What if no christian girls want to be with him, and the man is just tired of being alone, and lusting women, while he sits around at home? Could he just have sex with a non christian girlfriend, who he loves? Hell! Christian women aren't doing their jobs according to the bible (I know someone is going to throw up some loose interpretation as always). But if you believe one part, you're supposed to believe it all. They are caught up trying to be something great a lot of times in the church, especially if they have looks. It's harder to get a christian girl, because every guy wants her almost, cause there aren't as many in one congregation. She has her full pick, even more so than an attractive girl that isn't a christian. It's quite irritating. It seems better for a lonely christian man to find himself a beautiful woman in the world, that wants to love him, and satisfy each other physically, than to wait for some church girl to choose him.
2007-09-25 01:38:54 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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I spent much time trying to walk it out. I really wanted a christian woman, that would just be a friend, but they judge everything, and they expect way too much from a man, but are not willing to offer much in return. I didn't believe in the sex thing, but after much waiting around for "the one" who I thought was from God, and being rejected for 6 years, I find that non christian women are more kind to me. And I wouldn't even mind having sex at this point; in fact (contrary to bible), I just sat around burning with lust in the flesh for 11 years. Did the lust ever go away when I prayed...NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So, why not? The bible says, "Let each man have his own wife..." It says, "It is better to marry than to burn with lust..." So, why not? If I'm just going to sit around and burn with lust and lonliness, while I wait for another 11 years, forget it!
2007-09-25 01:52:09 · update #1
If you are indeed a Christian, I will remind you that we have a good God. The fact that you are a believer is not the result of you choosing a religion, but is the result of the Almighty God of the universe choosing you. If you are a true believer, then you know exactly what I'm talking about. That being said, I want to encourage you to trust God with this matter. He loves you and has good things in store for you, but you are on the brink of taking matters into your own hands, and you don't realize how much danger you are in. The Bible says that God is not mocked, and what ever a man sows, he will also reap. Listen little brother, you will reap more than you ever bargained for if you settle for a woman of the world. Worldly women are not attracted to Christian guys, and if they do happen to latch onto one, it will be because he is reflecting the world more than he is reflecting Christ. The two of you will end up pulling in opposite directions, and you will eventually have your heart ripped out. Suppose this girl gets pregnant and brings children into this world. How will you raise your kids? Are you going to teach them Christian values, or Athiestic and worldly values. You have no idea what kind of heartache awaits you as you see how your bad decision snowballs into an enormous complicted mess. You will never be free from the consequences of your willful choice to disobey God and to leap headlong into sin. As the years unfold, the never ending effects of your decision will continually haunt you in ways that you never expect. The scriptures are full of such examples. Draw close to your savior, and he will draw close to you. Listen to the Holy Spirit, and listen to wisdom my young friend.
2007-09-25 02:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem like you will never find the love of your life in church, or other Christian organizations.
Truthfully you may meet them through friends, or at work, or some other way you never conceived of.
I would recommend waiting for the right Christian lady to come along anyway.
It may feel very lonely and depressing now, very difficult place to be really.... in the dark valley... yet it is much more rewarding to have exactly what you dreamed of instead of settling for 2nd best.
If you are only looking for a girl that will satisfy you physically, then I suggest you reevaluate your priorities.
Sex is a very important part of a married relationship, but since you are a single man it seems like you might want to focus more on inward beauty and allow external beauty to follow.
You will be much happier in the end I guarantee.
2007-09-25 08:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by bravokardia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confusing question to say the least. First of all sex was created for one man and one woman who are married. Period! There are no exceptions.
Christian women and men are to be about the father's business not their own. If you want a woman of God then you will have to know the God of that woman.
If sex is the main agenda then you have a tough row to hoe. If you think finding a woman of the world to have your sexual fantasies with is going to make things better you should think again.
All that would do is ruin your witness in Christ Jesus and cause you to bow your knee to Satan. You choose!
2007-09-25 08:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 answers:
The Bible says : ( Apostle Paul speaking )
"It is better to marry than to burn .." so its ok to hav sex w/a wife
( burn means "lust " or "hav the hots for " )
#2:
: " Wives obey and love your husband as Christ loved the church...".. / so yes the wife should keep their man satisfied.
This scripture means - women should follow a husbands lead - if he is leading her right ' but she's not obligated to obey a jerk' or non-righteous dude.
# 3: when a man marry a woman the two become one flesh, therefore wives do not deny your husband, husband deny not thy wife, "
means: as one flesh (aol keyword: flesh ) you can not control your body -coz it is a 2 part body and must be shared..as agreed with 2 parts ( the him and her part )
hubby and wifey must agree to have sex and agree to not have it..there can be no split decision.
in short: NO ! a Christian man isnt suppossed to lust and waste time chasing sex..his focus on on God ' and righteousness - the sex and a good woman will come along when the time is right/...seek ye first the kingdom of heaven and all "these things " shall be added.. ( comes later )
WARNING: be cautious of the suggestions.... do it' (sex ) and ask forgiveness.... dont play games with God..
if you know its wrong - dont do it !! forgivness is for people who didnt know the truth - or for those who made mistakes..not someone who did wrong on purpose and try to "pimp" God..by asking forgivness for something they intended to do wrong in the first place.
would u kill on purpose and ask forgivness ? do u think God is a punk' who can be played with like that ?
2007-09-25 08:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by billybadazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I remember is that if you can not control your lust you are to marry a woman, it doesn't say she has to be a christian. Basically what your wanting is someones permission to have premarital sex. If you love your girlfriend marry her, then you can have all the sex you want, but it's not going to be pretty when you start raising a family with a nonchristian girl. Stop being a crybaby and keep it in your pants.
2007-09-25 08:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by L H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um, wanna talk about loose interpretations of the Bible? It doesn't say anywhere that a Christian man can only have sex with Christian women. It says that sex should only be IN MARRIAGE. So I guess those Christian women who aren't having sex with you ARE doing their jobs because you aren't married to any of them!
2007-09-25 08:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're Christian with deep moral and ethical principals then you will wait. If you're tired of being alone, as I was, then date someone who may convert to Christianity. It's not wrong to try to meet someone and fall in love with them whether or not they share your religion. If you're responsible and you have safe sex before marriage then it's a sin you will pray about and repent from. No human is perfect. Life isn't perfect. I'm still waiting for my fiance to get baptized before we get married. Things don't always go as we plan.
2007-09-25 14:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by compendious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to check your Christianity. Your supposed to be doing the work of God, not lusting for the physical lust of the flesh and devil. Everything else will fall in it's place at the time for it to fall into it's place. Stop worrying about physical attraction and worry about your work for God, and God will bless you with a wife in the right time.
2007-09-25 08:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, we are human too, and not God on earth, right? So, if the right gal comes along, befriend and move along forward from there. Its normal for couple to convert to Christian life later, right ? But, do pray hard and let God guide you to the right path always, will you ? Cos , do not want you to fall prey to Devon or worst ; Satan in human disguise . Best wishes
2007-09-25 12:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Capger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes why not.....a chriatian man can have sex with a non christian gal
cz i dont think that there is a rule in world that a christian man should have sex wit only a christian gal
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it depends on the man as to what he wants to do....its upto him wether he would wait 4 a christian gal or go ahead n fulfill his love n wishes with a non christian gal whom he loves
2007-09-25 08:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by tazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋