She never has like my fiance and he is the greatest everyone else loves him. She said she should be the maid of honor haha. I need her help and I can not see her helping. I can see her being a big lush at the wedding and ruining it. What do you think any advice or just ignore her.
2007-09-25 03:16:44 · 20 answers · asked by Kelsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What do I do?
2007-09-25 03:21:29 · update #1
I ask to be in the wedding because we moved to Boston together and she was there throughout the whole realtionship. Even though she was never happy for me more like jealous she is my friend.
2007-09-25 03:23:50 · update #2
Did we have the same bridesmaid?? Mine didn't hate my fiance, she hated me for having everything she wanted. She complained and complained about my sister being the maid of honor and thought SHE should be the maid of honor... meanwhile she refused to do anything for my shower but bring ice because she could steal it from where she worked. I ignored her but then it just got so bad- I exploded!!!! And I kicked her out of the wedding and haven't talk to her since. So if you can ignore her without being bitter or going off- then good for you. But it might be best to sit her down and talk about how you really need her help and support. Do it in a flattering way- like she very important and you just need her opinion so badly... honey always works better.
2007-09-25 03:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well im kind of confused as to why you chose her as your bridesmaid if she doesnt like the groom, she isnt going to be helpful, and she is going to embarrass you and herself by being drunk at the wedding.
I suggest you get a new bridesmaid. If your fiance as adorable and universaly loved as you say, im sure you have more than one girlfriend that would be more than happy to participate, help and share the happy day with you. If you dont have one, then dont have a bridesmaid. Is NOT a requirement for you getting married so why are you willing to overlook all the reasons why you shouldn't pick her?
And if she isnt family then why in the world are you inviting someone thats going to "ruin" your wedding day? Did she save your life? did she give you a kidney? did she hold your hand throught out horrible moments in your life? did she jump in the street and saved your blind dog from getting run over by a semi? If she did any of the mentioned, then invite her as a GUEST, not a part of the wedding process. If she didnt, then, give her the boot, this is THE day. Dont let her ruin it!
2007-09-25 03:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by mel_2512 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand you asking her to be in the wedding because of everything you all have done but it is your wedding and you don't need any more stress. This is suppose to be a happy, fun time not something to worry about. I would talk to her and ask her if she has a problem and let her know that you will be needing all of the bridesmaids' help throughtout the wedding planning process and such and if she can't or won't than she will not be included in the wedding. Try not to stress too much, if she is your friend she should want to help and not hurt you. good luck
2007-09-25 08:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by rate86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to her and finding out why she does not like your fiance ? It could be just a personality clash . Ask her why she feel like she should be the maid of honor ? also ask her to help out a little more than she has been . give her one important task and see if it gets done . also have everyone gather and talk about over indulgence in alcohol at the reception . I would try to be as nice as I can . I dont understand if you felt this way about her why is she in your wedding at all ? I hope everything goes well . good luck and congrats on the wedding .
2007-09-25 03:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's at least one in every bridal party that is a pain. Two in mine. They want everything their way, and if they don't get it, then they act like children. My wedding is Saturday, and it doesn't get easier the closer to the wedding. Its been real hard to bite my tongue. For instance, one of them cannot come to my bachelorette party(we are going to a spa) and thinks her other friend finding a dress to wear to the wedding is more important than the one thing I asked from everyone. But I would can her right away. She can be replaced. I wish I would have replaced a few of my girls.
2007-09-25 03:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she's a pain in the *** its a great thing that she is a brides maid... So don't let her get you and don't let her be the maid of Honor.. and don't ever talk to her about cause it'll just make he feel satisfied that she got you...
Its your wedding and don't let her ruin it.. Ignore her.. But if she crosses her limit then start showing your wrath
and happy married life!!
Cheers!!!
2007-09-25 03:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you knew that she did not like your fiancee, nor have any valid reason to dislike him so, then why did you ask her? Isn't that kind of akward? The problem here is that you already did ask her and are now complaining about her behavior. If you haven't already sat down with her and calmly asked about things or tried to work them out - do so. You're making assumptions that this girl will ruin your wedding, and that's very negative to assume this. If this is someone that's truly making you miserable - either ask her to step down - or live with the fact that you chose her. Best of luck.
2007-09-25 05:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand what hte problem is. All I"m getting from your question is that she doesn't like your fiance as much as everyone else (did he do something wrong?--elaborate) and that she wants to be your maid of honor (which is sweet). You are saying she can imagine drink heavily at your wedding but I imagine you knew all of thi sbefore you asked her to be a bridesmaid.
2007-09-25 03:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's your wedding and if she isnt going to support you and give you the respect you deserve she shouldnt be a part of it. Dont let what is supposed to be the best day of your life be ruined by a pain in the @@@
2007-09-25 03:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by believer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not have even asked her to be a bridesmaid!! since you did though I guess your just going to have to ignore her or boot her out and replace her.. This is going to be your day hun, don't let someone ruin it!! Good luck with her and the wedding!!
2007-09-25 03:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋