comes to my house without warning to pass by and say hello, or drop off something!!
She has done this the last three times without as much as calling first. Last week it happened again and I was sick from the doctor's office and I just did not open.
I later called her and told her I was not home, even though my car was there.
Do I address this frustrating problem with her or just let it go!! I mean if she is bored of staying home all day, that is not my problem when I come from work, I dont feel like entertaining guests.
2007-09-25 02:44:49 · 6 answers · asked by reene2g 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Next time she drops by, open the door just a little and say "Oh, I wish you had called first! I'm in the middle of something right now, so I can't talk."
Make it sound like you really wanted to hang out but got busy with something else since she didn't call first.
2007-09-25 05:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asking her to telephone before hand is not going to work with this woman, she will telephone you constantly.
I suggest that you tell her to her face, answer the door, don't let her in and say: "(whatever her name is) I really need time to myself when I come home from work, I'll call you on the weekend if I am not busy. Thanks for understanding."
be firm, but nice, and close the door.
Its hard to do, practise saying this in front of a mirror if you think you will feel awkward saying this to her. You will feel tremendous relief after setting her straight.
She may not like it, even feel hurt, but she is being rude and stressing you out.
2007-09-25 03:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth. You don't feel like having people over at the moment, and ask her what she would do if she just happened to come at an embarrassing moment. Tell her that if she wants to come over to make sure she calls first. After all, like you said, it's not YOUR problem if SHE is bored.
2007-09-25 03:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by skeet monroe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you lie? Geeze, try to get in the habit of telling the truth! This was your perfect opportunity to say you didn't feel well and weren't answering the door. Which is perfectly okay; you don't have to answer the door or the phone if you don't feel like it.
2007-09-25 02:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by bonitakale 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, I am not a people person, and I have neigbors whom know i don't like people, so i think i can answer this one fairly easily. Just tell her that you are not up to having people come over when you come home from work. I can vouch for her being bored, ( i, too, am a stay at home mom,) but I can see where u are coming from. My hubby works and he tells me, that he doesn't like people to come over when he gets home, cuz he would like to unwind when he gets in the door. Don't ignore it!!! She needs to know you have boundaries and she needs to respect them.
2007-09-25 02:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So basically you have allowed to make you uncomfortable in your own home and made you into a lair?
You need to do the mature adult thing and address the issue with her.
2007-09-25 03:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋