Parents, what do you do to command respect from your child?

Question

What do you do to seperate yourself from your child's friend? To make them know that you are their parents whom they should be respectful?

Answer 1

Father of three 14, 14 and 17. I see this almost every day with my wife. When I enter the room it all changes. My kids know what they can do as far as with me there and not. Here is what you will have to do to get respect. Tell them what is expected, what they have to do, and tell them this is the consequence if it is not done. It is very important for you to follow through on this. They need to know what you said has Merritt. Not just talk. Before you discipline them ask them what the arrangement was if the didn't obey you as the parent. You have to do what the punishment was to the fullest. You can't change the rules now. Good luck

Answer 2

Tell the truth. Think before you say, "No." Think about what they say, and be respectful of them.

And -- two things that are a little harder to explain. One is to -expect- respect. Don't think of yourself as a kid. If the child treats you disrespectfully, you don't get "mad" the way a child would, you are -shocked-! Your eyebrows are up to -here-. You don't have to say a word -- you just wait for the child to stand up or start work or apologize or whatever's appropriate to the situation.

The other is, don't think that getting on with the job or the project or whatever is more important than childrearing -- it's not. If you have to pull off the freeway and park to make the child buckle his seat belt or his mouth, do so. If you are in the supermarket with a screaming child, it's easy to give him a treat -- but that way madness lies. You may have to walk out, leaving a cart full of goods (tell some employee, so they can grab the frozen stuff and put it away), but that's life. It doesn't happen over and over; kids do learn. But you have to say what you mean, and mean what you say, and be pretty sure, most of the time, that you're right.

Answer 3

I think that the more often that you can show respect for them, consider their desires and opinions, help them achieve them whenever possible you will get more respect from them than you could ever "command".

Our children get pretty much anything they want, but it always comes with "work", sometimes they have to wait until mom & dad are done work, sometimes they have to do something to earn money for something. The only time we say a flat "no" is if they desire/activity is dangerous for the child, the rest of the time we help them to find a way to make it happen and work for everyone. This way "No" means something, and is respected because most of the time we are on their side and helping them.

Answer 4

I set an example. I don't ask of them what I am unable to do. I don't play the do as I say not as I do game. I talk to them about things that are important to the family unit and what their job within the family is. I keep communication open and answer any question asked.

I am not their friend I am their parent. I do not need to chill with them and their friends I just need to know what they are doing.

I also make sure that when they are doing well I give them positive feedback.

Answer 5

My daughter learned to respect me and I learned to respect her very early on. I taught her to say please and thank you as soon as she could talk clearly. She's had chores to do since she was three, but they were age-appropriate such as picking up her toys and putting her dirty clothes in the clothes basket. Now that she is five she has a chore chart and she gets stickers for a job well done.

I also make sure to set aside at least a half hour of time each night just for Mommy and me time. Sometimes we just talk and cuddle, other times we play games or do puzzles. It's important and we both look forward to it. It's a great way to relax after a busy day for both of us and it makes our mother-child bond even stronger.

Answer 6

First: I give my children respect. If they are to know what respect is; they have to be shown by example.

Second: I show my children respect by explaining to them "Why" they should obey their father and myself. Children don't see so clearly the obvious events or consequential effects of their actions, it is up to us to tell them the logical (most likely) outcome of particular behaviors. (good or bad)

Third: There are few times that there must be respect for "trust". For instance school, is a long and sometimes challenging task with no immediate payoff (no I don't pay for good grades) My children must respect me enough to TRUST that I am correct when I say good grades pay off. (scholarships, good jobs, college acceptance)

One thing I've noticed is that parents who make childhood "fun and exciting" breed children who never want to grow up into an adult world that is "un-fun and boring". I've told my chlidren "It's my primary job to help grow you into responsible and successful adults, in which I have 18 years to do that in. If you have some fun along the way-- consider it a bonus."

Answer 7

set a good example, be a good role model. Give respect, get respect. You cannot be your childs friend, they need a parent to set guide lines, help them make good decisions, and discipline them when necessary. As a friend, you can do none of those things, as a parent it is you job to do those things.

Answer 8

Respect is a two-way proposition. I don't command respect. I teach my children to respect all people, including me & dad and themselves.

We model respectful behavior to ourselves, our children and others. We talk to them about the golden rule & how it is the underlying principle of a productive, peaceful society. We direct them if we see them behaving disrespectfully towards others.

I don't feel the need to differentiate between 'parent' and 'friend'. All people should be respected, friends too.

Answer 9

My children are 2 yo. And they are twin boys. When I raise my voice they know. I like it this way.
People may think I am a bad mother, but they had to learn the word no pretty early. I would be feeding one, and couldn't always stop the other from doing something dangerous. Saying NO to them always stops them dead in their tracks.

Answer 10

nothing but showering affections and giving your atmost care on them
next is parents should be a role model in everything which is sure to command respect from children.