My boyfriend and I are celebrating our two year anniversary next month. Now, we won't be getting married for a while yet (need to graduate college and become financially stable first), but I am a girl, and it is fun to think about.
One thing I know is that we don't want a wedding with any specific religious affiliation. He's an Atheist, I'm an Agnostic/Buddhist, and though I suspect some of my more Christian relatives might raise a stink, I don't want a Christian ceremony. I was thinking it might be cool to do something like a traditional Celtic handfasting to honor my heritage (Irish and Scottish), though we'd have to do something to honor the boy's heritage as well (he's Taiwanese and Italian)...
What do you think? Fun idea for a non-religious wedding?
2007-09-25 01:51:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Lucid Interrogator, mostly I just want a big party with all my friends and to get to wear a pretty dress and eat cake. :3 The tax benefits would be nice too.
2007-09-25 01:59:02 · update #1
Kittybur, I totally want bagpipes! :D You're not too far off about the food, my boyfriend's dad makes an amazing pasta sauce, while his mom makes these pot stickers that, I swear, are heaven in bite sized form. Yummmm....
2007-09-25 02:06:55 · update #2
The best wedding's I have been too have been non-religious, but I could be biased because I'm an agnostic too. I would do whatever it is that the two of you want and not worry about family. This is YOUR day, not theirs.
2007-09-25 01:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Militant Agnostic 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
boy i bet you guys have some interesting discussions when you get together! LOL
the most unusual wedding i've ever seen was actually all done in goth. LOL...the girls had black dresses on of course and the guys had on the big chain filled pants...
i think your combined heritage is really cool. maybe you can find some bagpipe music to help you down the aisle instead of the wedding march! when i think of italians, i'm sorry if this sounds like a stereotype, the first thing i think of is the food! i'm sure you guys could do some research and find great italian things for either a dinner or reception.
as far as what the family thinks, look at it this way. if the Christian side has a problem, remind them that at least you are going to marry this man! many people that are not Christian choose not to marry but to live together. if they don't like the ceremony its totally yours and its going to be totally unique to yours and yours truly's tastes. have fun and take as much time as you need to plan it out!
2007-09-25 02:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Kitty Katt 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only taiwanese tradition I know about are the 12 gifts and the red wedding invitations. I've been to a lot of italian weddings, and they were all catholic weddings so I'm no help, I'm afraid.
Congratulations!!! I'm sure it'll be a wonderful ceremony and celebration.
2007-09-25 01:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you can find someone who's licensed to perform a wedding in your area, and who will agree to perform the ceremony, great - go for it.
But if you can't, then you may have to get married by a judge or Justice of the Peace, and then have a ceremonial handfasting.
2007-09-25 01:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best non-religious wedding I've been to was on the beach. It was simple and fun.
The Irish/Scottish thing might be a fun angle, but I suspect there's a lot to arrange for those.
2007-09-25 01:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who is half Cantonese, half Italian...
A very strange combination, by the way.
But honestly.... I'd recommend only bothering with marriage if you're in it for the tax benefits. On the whole, the process is a bloody expensive and silly one (I have been married and divorced, for the record).... and if you must go through with it at all then I recommend a registry office.
For what it is worth though.... when I got married.... it was officialised by a Rabbi .... and the process wasn't really religious at all.
2007-09-25 01:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lucid Interrogator 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Bismillahi Al Rahman Al Raheem,
Ouzibillahi mina shytan Al Rajeem.
Interesting?
2007-09-25 08:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get to gether in a perfect location wear you can sit and talk with the guests very freely and comfertably. just food and comfertable sitting relaxed area...try to invite some best cooks and let them perform infront of the crowed..if you are a buddhist it will be hard to mix meat to your wedding, but there are ways to cook meat without showing the meat meat..I don't know how to explain it in english.. add drinks to late in the evening...some candle lights and lot of candles to make it a dream setting.... lf it is in a beach make sure to cover the candles with glass ... also white chinese lanters will give the wedding some picture perfect.. take the round ones in bamboo and rice paper..make sure the wind will not let them burn if you are using candles..or use electricity .. But finally..the most important thing in wedded life is..
be partners forever.. don't take it too serious.
good luck :)
2007-09-25 07:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Caribbean islands
2007-09-26 16:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your tradition sounds great the trouble is his tradition. Is there any secular tradition that he has which could be used in the wedding?
2007-09-25 01:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Imagine No Religion 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋