I really, really like this guy I've become good friends with. We hang out all the time and have like three hour conversations every other night. He's been giving me kind of mixed signals but overall it seems like he may like me as more than a friend. However, he just broke up with his girlfriend like two months ago so I've been waiting to make any kind of move until I know that he's ready for another relationship.
Well, tonight we took like a two and a half hour walk around the neighborhood and it was really great. At the end, he walked me to the door and I just kind of waited for something to happen but he didn't do anything. So when he started to leave I just blurted out, "Who are you going to homecoming with?" He was like, "I have no idea." Then it just came out before I could stop it and I was like, "Maybe we could go together."
Well he just shrugged and smiled and was like "It's possible."
Yeah, that's it. "It's possible." I just laughed and told him to think (cont.)
2007-09-25 03:49:17 · 15 answers · asked by spongegirl787 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
about it and we said goodbye and that was it.
I can't believe I just did that.
He didn't outright reject me, but what on earth does "it's possible" mean? And what should I do now?
2007-09-25 03:50:18 · update #1
Oh also homecoming isn't till like the end-ish of October. =/ But a lot of people are already asking each other, so I don't know.
2007-09-25 04:12:06 · update #2
Bravo you for having the courage (even if it was unintentional) to ask him. It's not easy to put yourself in a position to be rejected!
You said he smiled and said "it's possible" so I'd say it IS possible. According to your account he didn't appear stunned, didn't scowl or look sad or worried, so there is apparently interest there. Maybe he was planning on asking you and you beat him to it.
Ball's in his court now...just keep behaving around him as you usually do and see what happens. I wish ya the best. ☺
2007-09-25 03:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hello there young lady! I would call that rejection. Maybe he is just playing hard to get, or maybe he is still trying to get over his heartbreak! Some people take longer than others to get over broken relationships. It may take you a couple of days to get over a break up, but for others it could take months or longer. You never know. Just be patient because he already knows that you want to go with him and let him think it over. He has probably already made up his mind to go with you but is just taking it slow and easy! He knows that you guys will have a good time together because you already have nice long conversations and have found a common ground! I think that you will end up going together so have a great time! Good luck and have a great day!
2007-09-25 11:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by rttamez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he smiled nicely when he said "It's possible", I think that means a "yes". Give it a few days before you bring it up again, then as it gets closer to homecoming say, "Well I just got tickets to homecoming! I'm so excited!" That should start the conversation rolling again.
Don't worry, I think he really likes you. ^_^
2007-09-25 10:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is playing hard to get?
I wouldn't bother spending that long with a girl unless I was interested in more than a friendship.
If nothing comes of it, it is really weird why he would spend so much time with you/talk on phone for ages all the time etc etc, unless he is gay, and then you have a great male friend.
2007-09-25 10:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Him not wanting to commit to going on the spot, it's not a rejection. Relax :) Take your time and plan your next move, test the waters with a friendly chat.
2007-09-25 10:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Forlornn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt make a big deal out of it he didnt reject you at all he is just giving you the knowledge that the idea of going to the home coming together is an option and that he is willing to entertain it as an idea
2007-09-25 11:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't fret about it. I think you still have a chance. If he wasn't interested in going, he would of said he didn't feel like going.
Is there any reason he wouldn't go with you? You are friends right?
2007-09-25 10:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got a shy guy. Hang in there.Enjoy
2007-09-25 10:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Firefly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's shy?
You seem like a sweet person,keep trying.
2007-09-25 10:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by tweakk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's means give him time to ask you. He just broke up with his girl.
2007-09-25 10:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by tootsiebrownie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋