2007-09-25 02:26:15 · 9 answers · asked by clarybell c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you can't make him commit if that's not what he wants. You can be a friend and maybe some day he'll change his mind but don't put your life on hold for him. Being in his 40's and living alone for so long he is probably set in his ways and happy with his life the way it is. There's nothing wrong with that if that is what he chooses. I wouldn't get my hopes up for any more than a friendship. If you are involved a little deeper than friendship but without the commitment I'd get out now especially since you do want more. Better to suffer the hurt now and begin to heal rather than wait for it to happen later on because it will. Find someone else who can give you everything you need and want in a relationship. You deserve that.
2007-09-25 02:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ersabette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment is hard for some and if you are wanting more you have to be the one to find it. You can't change his mind, and wouldn't want to feel he commited becuase you forced it. He may not be ready becuase he may not want that hold on him, which isn't good, or he doesn't feel the same way you do. If you want more go find it. If you are both happy the way you are which it doesn't sound that way, but if you are leave it alone. I wouldn't want to be 40 and know I could spend my life alone. At age 40 you should be old enough to consider commitment. He may not be ready to grow up. How old are you? After 7 years you should either know if you do or don't want this life together.
2007-09-25 09:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what YOU want...you said HE was committed to being single. Not a damned thing you can do, except abide by his wishes or get disappointed by your own stupidity.! You can't make a leopard change his spots just because you want a kitty cat...lol
2007-09-25 09:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
His age and the fact that he has taken care of himself for seven years means that he is set in his ways. Maybe you can continue being his friend/lover/roommate in time. Things have a way working out in time, one way or another.
2007-09-25 09:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Auftrit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get emotionally attached. He's let you know he doesnt want to commit, so why would you waste your time?
2007-09-25 09:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by teri is ambience 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to what Claribel??
Can you change his mind? Why do you love him? Is there something special that he have?
2007-09-25 09:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by Aquamarine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can commit to him if you want to, but don't expect him to be fully committed to you. If things go wrong, he'll just say, I told you I didn't want to commit, Duh!
2007-09-25 09:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new boyfriend.
2007-09-25 09:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Withold sex.
2007-09-25 09:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by mikeburns55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋