They tend to judge by the fact that they could overcome their own problems, not understanding that trauma has caused real damage that they are free from. What do others think?
2007-09-25 03:22:00 · 5 answers · asked by pete the pirate 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thanks for all of these great answers. I think in a way they illustrate my point. When I used the word 'trauma' I meant an event that was so overwhelming it caused permanent damage. With the greatest respect tough events such as the death of a spouse might be tremendously painfull and difficult to get through without causing 'permanent damage'. I agree people like that can get through with great effort and striving, but people who have been 'damaged' by trauma are in a different boat. They can get through too, but it is wrong I think to draw the conclusion 'because I got through my tough time with a lot of guts and determination this person must be weak, complaining, wallowing, or not trying because they are not'. If you think about it it is a terrible load to put on an already damaged person.
2007-09-25 16:23:24 · update #1
nobody can ever tell you what you are feeling except for you.....i was in a bad car accident years ago when i was a teenager..i live in pain...but i still do what everyone else does...now that we are getting older and some have had injuries....they are like i don't know how you do what yoiu do...
lost my mom 5yrs ago....and my dad a week and half ago....now that is trauma....there is no greater pain or emptiness then this...for me anyway....
i guess we all deal w/ things differently....from emotions to actions....we all lead different lives....the fact that they could overcome their own problems...hey that's great....but did they forget that time was the key....lots of thoughts...and finally one day they woke up and said okay enough is enough and then moved on....i think you tend to forget how long the healing process took once they put it behind them....we mourn more then death....we miss ourselves at times....the easy life of childhood...the loves we should have never let go....or should have lol...different people ...different results....what works for one person doesn't work for everyone....
best of luck and chin up
2007-09-25 03:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by catskillflower 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The mind is a very powerful thing. It can make or break you. I've had a lot of trauma in my life (from death of family members to divorce), but I've chosen positive thinking over negative thinking. You have to choose to get over things. It really is a case of mind over matter. You have to be strong.
2007-09-25 10:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by ck 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pain is relative. For example you can't say right now my suffering isn't hurting me as much as the guy in the corner with his leg hacked of and spurting blood. I think that when we are all caught up in our own misery and pain we can forget that and when someone wants so badly to help you, they try to encourage and inspire you with their recovery stories. I've found that often the intent behind it is self deprecating and along the lines of 'if little ol me can do this, you who are amazing can do this'. Mostly they mean well and we should love them for this even if its annoying!
2007-09-25 10:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Cat S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is true, mental as well as physical trauma is difficult to deal with & long lasting in a lot of instances. You have to work to just live with it. Unless you have been there, you really don't know!
2007-09-25 10:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by shellimarki 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are absolutely right. there are many different problems that people just don't or refuse to understand. Post traumatic stress syndrome is very real ask any psychiatrist.
2007-09-25 10:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Cherokee Billie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋