He has a good bunch of friends from nursery which they all came up together. but since he started in september he has a temper hes rude he has such an attitude how do i deal with this? He is smart for his age apart from photnetics!
2007-09-25 04:10:25 · 16 answers · asked by sexiebum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Now his sister has started nursery in the same school! Maybe he feels like his sister is trying to mustle in on his fun/friends
2007-09-25 04:15:23 · update #1
Little things like backchat me! or rude with his brother and sister nothing big yet!!!!! but i would like to nip this in the bud before major things happens. Oh and his father and are going through a divorce he see his dad once a fortnight
2007-09-25 04:22:50 · update #2
Amazing, isn't it; you raise your child a certain way and once they begin school they bring everyone else's bad habits home with them..... You just need to be consistant with your parenting skills and let him know that type of behavior is NOT acceptable in your home.
2007-09-25 08:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by David G 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Five year olds go through a stage where they test all of their authority figures. Be firm, be consistent and be patient because it should just be a phase. He's starting to become his own person and he's asserting his independence but he doesn't have the ability to be independent or express his emotions well so he acts out and talks back. It's normal five year old behavior and you're absolutely right about nipping it in the bud. If he learns that there are consequences to his actions or his words then you will have done an excellent job as a parent.
2007-09-25 12:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Susan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there are all kinds of things going on in his little life that might be either teaching him how to be rude (by example and/or modelling) or that are making him feel threatened, so he responds with rudeness (not knowing how to deal with those feelings any other way).
You need to address his behavior, every time it happens. Talk to him about how his choices of words & actions are not polite, not appropriate, not thoughtful towards others, not productive or useful for him.
But, if you only tell him what *not to do*, he'll never learn how to deal with whatever underlying issues are causing this behavior. So, besides just calling him on the rudeness, you should also try to get to the root of the problem - find out when/why this is happening - and teach him more appropriate ways of expressing himself and dealing with other people.
2007-09-25 11:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think his behavior has more to do with your divorce than anything that is going on in school. If possible get your EX to come over and all of you sit down together and let the kids know that what is going on between you is not their fault and that besides him living in another home, that you will try to keep other things the same, or as much as you can. You need to be on the same page as far as discipline. When he is acting rude, talking back, etc you need to have the same punishment so he knows what to expect.
2007-09-25 12:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldnt allow him to stay home with you and have that attitude would you? Would you put up with it and wonder about it? Or would you put a quick end to it?
Its the same, having gone to school makes no difference. If he's acting this way with you, imagine how he's acting away from you. You cant change his behavior anywhere else but from home. Start there.
Dont allow that sort of rudeness. Its not good for him, and not healthy for you.
Tell him how he should behave, why he should behave that way, what it means for him to not act like he should, and what results from it. Theres more for him to consider than being punished, a rude boy has little friends and is fond of being miserable. Not something he wants to be. His goal is to be a fine young man, and a strong adult some day, not a miserable grouchy person thats so ugly in his actions that no one likes to be around him.
Train, expect, discipline, CONSISTANTLY
2007-09-25 11:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, you sound like a very caring mom, first off. And he is lucky to have a mother who wants him to be respectful of others.
And it will eventually rub off on him, but it will take some work on your part. Just keep talking to him about his behavior and why it's not nice. I would give him time outs if it persists, because children need discipline, otherwise they will never learn self-control.. and have a more difficult road ahead b/c of it. Set the limits, and if he breaks the rules.. it's time out. Pls don't feel guilty for punishing him... It's our duty as parents to
discipline (I find it hard myself) But, let him know how much you adore him afterward. I'm sure he'll turn out just fine. Kids always have one issue or another that they need addressed. GL :)
2007-09-25 11:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by S&NFervor4Ever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh i have the same issue. my 8 yr old picks it up from her friends because they all talk to each other on the same level, then she tries the same at home. i just put my foot down and let her know that we are not her friends, we are her parents and rudeness will not be tolerated. of course, the parental issue in your house may have something to do with it, but honestly, they all seem to try the attitude thing on us parents no matter what. be firm even though you may feel guilty about it. he'll soon realize that home and school attitudes are two different things.
2007-09-25 11:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by just curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when a boy is being out of control, there is something bothering him. My son is 5 and is in kindergarden,sometimes when he gets home from school he is acting out of control or being rude.I will ask him if he is mad or sad about something . He will tell me if he is. I will also ask him what he likes and doesnt like about school.Most of the time a boy wont tell you what is bothering him unless you ask. You just need to look for the signs that boys give when something may be wrong, they show their emotions alot different then girls do, girls will just come out and talk about their problems and boys will give little hints. Like being rude, not listening, being distructive etc..to get your attention.So just find a good time to talk to him when he is settled down and maybe you will find out why he has been acting different. Good luck with your little boy. I know they can be a challenge.
2007-09-25 11:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by LILAC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent - you raise him with respect or a lack thereof. If the child is watching other children act this way he is likely to try and mimic this. Step in and tell him this is not the way to behave. Otherwise he could just turn into a little asshole.
2007-09-25 11:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by paisan_7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is testing out what he sees others doing and trying to be big. Correct him gently with out making him feel small. Explain that as a young man he needs to learn what behaviors are good to emulate and which are bad manners. Also reward him with praise when he is good.
2007-09-25 11:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by ruby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋