2007-09-25 02:30:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
did you cheat? if you did not cheat, then now you can go and sleep with whoever you want, and not be blamed for cheating. she is the one cheating, so she is making you feel guilty while her legs are up in the air, and you are home stress. let it go man, move on now. bd
2007-09-25 02:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky situation that inidicate some deeper problem. It might have to do with what you have done before, or with her previous experiences with other people.
Also, do not forget that people judge others from their own frame of reference, and if this suspicion comes easy to her, you should ask yourself why that is the first thing that comes to her as an explanation. What is she doing herself if she jumps to these conclusions?
A few options (based on personal experiences of the same situations):
1) Tell her to stop making stuff up in order to feed her own desire for drama, and tell her that you will not even discuss stuff that is not real, and then just refuse to talk about it.
2) If you are interested in somebody else, go ahead and cheat. SInce you are paying for it and getting all the grief for it, might as well get some action.
3) Tell her that she is nuts and leave her.
4) Ask her if she wants to be with you if she thinks you really are cheating. If she says 'No,' aks her why she is still around (i.e put up and shut up). If she says 'Yes,' tell her that she should not make up problems about things that she thinks are acceptable (i.e. put up and shut up).
In conclusion, if she has already made her mind up that you are guilty of this and since there is no way to prove something in the negative, you can't change her mind. Make sure that it is not something she is using to signal that there is something else that is not right.
2007-09-25 09:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We cannot change the way people feel or think that is their own free will but we can alter it by talking to them and explainging to them why we did what we did she proably dosent know some reasons for why you did certain things and she highlights this points and puts them on alist go talk to her dont give an excuse for why you did something when she ask give her the honest truth even if it kills you.
2007-09-25 09:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are innocent, then, have a heart to heart talk with her. If she does not want to talk to you, then, send her a letter explaining your side of the matter. You must be able to convince her that you did not cheat on her. If that will still fail, then, try and try again. If all your efforts fail, then you can call it quits.
2007-09-25 09:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Reycen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't she believe you or trust you? You deserve someone to trust you, if you are telling the truth. I would say, if she doesn't, tell her you need to move on and find someone who does trust you.
Plus, she may have some issues herself, confidence, self-esteem. Many women throw those issues on their partners instead of dealing with them properly. If you are telling the truth, let her know that you will not stand to be with someone who doesn't trust you and treat you fairly. Good luck.
2007-09-25 09:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by elsaschneider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is to talk to her to understand why does she think that you cheated on her.
then you have to address her conserns.
If she still does not believe you, I would suggest you brake up with her as she does not trust you and is very bad for a relationship.
Good Luck.
2007-09-25 09:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cant. she's going to believe what she wants, obviously she has some insecurities if she just assumed you cheated and you really didnt. all you can do is continue to be you, if she can break her stubborn streak, she will see the light eventually
2007-09-25 09:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by teri is ambience 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to control you. I would bet she knows you didn't cheat. You need to be strong. Just say you didn't and don't jump or react every time she pretends you did.
2007-09-25 09:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Fafeom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with her. If she still will not believe you and continues accusing you of something you never did, then move on. It's not worth dating someone who won't even trust you and def won't bode well for your future together.
2007-09-25 09:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her tell her dat u want to meet her as u want clear something with her if u will insist her she surely meet u & then tell her that u didn't cheat her it was just a misunderstanding & also tell her that u still love her
2007-09-25 09:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋