i have bpd, but i feel there is people out there rubbishing my character, defaming me, making me look bad,?

Question

causing me to be socially ostracized, porttraying me as a sociopath to others so ultimatly everyone will outcast me.
this bothers me very much, as i want to be liked and loved and be happy, i want to get over my illness.

what can i do about these people portraying me like that, getting people to percieve me as a weird sociopath that no one should associate with?

Answer 1

I also have BPD. Its not an easy thing to live with, or to come to terms with :)
BPD is one personality disorder that hasn't had alot of study put into, so alot of people don't understand it.

Well for one thing, what are you doing around them to make them say that? I'm not saying your in the wrong but simply telling a new friend "i'm BPD" some take it as "oh she's pyshco" and will go out of they way to tarnish you for it.

The only thing you can do is to have your guard up, if you notice it getting out of hand don't let them see it. Don't tell them anything about yourself personally.Obviously since their using it as ammo against you, which is wrong. If YOU are comfortably with yourself and they want to make you seem crazy for it, then you don't need them at all.

Don't let them in, your vulnerable right now and they know that. Also remember this, if anyone is stupid enough to believe "gossip" about you and not even give you their OWN chance as your friend then you don't need them. People that don't believe the "gossip" and still are your friends are the only ones you should care about :)

i know this because my lil sister did the exact thing to me. I became the "crazy older sister", but once they got to know me, they saw I wasn't like she was saying at all. She did it just because she wanted attention, and using my illness as attention was wrong. She lost alot of friends, and I gained alot, simply because I didn't play her game. If they wanted to be my friend then cool, come talk to me. I didn't care if they liked me or not and you shouldn't either :)

Answer 2

Obviously these people no nothing about this. You can research BPD and it will help you to tell these people more about it. When people dont understand something they can lash out or say mean things. BPD you are born with and will probably never go away but you can live a normal life. Many well known people have this but you would have never known it. Knowledge is the best in this situation. The more you know the better it is for you. There are some people out there that are very uncontrollable with BPD because they refuse to seek the help they really need and it is these people that give BPD a bad name..

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Answer 3

If you are being accused of having psychiatric conditions you don't feel you have then you should seek to get an expert in that condition to assess you. An expert is not the same as a psychiatrist, as such. I mean they are psychiatrist but they usually have more of an expertize in certain conditions - they are people that are used by courts and such to trash the evidence of doctors who's diagnoses, treatments etc are being challenged. A doctor can diagnose you with anything he likes. Unfortunately it's called his right to his clinical judgment and opinion. The only way to stop any negative effective on you from that opinion is to either get another doctor or sue the one who you feel wrongly diagnosed you!

Answer 4

We all want love and happiness. What is your definition of love? What about your definition of happiness?-- Because I found that my views of the two were really unrealistic....patterned off (swear to God)-- TV . It makes me chuckle 'cuz I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one. Anyway,when I revised my definitions of the two-- and it took years,well that's when I developed more realistic expectations about what love and happiness actually is. I found firstly that I had to love myself....not easy and your challenge is greater with bpd--....then I had to stop worrying about what I thought other people might be saying about me --good bad or indifferent.They were not coming up and saying things directly to me so it was really my thoughts of what they MIGHT be thinking.

Answer 5

No one is doing this to you...first, you would have to prove it..and second, if they were doing this, you would also have to prove damages..if someone on the airways, for instance, said this about you, and used your name, and you can prove that, you have a law suit..but in the meantime, if you are just pondering this...stop putting personal information out there where it can be used against you...from someone who learned the hard way. People love to spread gossip, it's the American way

Answer 6

Listen up, Sand Spook, we've all told you where you have to start! You are throwing away the precious days of your life in paranoid lamentations, and in your case every passing minute is one that you could be using to become all of those things you say you want to be. You DO want them, don't you?

Qui veut la fin, veut les moyens!
(If you want something, you must want the things you need to do to achieve it...)