i been dating this guy for 2 months and have not met his son. It's been cool with us. I have kids and he met them so i am wonder why i have not met his son
2007-09-25 02:54:59 · 19 answers · asked by baby j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its okay, if the guy you date is cool then youre good, usually kids have problems with things like that, it takes them a while till they would be okay with meeting their dads new girlfriend, 2 months?????? i didnt meet my dads fiance` untill they got engaged, and only after i didnt have a choice.
take it easy, theres nothing wrong, it's only two months .
Good Luck!!!
2007-09-25 03:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Y Y 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did this with my son as well, and did not let him meet every boyfriend I had. I would wait until it was a serious relationship before anyone met my son. I did it to protect him. You have only been deeing him for 2 months, please be respectful of him not having you meet his son yet,he has a reason ...pretty sure it is the same as mine. The only other reson I could think of is that he doesn't have a son. He will let you meet his son I bet if things become serious between the 2 of you, but give him more time.
2007-09-25 03:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by army_sister71 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's only been two months. Is there a reason you absolutely need to meet his son right now? He's just doing what's best for his kid. It's never a good idea to involve them so early in relatioships, especially when you have no idea where it's going, and whether it's a long term thing. Kids need stability, and being exposed to each and every one of mom and dad's flings isn't it. But after you're both serious and have been together for a while, you'll probably meet his son. Good luck :o)
2007-09-25 03:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by ...nya? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people with kids (esp young ones) don't introduce their dates to their kinds until they've been together long enough and feel like the relationship might last a while...it's not healthy for the kids to see Mom or Dad's revolving door of dating partners, esp as little kids often get attached to adults easily and then if the relationship doesn't break up, the child suffers another loss (they've already been separated from one parent).
My guess is this guy is waiting until he's fairly sure there's a future for the two of you before bringing his child into the mix.
2007-09-25 02:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes its best to wait. A relationship can be great in the beginning then things can turn sour. If he introduces you to his kid, then ya'll dont work out it can affect the child bad. I mean children get very attached to people easily, especially to another famale. I have dated guys with children and in the end wish I hadn't met the kids because when things didnt work out the child would be upset and miss the other person. I completely agree with him not letting you meet them yet. Give it a while. When he's ready you will meet. And it will make things better because you will feel that the relationship is sincere and it gives an extra boost of confidence. Goo luck and best wishes
2007-09-25 03:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by luvinmykevin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
2 months is not really that long a time. I feel he is probably doing the right thing in making sure the relationship works out first and then you will eventually meet his son. You felt it was time for him to meet your kids which is absolutely fine. You need to talk to him about it. Maybe he could have problems with the boys mother in introducing him to a new partner so soon. Sit him down and ask him about it. Then you'll know for sure.
Good Luck
2007-09-25 03:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by emma157 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be being cautious in letting his son meeting you because of the length of time the 2 of you have been dating. He may feel he doesn't want his son getting close to you in case something happens in your relationship. Or maybe him and his child's Mother have some unwritten rule that each of them will not bring their child around the others gf/bf. Ive heard that is not an uncommon practice these days.
2007-09-25 03:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe protecting his son, like some ppl make the mistake is letting their partner meet the son/daughter too soon, and sometimes the persons leves out of their life and they don't want their children getting mixed emotions or getting attached to them at the wrong time?
2007-09-25 02:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
My guess is he doesn't want to introduce his son to you until he has a clue what direction the two of you will be taking. I think he is being very responsible. I am sure it is to protect his son from getting hurt if things do not work out with the two of you.
2007-09-25 03:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by green_clovers66 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it really necessary to toss someone strange, who you've only known two months into your children's lives? Apparently you are divorced... and kids don't really need to be exposed to some new guy (or woman) right off the bat.
Perhaps this guy you know is using his head, and getting to know YOU better before he brings the child into the picture.
Children of divorce can be insecure, ARE suffering emotionally, and don't need more turmoil in their lives... so perhaps this father is playing it safe right now.
His life, his choice.... i know that after i was divorced, i dated when my kids were at their father's... and kept my private life private. When i met my second husband, he didnt meet my kids for over 6 months... my choice.
2007-09-25 03:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋