my boss yelled too much?

Question

yesterday my boss was really nasty...hes in mexico at the moment and he was furious and it seems he wanted to let it all out to me....he was very offensive....i felt pretty offended....i dont wanna leave the job...as im off university so i cant find another.....but......what can I do? the worst is that it was not my fault.....it was someones else....

Answer 1

I can definietly relate to this situation.
But not with my boss...with my father that is.
He would come home from work and then all of a sudden. -BAM- he would just start getting grumpy, and he would yell at me for no paticular reasons.

I try to believe that it's because of all the stress and stuff. But I find it hard to believe that because I'm just so annoyed. And when you're really annoyed your temper will just rise even more.

I think you should do something about it. Maybe talk to him about it. Calmly that is. Perhaps you should give him a coffee or something. Then tell him. Don't explode or anything. Just have a small sit-down chit chat. And if he starts going ballistic, try not to be angry by how he acts. Tell him you were only being honest in how you felt. And that you'll talk to him when he cools down.

I hope that helps.

Answer 2

Eric... you should consider this.....
Bullying at work is a form of workplace violence. By implementing sound strategies, and ensuring all employees are on the same page, employers and workers alike can reduce the risk and make work a safer place to be.

Knowing your company's policies is paramount to dealing with a bully boss. Make sure you document behaviours, dates, times, and witnesses, so that you have accurate information to report. Talk to your health and safety representative, union steward, or to the person who supervises your boss. Let's face it, in a perfect world, the buck would stop there; however, the truth is that very often, complaints against bully bosses go unheard or unaddressed. It is also true, that others who privately say they will back you up, will often back out when the poop hits the fan, leaving you in the lurch without viable witnesses. Then, it is your word against the boss. (Again, this is why documentation is so valuable.)

Should you end up in a situation where you have tried all avenues and the boss is still allowed to continue with the offending behaviours, you may have to take matters into your own hands. Here are some suggestions that may prove helpful.
* Call the boss on his/her behaviour. If the bullying you are encountering comes across in the form of veiled threats, use negative inquiry. Example: "Are you saying that if I don't improve on my performance that you are going to fire me?" By bringing the threat out into the open, the boss now has to own it, rather than hide behind it. Remember that manipulation only works as long as you don't realize you're being manipulated! Bring any such tactics out in the open, and don't be surprised if the bully starts backpedaling big-time.
* Be clear about what behaviour is making you uncomfortable, and indicate what works for you
* Do your job to the best of your ability. If you are struggling, ask for help from the others on your team. If it comes down to the word of the boss against yours, your work will speak for itself. Better to have a solid performance record than a weak one.
* Start looking for another job. Unfortunately there are plenty of lousy bosses out there, but there are lots of great employers too. Before you get to the point at which you have lost every last shred of your self esteem, prime your resume, and get back in the job search saddle. No one says you have to put up with continued abuse from a workplace bully - especially if that bully has authority over you. Take control of your own destiny, and get out before it's too late.

Answer 3

How you should proceed depends on what he said to you. Was he mean to you personally or was he just looking to vent at someone?
I work in a call centre and quite often I'll pick up a call and get a mouthful from some faceless person and he/she will rant and rave but it's water off a duck's back as it isn't aimed at me personally.
If on the other hand he was abusing you, ie calling you an idiot, stupid, fat, ugly, or something similar, then this is not fair and you should expect a heartfelt apology at the very least. Is there someone in higher authority than him who you can complain to? No one goes to work to be screamed at, it's not fair. If he is victimising you then go to your union if you have one.
If this is a regular occurrence and he bullies you, you might have a case for constructive dismissal.

Answer 4

if he is away and you can email him then you are in a good position. I.e. you can let him know the facts and that you are dismayed by his behaviour towards yourself,without him being able to interrupt and continue with the bullying. Sadly it sounds as if you have a bully for a boss and men like that take a certain pride in being able to upset others...you should hang on to any evidence of his bad behaviour that you can get hold of just in case you need it for a tribunal sometime. For now, I would go with the email but not in an angry style and start looking out for another job because your studies are going to suffer if you have to put up with this kind of crap at work!

Answer 5

There is no call for a person to be yelled at, especially at work. When he comes in ask to speak with him. I'd simply let him know that the way he spoke to you yesterday bothered you very much and it was undeserving as the situation was not your doing. I honestly feel that you are going to have to let him know that you won't take that kind of behavior from him or else it will probably continue and could get worse. No one, and I mean no one should ever be treated like that in the work place! Start beefing up your resume' this week. Good Luck to you.

Answer 6

Hello, He shouted from Mexico and you heard him man what a gob he must have, tell him you will shove a pepper up his backside and he will have to chilli it out. Can't is not a word it's an excuse, Next time he shouts put the phone down or give it to someone else saying you are to busy to talk. (you have just met life in the real world.)

Answer 7

give him a few days to calm down, i know it was not fair you being blamed but you dont know what may have happened him before he called you, he may have been shouted at by someone else and taken it out on you. when he comes back just say to him that you are sorry but the problem had nothing to do with you, oh and just remember you always take your moods out on those closest to you so maybe you could take it as a compliment once you get over being offended!! take care

Answer 8

Depending on the company you work for and it's employment relations policy you might be able to remind him of it. Unfortunately, most ppl have to bear it, keep working until they find better employment.

To many assholic bosses out there that's for sure who either have poor social work skills, forgot where they came from, were promoted because he/she was an office bully.

It's not your fault for his verbal abuse .

Answer 9

Good, he is in Mexico, perfect time to send out your resume, check out employment opportunities over the internet - get busy!

He is an abusive PIG with no management skills. He yells because he is impotent and incompetent.

Hot-foot it outta there!

Answer 10

Tell him about it. Say that he offended you and you didn't deserve it, especially since it wasn't you who was at fault. Tell him that you do not want to leave your job, but as a human being, you deserve just as much respect as anyone else, and if he is not going to give it to you, you will simply go somewhere else. I'm sure it will get his attention and he will start treating you better.