, to find one. Not always someone who will care about a strangers hidden tears. Not often one who will care enough to help the person and not wish to leave. The person also must work, simply having a friend will not fix it, they must work to live again, same with any kind of being truly down..but a friend can really make it easier, especially one who cares.
Luck to you.
Reft~
2007-09-25 04:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by Reft 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most people don't, until they need pity.
Even then, if there were someone who was really in need of your pity, in the Webster's sense of the word, chances are their pride would still keep them from accepting it until they realized how pitiable they were.
The thing is, how are you going to stop someone from pitying you? It's like asking someone to stop liking you (or your hair). There isn't much you can do about it other than stop being pitiful.
2007-09-25 08:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately yes. There are some people who enjoy playing the victim in order to be pitied. I have a sister like that. No matter what happens in her life, she attribute it to some kind of attack by other. She cries for pity, in order to be the center of attention.
Needless to say, very quickly, people tire of being around those kind of people. They soon find themselves all alone.
2007-09-25 04:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pity party, table of 1?
My friends pity me because I haven't had sex in almost a year. They advise me to practice kegel calesthenics regularly so my vagina doesn't atrophy. (I think it's too late..)
It sucks.
It gets annoying.
Especially when the most frequent advice I get from relatives on where I need to meet a man is "church."
The only good thing that's come from it is I think my mother has officially forgotten I even HAVE a vagina since my sister is popping out babies like it's a profession.. nobody asks me when I'm going to have children anymore!! (Which I've always answered with: NEVER)
2007-09-25 05:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by nixity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their pity motivates them to compassion so that they will help me, then I would thank them for it.
Someone took pity on the man beaten and robbed. We called him the Good Samaritan.
Someone took pity on me for being too drunk and paid for a cab so I could get home. I don't know his name but I'm glad he helped me.
the pity that people resent is ineffectual or judgemental pity, the type that looks at you as being lowly and then for your pitiable state, they scoff at you. That's really not pity but condescension. People tend to get those mixed up.
So I understand your question, but I think pity can lead to good deeds, but it shouldn't be the only thing they feel. Whenever I was really in trouble, when I was in jail or when I couldn't get home, or when I was badly hurt, I was glad someone took pity. Maybe it's just me.
2007-09-25 04:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Rabid 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a 'knee jerk' reaction, negative reactions to pity that is. Have you ever bumped your knee real hard, and someone you love approaches with 'that' look in their eyes, saying things like, "oh my, does it hurt?" I get really irate, and really feel like striking out! It's natural.
I suspect you're referring to Christians who look down their long noses in contempt, while they try to 'save' you. That's probably the oldest post-paradise charactistic of a believer. I say that, because I think righteous Able had a long nose too.
2007-09-25 14:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not when people get over-the-top sickly sympathetic and not when the person who wants to be pitied is doing it for attention and not a genuine reason.
2007-09-25 04:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by ♆Şрhĩņxy - Lost In Time. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to be pitied. but i pity those who can't stand alone in this world when they have all the abilities to do so.
2007-09-25 04:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by poorguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if that pity is through money.
2007-09-25 04:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If pity means special treatment and free handouts, many people will tolerate it.
2007-09-25 04:33:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋