To any adoptive parents who don't believe that adoptees have any rights being violated....?

Question

I'm curious if they grew up and felt they had rights being violated, would you stand by them and support adoptee rights activism?

would you protest sealed records with them?
would you protest ethical treatment of infants with them?
why? or why not?

Sorry if thats too vague, I mean the adoptee, when your adopted child grows up, if they become advocates for the unsealing of records, etc. would you support them.

Qcumber - good try. My first parents DO love me, and they always have, i should know, I talk to them weekly.

Answer 1

If you mean that I as an adoptee grew up and adopted kids myself, then yes, I would support them if that is what they wanted. My daughter is my biological daughter but she feels, because of my past and the hardship I went thru to which she was affected, that adoptees rights and adoption laws should change. If in a few years (she is 16 now) she wants to get involved in adoptee rights, then I will help her however I can with whatever she wants to do.

Answer 2

What do you mean by ethical treatment of infants? I would not protest sealed records, but I think that all pertinent medical history should be collected at the time the child is given for adoption and be available to the adopted parents and the child once he/she is an adult.
I understand the desires of some adopted children to know/locate birth parents. The curiosity to know where your people came from is normal. However, the circumstances of the adoption may be too painful for the parents to want to dredge up after many years and so their privacy has to be respected and preserved. Therefore, no opening of adoption files should be allowed unless the birth parents agree. If adoption records were not sealed, then people may be deterred from putting up a child for adoption and may opt for less positive solutions to an unwanted pregnancy. The many websites that exist now to help birth parents and their children find one another is a wonderful tool for those willing to be found and is the best way to circumvent the closed adoption files. But those who do not want to be found should be able to rely on their files staying closed. The adoptee will have to accept that not all questions in life are answered or should be answered and to make the best of the life they have been given. Ignorance is bliss, 'tis folly to be wise, it's often said. And there are many non-adopted kids out there who wish they did not know their undesirable parents.

Answer 3

I would never protest ethical treatment of infants, and I can't imagine who would. I can imagine people disagreeing about what constituted ethical treatment, but how you could consider something to be ethical and still be against it baffles me.

Answer 4

I'd stand buy my children. If they are passionate about something (not harmful) they I will be there for them. I have NO right to stop him from doing something like finding his b-parents. It's not for me to say. I feel VERY blessed that we know his b-parents and live only 5 miles away. Right now they don't want any contact, but I make sure that they have my info and when Bub is ready then hell know where that they're just right there. I also know that even if they aren't ready, that they'll always welcome him (when he, on his own wants to contact them).

Answer 5

I would support the opening of the records when my child turns 18 if, and only if, the birth mom wanted me to. She has rights too.

What do you mean by ethical treatment of infants? You need to clarify that before I can weigh in.

Answer 6

you are so lucky your biological parents love you well mine didn't really care i dont' care either i had good people bring me up but yes i do advocate sealed records be given to us adoptees. take care.

Answer 7

I will always support my children. As long as they are being good human beings, I will always be there to support them.

I think records should only be sealed until the child's 18th birthday. If for no other reason than to protect them from the birth mother hunting them down and messing with their head. I'm not sure what to do about multiple children from the same birth mother.

What do you mean by ethical treatment of infants? I guess I'm unaware of anything unethical that happens to infants that are placed up for adoption.

As to the why, I love my son, and will love all of my future children, biological or adopted, the same. They will all be my children, and I will be their mother, and to me that is a good enough reason to support any good cause that they may have. As long as they aren't hurting anyone, then I will support them.

Answer 8

I'm curious too how selfish do people get! I was adopted as a child and my file was left open because i alway felt an unknown???????? Where what when

My birthmother found me about a year ago and she is lovely, but i had the best parents in the world, whom i love and would do anything for!

But she still give a air to breath and the hope of life with the parents that could not have kids.

So why don't you let the parents have a hope of one day of seeing the child that they gave up to help another the most self less thing a person could do.

I am proud of being adopted as a baby and i am poud of my birthmother giving me up (WHAT A WOMEN) she gave to loving people a million dollars which was me.

you need to see it from both side not just yours

Answer 9

I'd stand by my adopted child. I know I'd want to know who my family was. I'd want to se if it was because of financial reasons or if the mom was too young... or just to know, in case I need a doner for bone marrow or something, who my biological family really is.

Answer 10

okay can I just say it really scares me (but doesn't surprise me) when attorney in Florida, of all adopto-hell states says:


"What do you mean ethical treatment of infants"